Anonymous
Post 05/25/2025 08:35     Subject: Why do you give your DH a second chance?
Honestly monogamy just isn’t that high on my list. I wouldn’t be worked up about infidelity until/unless it threatened my family. I wouldn’t want to know any more about it than I know about his golf or whatever hobby.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2025 08:32     Subject: Why do you give your DH a second chance?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ll get crucified on here probably for being so pathetic and not pro 50/50 but I was very purposeful about wanting a family and raising children. The idea that I lose half their childhood to a cheater is more unpalatable than the alternative.


Not by me. I also wouldn't want my kids associating with a new GF/wife or whomever half the time.


Not by me either. You did the best you could with the choices you were given. I’m sure it wasn’t easy.

- Child of divorce due to affair, wish my parents could have worked it out
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2025 08:20     Subject: Re:Why do you give your DH a second chance?
Anonymous wrote:Any person who would remain married to a person who has lied + betrayed them (basically what is the overall foundation of cheating) is someone who clearly does not recognize their worth as a person.

Those that stay w/cheaters obviously have terrible self-esteem issues and need professional help.


You would be surprised the number of professionals who counsel people to stay. Including general therapists and psychologists. Plus there’s an entire reconciliation industrial complex.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2025 00:47     Subject: Why do you give your DH a second chance?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Most women have terribly low self esteem and a high need to fit in socially which means having a husband for so many woman having a man is paramount doesn't matter how he treats her.


If you lived as a divorced single parent for a bit or as a single woman after age 35 you would know that society treats these women far differently and worse than any married woman.


There is definitely a stigma for divorced single women especially at schools. Other moms don’t trust them or include them.


Do divorced men face the same stigma?
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2025 00:46     Subject: Why do you give your DH a second chance?
Anonymous wrote:My husband tried to stay with his cheating wife as he knew what she was like and would keep the kids from him. She eventually left for the AP and kept the kids from him.


How did she manage to keep the kids away from him?
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2025 00:38     Subject: Why do you give your DH a second chance?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Most women have terribly low self esteem and a high need to fit in socially which means having a husband for so many woman having a man is paramount doesn't matter how he treats her.


If you lived as a divorced single parent for a bit or as a single woman after age 35 you would know that society treats these women far differently and worse than any married woman.


There is definitely a stigma for divorced single women especially at schools. Other moms don’t trust them or include them.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2025 00:34     Subject: Why do you give your DH a second chance?
My husband tried to stay with his cheating wife as he knew what she was like and would keep the kids from him. She eventually left for the AP and kept the kids from him.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2025 00:31     Subject: Re:Why do you give your DH a second chance?
Any person who would remain married to a person who has lied + betrayed them (basically what is the overall foundation of cheating) is someone who clearly does not recognize their worth as a person.

Those that stay w/cheaters obviously have terrible self-esteem issues and need professional help.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2025 18:28     Subject: Why do you give your DH a second chance?
Anonymous wrote:Women who stay are just terrified of ending up alone that's all. They always use the kids as excuses.


Hahahahhaha

I would sign on the line so quickly if H was willing to give me the kids and I’d never have to deal with him again. Most women find that one marriage to a man is more than enough for a lifetime and we can’t wait to have peace and quiet to ourselves.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2025 18:10     Subject: Why do you give your DH a second chance?
Women who stay are just terrified of ending up alone that's all. They always use the kids as excuses.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2025 17:54     Subject: Why do you give your DH a second chance?
Anonymous wrote:Most women have terribly low self esteem and a high need to fit in socially which means having a husband for so many woman having a man is paramount doesn't matter how he treats her.


If you lived as a divorced single parent for a bit or as a single woman after age 35 you would know that society treats these women far differently and worse than any married woman.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2025 17:37     Subject: Why do you give your DH a second chance?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ll get crucified on here probably for being so pathetic and not pro 50/50 but I was very purposeful about wanting a family and raising children. The idea that I lose half their childhood to a cheater is more unpalatable than the alternative.


Not by me. I also wouldn't want my kids associating with a new GF/wife or whomever half the time.


Thank you.

PS marry me?
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2025 17:21     Subject: Why do you give your DH a second chance?
Anonymous wrote:I’ll get crucified on here probably for being so pathetic and not pro 50/50 but I was very purposeful about wanting a family and raising children. The idea that I lose half their childhood to a cheater is more unpalatable than the alternative.


Not by me. I also wouldn't want my kids associating with a new GF/wife or whomever half the time.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2025 15:50     Subject: Why do you give your DH a second chance?
Women prioritize time with their children and don’t want them being raised by skanks. Men will use any excuse to go running off to a newer model, kids be damned.
Anonymous
Post 05/24/2025 14:45     Subject: Why do you give your DH a second chance?
Because women know that men don't cheat emotionally. Men know that women cheat emotionally. They just don't cheat for sex. They pour in massive capital of emotion into the OP so much so that their DH act home notices it.