OP, just make friends. I know, that's not easy either! But don't worry about romance. It'll be so much better later with a good friend, than sooner with some rando you met on an app.

So hike or bike or go to lectures or comicon or whatever you'd do for fun if you weren't *trying* to *meet someone.* And then be friendly. Strike up conversations. Arrange to hang out and see how you like people. Have lots of these casual friendships at once if you can. Odds are good that one of them will stand out from the crowd, although it almost certainly won't be immediately, and might not be the one you thought.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professional and marriage minded.

I am clueless. Please help!

You are at your PRIME! Literally anywhere. Put out the vibes, flirt, dress to impress.

Why lie to op? That’s mean

I attracted more men between 36 and 43 (when I took one of them home and let him stay) than ever in my life. It's the perfect age for a woman-- not yet visibly aging, but with confidence and independence.

Anonymous wrote:Op there is a reason you are single in your late 30s. You probably have an inflated sense of self worth or are extremely emotional

Bolded for truth.

Be a quality women and they will find you. Are you very attractive? Do you hang out in circles where the men are high quality?

I have been married for almost 20 years. Every man we know earns six or seven figures. They are all married and met their wives in their twenties in college, grad school, work or through friends. A few met online on March or jdate back in the day.

I would assume in late thirties, almost everyone is paired up by now. It is kind of like musical chairs and you may be out of luck.

Op there is a reason you are single in your late 30s. You probably have an inflated sense of self worth or are extremely emotional

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, in this town — at work.

It’s risky, because it can change how you are seen at work, and if it falls apart it can be awkward at work.

But DC is a town where, for marriage-minded professionals, one’s life and identity runs through one’s job. Seek and ye shall find — in the workplace.

And if it doesn’t work out, you can always leverage the HR/SH settlement and promotion. Win win!

The women I know who met their future spouses in their late thirties all made it almost like a second job to find a partner. It was like they were on a mission. They were out every other night at whatever function they could be at: professional networking event, some DC magazine party, charity galas, church/temple events, running club, biking club, hiking club, ...

Also, make sure you always look put together. I am not saying dress to the nines every time you get out of the house, but you don't want to run into the perfect man when you are in sweats with oily hair in a bun.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professional and marriage minded.

I am clueless. Please help!

You are at your PRIME! Literally anywhere. Put out the vibes, flirt, dress to impress.

Why lie to op? That’s mean

No lies. It’s all relative to your age obviously, but that was a good range for me.

+1 late 30s were great, as were early 30s and early to mid 40s.

I’m late 40s now and have some cosmetic issues but still feel strong and confident and I could definitely meet “a guy” (possibly even the guy) if I were on the market. No reason to be insecure just because some internet incels feel like they can’t have any self esteem without putting women’s down. Which is many on this forum…

Honestly, in this town — at work.

It’s risky, because it can change how you are seen at work, and if it falls apart it can be awkward at work.

But DC is a town where, for marriage-minded professionals, one’s life and identity runs through one’s job. Seek and ye shall find — in the workplace.

Hmm hang out at GameStop and comic con

We met during a shared hobby. other people I know in their late 30s have met someone online, thrihg friends/family/coworkers.
Church/temple.
In does take more effort than when we were in our twenties but it's possible.

I never had much luck with the apps the guys were mostly into hooking up.

I think the key is you have to put in the effort and be open to things maybe you usually aren't not saying lower your standards or go for someone you aren't attracted to but sometimes it helps to shake things up abit.

I met mind on the train!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professional and marriage minded.

I am clueless. Please help!

You are at your PRIME! Literally anywhere. Put out the vibes, flirt, dress to impress.

Why lie to op? That’s mean

No lies. It’s all relative to your age obviously, but that was a good range for me.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professional and marriage minded.

I am clueless. Please help!

Date men in their 40s to 50s who want those things.

if you date in your 30s or younger, the guys will see you as expendable and not commit as much.

An older man will cherish you much more than someone your age, as he knows he'd be a fool to get rid of you.

You mean someone like a divorced dad in his late 40s with kids who has to pay alimony, failed at marriage, co parent and has lots of baggage?

Hate it when people say things like the above, as if the only thing she stands to offer is her age and that's her only value, and therefore she has to date someone much older. Go for a quality man around your own age, you don't need to settle.

That guy in his 30s isn't going to be as ready for marriage and kids as you are.

The vast majority of men have kids in their 30s!!! And get married.

Is this true today?

Do the majority of men in the us aged 30-39 have children?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Professional and marriage minded.

I am clueless. Please help!

You are at your PRIME! Literally anywhere. Put out the vibes, flirt, dress to impress.

Why lie to op? That’s mean