Anonymous
Post 05/27/2025 10:36     Subject: Fraternity leadership
Anonymous wrote:Thanks all. It’s a T20 private.

Lots of rules and regs at school. The house doesn’t have a recent record of infractions with the university (I checked online). Leadership training this summer. So much happened so quickly. We contacted our insurance provider - waiting to hear back if we can add on to policy?

Alumni (from various investment banks who are former chapter presidents/leaders of that house) across decades (!!) have already reached out to him with guidance and congratulations/offers of support. All a bit strange tbh.

Will let you know what insurance says.


Are you just super nerdy and anti-social? I cannot fathom this kind of reaction to this. There is nothing wrong with this. This is a good thing. My son was on the board of his fraternity for three years. Beyond knowing that fact, I paid absolutely no other amount of attention to it--his decision and one he felt good about. I don't even think he'll get any networking or other benefits out of it--just something he enjoyed throughout a very few stressful college years. Your reaction is just completely off base.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2025 10:15     Subject: Fraternity leadership
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not sure what there is to do about it, he's an adult, he made his own decision of which he is proud of and excited about.

You have two choices, you can support his choice and be happy for him or you can continue to harp on the negatives and sour something he was proud of accomplishing.

The truth is thousands of kids a year are fraternity presidents or on the board. the % of your worries are infinitesimal.


This is definitely true. How can one check to see if they have good risk management processes in place? Is that overkill? Thinking ahead for my own kid.


Each fraternity has a risk management chair- it’s an elected position, same as president. They are the ones responsible for the parties, safety, and such- with the president’s oversight
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2025 10:14     Subject: Fraternity leadership
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not sure what there is to do about it, he's an adult, he made his own decision of which he is proud of and excited about.

You have two choices, you can support his choice and be happy for him or you can continue to harp on the negatives and sour something he was proud of accomplishing.

The truth is thousands of kids a year are fraternity presidents or on the board. the % of your worries are infinitesimal.


And your 1 in a thousand risk is an 8 figure claim against the parents liability policy or worse their personal assets.


Assuming he is over 18, why would the parents’ liability policy or assets be involved at all?


Well…the liability policy probably comes into play because it covers your kid.

Same thing if your kid causes a car accident at 18…unless he has his own auto policy, he is covered under your policy.

Assets is a different matter…and I agree with your comment.


He is only covered under your auto policy if he is listed as an insured driver under your policy. But once your adult kid is no longer living in your household, I don’t see why he would be covered under your umbrella policy. He is an adult, unless his name is specifically listed under your umbrella policy, he isn’t covered.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2025 09:42     Subject: Fraternity leadership
Anonymous wrote:Not sure what there is to do about it, he's an adult, he made his own decision of which he is proud of and excited about.

You have two choices, you can support his choice and be happy for him or you can continue to harp on the negatives and sour something he was proud of accomplishing.

The truth is thousands of kids a year are fraternity presidents or on the board. the % of your worries are infinitesimal.


This is definitely true. How can one check to see if they have good risk management processes in place? Is that overkill? Thinking ahead for my own kid.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2025 09:18     Subject: Fraternity leadership
Thanks all. It’s a T20 private.

Lots of rules and regs at school. The house doesn’t have a recent record of infractions with the university (I checked online). Leadership training this summer. So much happened so quickly. We contacted our insurance provider - waiting to hear back if we can add on to policy?

Alumni (from various investment banks who are former chapter presidents/leaders of that house) across decades (!!) have already reached out to him with guidance and congratulations/offers of support. All a bit strange tbh.

Will let you know what insurance says.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2025 08:51     Subject: Fraternity leadership
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DD was president of her national sorority (she's graduated now). OP didn't say if the kid is a son or daughter and IMO there are differences. I was worried about liability, but she was covered under the national policy. It was a lot of work, she learned a lot, but it is a thankless job. She's glad she did it, but was glad when it was over.


Frat = male
Sorority = female


these are the usual terms but I know of at least one that's called a fraternity for women.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2025 08:50     Subject: Fraternity leadership
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not sure what there is to do about it, he's an adult, he made his own decision of which he is proud of and excited about.

You have two choices, you can support his choice and be happy for him or you can continue to harp on the negatives and sour something he was proud of accomplishing.

The truth is thousands of kids a year are fraternity presidents or on the board. the % of your worries are infinitesimal.


And your 1 in a thousand risk is an 8 figure claim against the parents liability policy or worse their personal assets.


Assuming he is over 18, why would the parents’ liability policy or assets be involved at all?


Well…the liability policy probably comes into play because it covers your kid.

Same thing if your kid causes a car accident at 18…unless he has his own auto policy, he is covered under your policy.

Assets is a different matter…and I agree with your comment.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2025 08:47     Subject: Fraternity leadership
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not sure what there is to do about it, he's an adult, he made his own decision of which he is proud of and excited about.

You have two choices, you can support his choice and be happy for him or you can continue to harp on the negatives and sour something he was proud of accomplishing.

The truth is thousands of kids a year are fraternity presidents or on the board. the % of your worries are infinitesimal.


And your 1 in a thousand risk is an 8 figure claim against the parents liability policy or worse their personal assets.


Assuming he is over 18, why would the parents’ liability policy or assets be involved at all?


Exactly. Your child is an ADULT. Cut the cord and let them forge their own path. Micromanaging even the clubs they join/positions they hold in college is next level crazy. Your kids are going to make choices you don't like or agree with, but you had your college experience, time to let them live theirs.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2025 08:35     Subject: Fraternity leadership
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not sure what there is to do about it, he's an adult, he made his own decision of which he is proud of and excited about.

You have two choices, you can support his choice and be happy for him or you can continue to harp on the negatives and sour something he was proud of accomplishing.

The truth is thousands of kids a year are fraternity presidents or on the board. the % of your worries are infinitesimal.


And your 1 in a thousand risk is an 8 figure claim against the parents liability policy or worse their personal assets.


Assuming he is over 18, why would the parents’ liability policy or assets be involved at all?
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2025 08:20     Subject: Fraternity leadership
Anonymous wrote:Not sure what there is to do about it, he's an adult, he made his own decision of which he is proud of and excited about.

You have two choices, you can support his choice and be happy for him or you can continue to harp on the negatives and sour something he was proud of accomplishing.

The truth is thousands of kids a year are fraternity presidents or on the board. the % of your worries are infinitesimal.


And your 1 in a thousand risk is an 8 figure claim against the parents liability policy or worse their personal assets.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2025 08:11     Subject: Fraternity leadership
Not sure what there is to do about it, he's an adult, he made his own decision of which he is proud of and excited about.

You have two choices, you can support his choice and be happy for him or you can continue to harp on the negatives and sour something he was proud of accomplishing.

The truth is thousands of kids a year are fraternity presidents or on the board. the % of your worries are infinitesimal.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2025 08:00     Subject: Fraternity leadership
Anonymous wrote:He’ll be fine; it’s not the 70s or 80s anymore, almost certainly nothing crazy is going to happen.


Terrible take. Just in our area there was a 2023 fraternity death at JMU and a 2021 death at VCU.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2025 07:57     Subject: Fraternity leadership
FYI, the networking won’t matter if President or just a member, so don’t make that issue a driving decision.