Anonymous wrote:If Amy is senior to Alton, I don't see why she can't just say "No. My bosses have instructed me to invite these folks directly." The end.

This. I’m not sure why it’s going any further. “Bob asked me to invite Joe to this meeting. If you have an issue with that, please take it up with Bob.”

If Amy is senior to Alton, I don't see why she can't just say "No. My bosses have instructed me to invite these folks directly." The end.

Amy sends the invites and ccs Alton for awareness. She explains to Alton that her bosses are asking her to invite specific folks directly. If *they* object to receiving the emails, they can take it up with Amy's boss.

Anonymous wrote:Work this through leadership, Amy.

Amy needs to work on how she communicates first.

Work this through leadership, Amy.

Amy should send the invites as directed by her boss. If Amy missed anyone that Alton or his boss think should be added, Alton should forward the invite to those people. If any of the people on Alton's team don't want to or can't attend the meeting, they will decline the invite. Done.

So....just send the list? For the life of me I cannot understand why this is being made into anything. If it makes Alton feel more important than he is or his leaders are just a PITA, what does it matter? I would send the invite list and then 20 min later send out the invites.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. All projects are executed from Amy’s department which is why she sends invitations out for all projects led by her department’s team. Alton’s department is requesting the work for their department. Her leadership wants the individuals on each invitation because they are interacting with them in 1:1 meetings.

Alton, does not want the his leaders added even though Amy’s leaders are requesting they be added.

This still makes no sense. You're terrible at communicating and I'm guessing that's why there are some issues. So Alton wants Amy to send him the invitations so he can send them out to his leaders instead of Amy doing it? Is that the whole problem? If they are attending the meeting, obviously they need to be invited to it. Or are they being invited even though they aren't attending and Alton wants you to stop flooding their inbox with unnecessary invites? If the issue is literally that he wants to send the invites to his own team leaders, good God this is like high school behavior. Just let him send them and be done with this ridiculous drama.

Neither. Amy’s department is the execution team and sends the invitations. That is why Amy must send them. Alton wants to review who Amy’s list of attendees is before meeting invitations are sent because his management heads are invited along with him. Amy’s list is determined by her leadership who are higher in seniority to Alton’s and are in direct communication with his leadership members who are being invited.

Neither Amy nor Alton are in the cross divisional 1:1 meetings between divisional leadership.

Amy’s leaders who are direct to the CEO will say “Joe needs to be there, we’ve been discussing this in our 1:1”

Alton: Before you add Joe and send the invitations let me see the list of who is being requested to join

Joe is Alton’s direct manager. All are lower in the office hierarchy than Amy’s leadership.

Equivalent would be SVP level who report to CEO (Amy’s Team) requesting the Senior Manager and Director (Alton’s team) to join.