Anonymous wrote:Consider it the best life lesson ever. He will go on to live a life of integrity.

This. Mine got caught cheating in middle school and I considered myself lucky it happened. Great life lesson.

Consider it the best life lesson ever. He will go on to live a life of integrity.

FYI so much cheating goes on. So much. Your kid was the unlucky one who got caught.

Wow! You should be embarrassed. As for punishment have them do summer school and grounded for the summer.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d require my kid to send a written apology to the teacher, the department, and the principal (as many adults directly involved as I could think of). I’d want them to include acknowledging the impact this mistake had on others, as well as what they were going to do to fix it.

As a parent, I’d try to figure out an alternate assignment that does not require extra work on the teacher’s part that is somehow tied to the class. I’d also pull privileges until it is done completely and to the best of DC’s ability.

I would not debate the school’s consequences, whether they are too harsh or too lenient in your opinion.

Good luck, OP. This is a tough one.

No. This is completely out of line. It is not your job as a parent to tell me how to assess in my class. I would get angry if I received this.

An apology is fine but acknowledging the cheating and accepting consequences is what is needed at this point. You do not need to email the principal and everyone under the sun. -hs teacher

No, you misread my comment. I didn't suggest anything that would be telling the teacher how to assess in their class. I suggested as a parent, I'd figure out something on my own that I'd require my kid to do that was related to the class content. That's between me and my kid, and wouldn't involve the teacher, or even the school.

I also didn't suggest that I would email anyone as the parent. I stated I would require my DC to send a written apology to adults who were directly impacted by their actions. If my kid makes a mistake, I want them to take steps to make amends.

Anonymous wrote:I always told my kids: it's better to give it your best personal effort and get a B (or C, or D), than cheat to try for an A. Had you told your kid that, or did you keep up a relentless pressure for straight As?

Bullshit

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so embarrassed and disappointed. How do I discipline them? What do I do? How will this affect college? Child has 4.05 weighted and a 3.5 unweighted I think. Obviously not going to any top college but still concerned for a state school.

They had an A in the course. As long as they made an A on the final, the final grade would have been an A.

I just don’t understand. I am soo upset. I tried not to yell, but I did. I’m just livid. They said they heard kids talk about it in the hallway. What a stupid decision. Help.

If you live in Virginia, be concerned. Especially about UVA and William and Mary.

Not with a 3.5 unweighted GPA lol. Those are not even in the running at this point.

Not in the tri state thank goodness. Not a huge career focus as well. They want to be a teacher.

Teaching is a tough job. Very honorable, too. (Just FYI: the statement above is a bit condescending. It reads as the child “just” wants to be a teacher.)

If your kid wants to teach, then accepting the school’s consequences is really the best thing. Your child will one day be teaching the next generation about good decisions and the consequences of bad ones.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so embarrassed and disappointed. How do I discipline them? What do I do? How will this affect college? Child has 4.05 weighted and a 3.5 unweighted I think. Obviously not going to any top college but still concerned for a state school.

They had an A in the course. As long as they made an A on the final, the final grade would have been an A.

I just don’t understand. I am soo upset. I tried not to yell, but I did. I’m just livid. They said they heard kids talk about it in the hallway. What a stupid decision. Help.

If you live in Virginia, be concerned. Especially about UVA and William and Mary.

Not with a 3.5 unweighted GPA lol. Those are not even in the running at this point.

Not in the tri state thank goodness. Not a huge career focus as well. They want to be a teacher.

Anonymous wrote:Eh, kids do stupid things. It doesn't mean he'll be a degenerate for life. Just give him disappointed looks and sigh for a couple days then move on.

Thank you!! I really appreciate this!

Anonymous wrote:Mine got caught cheating on a chemistry test in HS. He got a zero and I’m glad he wasn’t suspended. He retook the class in summer school. I had to pay for it and I made him pay me back. Life goes on. He’s in college now.

Thank you for sharing! I appreciate it!

Anonymous wrote:I’d require my kid to send a written apology to the teacher, the department, and the principal (as many adults directly involved as I could think of). I’d want them to include acknowledging the impact this mistake had on others, as well as what they were going to do to fix it.

As a parent, I’d try to figure out an alternate assignment that does not require extra work on the teacher’s part that is somehow tied to the class. I’d also pull privileges until it is done completely and to the best of DC’s ability.

I would not debate the school’s consequences, whether they are too harsh or too lenient in your opinion.

Good luck, OP. This is a tough one.

No. This is completely out of line. It is not your job as a parent to tell me how to assess in my class. I would get angry if I received this.

An apology is fine but acknowledging the cheating and accepting consequences is what is needed at this point. You do not need to email the principal and everyone under the sun. -hs teacher

Also confused about the situation.. did your kid just hear a question in the hallway.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so embarrassed and disappointed. How do I discipline them? What do I do? How will this affect college? Child has 4.05 weighted and a 3.5 unweighted I think. Obviously not going to any top college but still concerned for a state school.

They had an A in the course. As long as they made an A on the final, the final grade would have been an A.

I just don’t understand. I am soo upset. I tried not to yell, but I did. I’m just livid. They said they heard kids talk about it in the hallway. What a stupid decision. Help.

If you live in Virginia, be concerned. Especially about UVA and William and Mary.

Not with a 3.5 unweighted GPA lol. Those are not even in the running at this point.

Anonymous wrote:I always told my kids: it's better to give it your best personal effort and get a B (or C, or D), than cheat to try for an A. Had you told your kid that, or did you keep up a relentless pressure for straight As?

Mine cheated for the reason many kids cheat. They are backed into a corner and if they don't pass, they'll fail the course.

Anonymous wrote:These answers are crazy. Is this public school? If so, no one cares. Not teachers, not admin. Most likely it won’t go on his record. Have your son approach the teacher and ask what they can do. Take it over? Accept a failing grade? Alternative test? Allow the school to discipline according. Again, doubt they will.

In some private schools, it's grounds for expulsion and/or adding a note on the transcript that goes to colleges - and colleges DO care about that. So yes, it can be a huge deal.