We do not serve or buy alcohol for our kid's friends, but at home, we allow our senior to try wine, champagne, etc at family holidays and celebrations. We also allow them a Pina colada on vacation. We live in nyc where hs kids do go out and drink. I dont like it, but its the reality. Thankfully, kids dont drive here. We have had many conversations about alcohol and safety, trying to help them understand risky behavior, moderation, peer pressure, reasons why people drink, etc. We don't glamorize alcohol and they have seen friends get sick which has been a good life and safety lesson. From what i understand, Most of the dangerous binge drinking happens when kids are at some kid's home vs out at a bar/restaurant. Many parents turn a blind eye. My kid knows my concerns. I want them to have facts so they can make informed and smart choices when with friends and as they approach college next fall. I also want to maintain open communication so they know they can always come to me for help.

Just curious for everyone keeping their kids dry....what exactly do you expect will happen when they are exposed to unlimited alcohol during the first few nights they are at college and for the entire freshman and sophomore years before they turn legal?

Anonymous wrote:We don't serve alcohol to minors but know parents who do. Also it seems common here in the DMV for older teens to have fake IDs and go to bars with their parents knowledge. These are kids from UMC and MC families.

You will have to be more specific than "DMV," because I don't think it is as common as you think it is.

None. How is this even a question?

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Anonymous wrote:We don't serve alcohol to minors but know parents who do. Also it seems common here in the DMV for older teens to have fake IDs and go to bars with their parents knowledge. These are kids from UMC and MC families.

Good luck explaining to the admission officer why Larlo got arrested for a fake ID over the summer.

I know, that's why I'm shocked that many parents seem okay with it. Not uncommon for older teens to go to UMD bars.

Anonymous wrote:We don't serve alcohol to minors but know parents who do. Also it seems common here in the DMV for older teens to have fake IDs and go to bars with their parents knowledge. These are kids from UMC and MC families.

Good luck explaining to the admission officer why Larlo got arrested for a fake ID over the summer.

We don't serve alcohol to minors but know parents who do. Also it seems common here in the DMV for older teens to have fake IDs and go to bars with their parents knowledge. These are kids from UMC and MC families.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids aren't even in high school yet, but every grad party I've been to for my friends' kids had copious amount of alcohol. The kids were playing beer pong, the girls were sipping Veuve and high noons. I started drinking freshman year of high school, so I don't find this odd, but it would make me nervous as a parent from a liability standpoint.

Wow. Prom pre parties and grad parties were dry for anyone under 21 in our crowd.

+100

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Anonymous wrote:If your DC is headed off to college this fall, how much drinking will you allow at high school graduation parties and over the summer? DC says it’s common for parents to provide alcohol at parties and beach week. Is that true? It seems very unsafe for kids to be drinking before they get to college.

Omg are you an idiot?

Who believes this ?

It is against the law. Your kid lied to you or they have really crappy friends parents

Yes kids of course drink but only idiot parents provide alcohol Liability!,,, good parents provide condoms and make sure daughters are on BC

Beach week is an alcohol fest however if you are the parent buying it you suck.

Yes they get it anyway yes they drink yes they get sick yes girls and boys have sex

If you chose to allow your kid to have it at graduation parties it’s still against the law . If you provide it at graduation parties you are libel if someone gets hurt leaves your house drunk. Are these laws enforced sometimes civilly you could lose your home

Teach your kid to be a responsible adult

Should males also have a vasectomy?

Anonymous wrote:If your DC is headed off to college this fall, how much drinking will you allow at high school graduation parties and over the summer? DC says it’s common for parents to provide alcohol at parties and beach week. Is that true? It seems very unsafe for kids to be drinking before they get to college.

Omg are you an idiot?

Who believes this ?

It is against the law. Your kid lied to you or they have really crappy friends parents

Yes kids of course drink but only idiot parents provide alcohol Liability!,,, good parents provide condoms and make sure daughters are on BC

Beach week is an alcohol fest however if you are the parent buying it you suck.

Yes they get it anyway yes they drink yes they get sick yes girls and boys have sex

If you chose to allow your kid to have it at graduation parties it’s still against the law . If you provide it at graduation parties you are libel if someone gets hurt leaves your house drunk. Are these laws enforced sometimes civilly you could lose your home

Teach your kid to be a responsible adult

Anonymous wrote:None. In our family, once you go to college, WHEN YOU COME HOME for visits, you can get a wine glass at extended family dinners. Until then, water glass only. But nobody gets drunk or sneaks, and pre-college kids are never given access and it's been this way for going on three generations now.

This is pretty much how we are. We don't provide it for our kids' friends. We had alcohol at grad parties but warned our kids that it was for 21+ only. They and their friends were compliant, although I knew they had experimented in other settings.

None. In our family, once you go to college, WHEN YOU COME HOME for visits, you can get a wine glass at extended family dinners. Until then, water glass only. But nobody gets drunk or sneaks, and pre-college kids are never given access and it's been this way for going on three generations now.

No way! dd can have some champagne at home with us, or a white claw but I'm not buying it for her friends. Are you kidding?

Hell no. Absolutely not.

No drinking at parties.

Will provide beer this summer so DC can get a sense of what it feels like and how to handle it.