Anonymous
05/20/2025 19:49
Subject: 16 year old developed tic. School offered medical leave.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In my experience, schools are more understanding when you are addressing the problem and trying to fix it. Are you trying to address the tic or are you ignoring it?
Idiotic question. Why would a private school parent spending 60K/year ignore the health problem of their child?
You seem like you are new here. As a veteran of the special needs board, plenty of parents 'ignore health problems' or think they know better than a doctor or BTDT parents. It is a valid question and I think it is the more important question than can my kid be forced into medical leave.
Sudden tics aren't a straightforward medical problem. OP should be looking into PANDAs and I literally do not want to hear one fing word from the poster who posts on every PANDAs thread about how it is fake. Then I have link to Harvard, Stanford and JHU's websites discussing PANDAs.
Parents ignore medical issues ALL THE TIME, even at expensive private schools. In fact, sometimes I think it is worse because the parents think “my special kid can’t have an issue” or “it doesn’t matter - we pay enough that the school can just deal with it.”
I agree with the previous poster. Your response and how you are already working with the school should be very telling.
Anonymous
05/20/2025 17:18
Subject: 16 year old developed tic. School offered medical leave.
I’m sorry. This sounds difficult all around.
Look into PANS/PANDAS if you haven’t. Can develop after strep infection.
Look into PANS/PANDAS if you haven’t. Can develop after strep infection.
Anonymous
05/20/2025 17:12
Subject: 16 year old developed tic. School offered medical leave.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In my experience, schools are more understanding when you are addressing the problem and trying to fix it. Are you trying to address the tic or are you ignoring it?
Idiotic question. Why would a private school parent spending 60K/year ignore the health problem of their child?
You seem like you are new here. As a veteran of the special needs board, plenty of parents 'ignore health problems' or think they know better than a doctor or BTDT parents. It is a valid question and I think it is the more important question than can my kid be forced into medical leave.
Sudden tics aren't a straightforward medical problem. OP should be looking into PANDAs and I literally do not want to hear one fing word from the poster who posts on every PANDAs thread about how it is fake. Then I have link to Harvard, Stanford and JHU's websites discussing PANDAs.
Anonymous
05/20/2025 17:04
Subject: 16 year old developed tic. School offered medical leave.
Anonymous wrote:Looking for advice, all new to us.
16 yr old developed a tic. Makes a noise about every 30 seconds.
School approached us. Offered medial leave. We pressed them on why she couldn’t be in school. They said they did not want her in school as it was disruptive.
Note it’s a private school. If public I know they can’t keep child out. But private I don’t know. Do we have any legal leg to stand on here?
I’m sorry OP, but if I had someone like this in my class when I was a student, there’s no way I could focus and I’d eventually have to leave the room.
Please get her evaluated by a child psychiatrist to see what they can do.
Anonymous
05/20/2025 16:57
Subject: 16 year old developed tic. School offered medical leave.
If she's well enough to take finals do that and take the summer to out what's going on. You don't say how severe the noise is but DD might not want to be there either.
Anonymous
05/20/2025 13:59
Subject: 16 year old developed tic. School offered medical leave.
Anonymous wrote:Looking for advice, all new to us.
16 yr old developed a tic. Makes a noise about every 30 seconds.
School approached us. Offered medial leave. We pressed them on why she couldn’t be in school. They said they did not want her in school as it was disruptive.
Note it’s a private school. If public I know they can’t keep child out. But private I don’t know. Do we have any legal leg to stand on here?
Move to Fusion for school temporarily until her medical issues gets figured out. I'm sorry about the tic disorder but there is great treatment out there. Your legal question is absurd, selfish and brazenly unfair to the rest of the school community.
Anonymous
05/20/2025 13:01
Subject: 16 year old developed tic. School offered medical leave.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:That sucks but I also get it. If I was paying that much for school, I wouldn't want my kid being disrupted by yours.
I hope you have the day you deserve
Why? At least that PP is honest. It’s useful for OP to understand they are about to find out just how warm and inclusive their school community really is, from admins down to their fellow parents. IOW, not.
Apparently, all of you are one tic away from finding out. Scary, huh?
Anonymous
05/20/2025 12:56
Subject: 16 year old developed tic. School offered medical leave.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is she on any medication? My kid developed tics with asthma medicines. They went away when we switched meds. Doctors aren't allowed to say it's the cause, but it was pretty obvious.
What does that mean? Docs can say whatever they think is true.
Yes, and my doc said, the pharma rep denies it and won't let us say it, but it's pretty common ...
Anonymous
05/20/2025 12:53
Subject: 16 year old developed tic. School offered medical leave.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:In my experience, schools are more understanding when you are addressing the problem and trying to fix it. Are you trying to address the tic or are you ignoring it?
Idiotic question. Why would a private school parent spending 60K/year ignore the health problem of their child?
Isn’t that the question families ask parents of kids with learning differences all the time? Why aren’t you fixing your kid? Why aren’t you a good parent like me?
Anonymous
05/20/2025 12:45
Subject: 16 year old developed tic. School offered medical leave.
Anonymous wrote:In my experience, schools are more understanding when you are addressing the problem and trying to fix it. Are you trying to address the tic or are you ignoring it?
Idiotic question. Why would a private school parent spending 60K/year ignore the health problem of their child?
Anonymous
05/20/2025 11:55
Subject: 16 year old developed tic. School offered medical leave.
In my experience, schools are more understanding when you are addressing the problem and trying to fix it. Are you trying to address the tic or are you ignoring it?
Anonymous
05/20/2025 11:51
Subject: 16 year old developed tic. School offered medical leave.
Anonymous wrote:Looking for advice, all new to us.
16 yr old developed a tic. Makes a noise about every 30 seconds.
School approached us. Offered medial leave. We pressed them on why she couldn’t be in school. They said they did not want her in school as it was disruptive.
Note it’s a private school. If public I know they can’t keep child out. But private I don’t know. Do we have any legal leg to stand on here?
OP, either take the medical leave, or consult an actual attorney to see if you have any legal recourse. And be prepared to understand that yes, private can and will keep a child out. Its a feature of how the system works.
Anonymous
05/20/2025 10:51
Subject: 16 year old developed tic. School offered medical leave.
Anonymous wrote:OP it is disruptive to the others in class. Did they offer special ED classes?
Most mainstream privates do not offer special ed or separate classes for students with disruptive or distracting issues.
Anonymous
05/20/2025 10:33
Subject: 16 year old developed tic. School offered medical leave.
OP it is disruptive to the others in class. Did they offer special ED classes?
Anonymous
05/20/2025 09:52
Subject: 16 year old developed tic. School offered medical leave.
Anonymous wrote:Is she on any medication? My kid developed tics with asthma medicines. They went away when we switched meds. Doctors aren't allowed to say it's the cause, but it was pretty obvious.
What does that mean? Docs can say whatever they think is true.