Anonymous
Post 05/18/2025 10:04     Subject: Feeling rushed and overwhelmed
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Yeah .. Not normal.
Why did the two of you rush things?


I’ve already explained twice. It felt right. We got engaged after 1 year of dating and didn’t want to wait a year to get married. We wanted kids and started right after we got married. I’m 33 and he’s 37. We didn’t want to wait. It feels right but I’m still overwhelmed.


So why are you complaining and over whelmed with the plans you and your man made.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 15:31     Subject: Feeling rushed and overwhelmed
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You can see a therapist and attend parenting classes with your DH.


It’s not parenting I’m overwhelmed about. It’s the preparing. We just closed on a new home that we move into next month. We have to furnish and decorate and prepare for a baby.


Take it easy. Enjoy your marriage, pregnancy and baby. What matters is your health, your relationship and your baby. Decor, furniture and being social media envy worthy and keeping with Jonses doesn't matter. Babies only need diapers, some basic clothing, a bassinet, car seat and stroller. All else is a choice not a need.


I’m not keeping up with social media. I do like to be prepared and ready for things as much as possible.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 15:28     Subject: Feeling rushed and overwhelmed
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You can see a therapist and attend parenting classes with your DH.


It’s not parenting I’m overwhelmed about. It’s the preparing. We just closed on a new home that we move into next month. We have to furnish and decorate and prepare for a baby.


Take it easy. Enjoy your marriage, pregnancy and baby. What matters is your health, your relationship and your baby. Decor, furniture and being social media envy worthy and keeping with Jonses doesn't matter. Babies only need diapers, some basic clothing, a bassinet, car seat and stroller. All else is a choice not a need.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 15:27     Subject: Feeling rushed and overwhelmed
Anonymous wrote:
Yeah .. Not normal.
Why did the two of you rush things?


I’ve already explained twice. It felt right. We got engaged after 1 year of dating and didn’t want to wait a year to get married. We wanted kids and started right after we got married. I’m 33 and he’s 37. We didn’t want to wait. It feels right but I’m still overwhelmed.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 15:21     Subject: Feeling rushed and overwhelmed

Yeah .. Not normal.
Why did the two of you rush things?
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 15:20     Subject: Feeling rushed and overwhelmed
Anonymous wrote:You can see a therapist and attend parenting classes with your DH.


It’s not parenting I’m overwhelmed about. It’s the preparing. We just closed on a new home that we move into next month. We have to furnish and decorate and prepare for a baby.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 15:19     Subject: Feeling rushed and overwhelmed
Anonymous wrote:Yes 33 is old for kids that's why it feels rushed . You should have started in your mid to late 20s


Almost no one has kids in there mid to late twenties these days. I also don’t meet my husband until I was 31 and wouldn’t want kids either anyone else.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 15:16     Subject: Feeling rushed and overwhelmed
You can see a therapist and attend parenting classes with your DH.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 15:14     Subject: Feeling rushed and overwhelmed
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don't get pregnant again before baby is going to 2nd grade.


We want 2-3 kids back to back.


Then don't come complaining of being overwhelmed. You can't have your cake and eat it. You haven't dealt with one child yet so how do you know you would even want another one?
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 15:13     Subject: Feeling rushed and overwhelmed
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don't get pregnant again before baby is going to 2nd grade.


We want 2-3 kids back to back.


Then what is your complaint? These were thought-out choices. Nothing and nobody was rushing you. You are folliwing your own agreed-upon timeline.

Is it normal to feel overwhelmed? Yes.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 15:12     Subject: Feeling rushed and overwhelmed
Yes 33 is old for kids that's why it feels rushed . You should have started in your mid to late 20s
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 15:08     Subject: Feeling rushed and overwhelmed
Anonymous wrote:Don't get pregnant again before baby is going to 2nd grade.


We want 2-3 kids back to back.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 15:08     Subject: Feeling rushed and overwhelmed
Anonymous wrote:How far along are you? You have plenty of time to prepare for baby if you’re still early in your pregnancy. Babies don’t need much. Your house doesn’t have to be perfect.


13 weeks. Due end of November.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 15:07     Subject: Feeling rushed and overwhelmed
Anonymous wrote:Why’d you rush the wedding and pregnancy? That was bad timing.


This^.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 15:06     Subject: Feeling rushed and overwhelmed
Don't get pregnant again before baby is going to 2nd grade.