Anonymous
Post 05/20/2025 10:48     Subject: teens first girlfriend?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My teen has gotten their first girlfriend and I am very happy for them. I was wondering how to go about it though. Not in a punishment or overbearing kind of way but I want to support them and make it easy for them to open up about it in case of a need for advice. We talk and are close but we do not talk about these things often so I just want to make them as comfortable as possible. If any of you could share tips that'd be great.


Condoms and sex talk
Over and over again


I don’t think anyone in this scenario has a penis


Why are you MAGAs so freakin obsessed with what’s in children’s pants??!? It’s disgusting!
Anonymous
Post 05/20/2025 10:34     Subject: teens first girlfriend?
Anonymous wrote:Does your kid have XX or XY chromosomes? Does their partner have XX or XY chromosomes?


That is a social construct.
Anonymous
Post 05/18/2025 01:21     Subject: teens first girlfriend?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My teen has gotten their first girlfriend and I am very happy for them. I was wondering how to go about it though. Not in a punishment or overbearing kind of way but I want to support them and make it easy for them to open up about it in case of a need for advice. We talk and are close but we do not talk about these things often so I just want to make them as comfortable as possible. If any of you could share tips that'd be great.


Condoms and sex talk
Over and over again


I don’t think anyone in this scenario has a penis
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2025 00:38     Subject: teens first girlfriend?
Anonymous wrote:My teen has gotten their first girlfriend and I am very happy for them. I was wondering how to go about it though. Not in a punishment or overbearing kind of way but I want to support them and make it easy for them to open up about it in case of a need for advice. We talk and are close but we do not talk about these things often so I just want to make them as comfortable as possible. If any of you could share tips that'd be great.


Condoms and sex talk
Over and over again
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2025 23:55     Subject: Re:teens first girlfriend?
Since you and your teen are already close it won't be too hard but I get your concern. First bring it up naturally and ask about the girl if you don't know them already. Maybe share your experiences so the two of you can bond over it. Since your teen is intersex and can't get the girl pregnant maybe teach her about STDs? (Not sure about that part though). But even though they can't teach them about consent and how no is no. The ground rules are for you to set based on what you're fine with but I usually make my children keep the door open.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2025 19:05     Subject: teens first girlfriend?
Anonymous wrote:OP, is your child capable of getting pregnant or capable of getting someone else pregnant?
That’s a big part of parental guidance for teen relationships. It does not matter how the individuals in question self-identify.



They are biologically capable of neither.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2025 18:15     Subject: teens first girlfriend?
OP, is your child capable of getting pregnant or capable of getting someone else pregnant?
That’s a big part of parental guidance for teen relationships. It does not matter how the individuals in question self-identify.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2025 16:17     Subject: teens first girlfriend?
Anonymous wrote:My teen has gotten their first girlfriend and I am very happy for them. I was wondering how to go about it though. Not in a punishment or overbearing kind of way but I want to support them and make it easy for them to open up about it in case of a need for advice. We talk and are close but we do not talk about these things often so I just want to make them as comfortable as possible. If any of you could share tips that'd be great.


Everything you wrote is confusing. Perhaps try a more specific question or concern? You could spend decades addressing something this vague.

Perhaps just smile more and be pleasant and not nagging or critical in general. That works for almost anything.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2025 12:16     Subject: teens first girlfriend?
Anonymous wrote:How old are these kids? Rules for 17 should be different than for 14. But it never hurts to be a little more restrictive at first bc you can always dial back. First relationships often have no brakes and it’s important to slow them down, which is also helping model healthy behavior to them - healthy relationships do not go from zero to together 24/7. Make sure your kid spends times with friends without girlfriend and also time with activities and hobbies without her, which usually means “hey you can hang out with Larla 3x a week” or whatever. parents often change the rules they would have for their daughters when dating girls than if it was boys, and that’s a mistake. Don’t allow sleepovers just bc it’s two girls, bc it causes things to get too intense too quickly which in my experience two girl relationships are prone to. Ever heard the joke about what lesbians bring to a second date (a moving truck) - it’s true ! Boys usually are better about keeping some personal space with friends and hobbies so watch out and keep having discussions about what a healthy relationship looks like.


Thank you! Their girlfriend just turned 16 and they will be turning 16 in a few weeks.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2025 12:09     Subject: teens first girlfriend?
Anonymous wrote:Of course it does. You’re asking about teen relationships. If you can’t be open and honest with people about the situation then you’ve already failed as a parent. How you approach teen relationships is very different if it’s F-M M-M F-F . You don’t change the psychological and physiological differences just because they start calling themselves non-binary. Try this- my child is non binary born female. Or my daughter (now non binary). The way you’re talking about it currently sounds like you’re embarrassed to provide the sex of your child.
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OP - I understand your perspective but please know that my child was born intersex (Meaning that she was born with both male and female sex characteristics).