Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don’t think I have enough detailed info about your mom and her dynamic with you to guess, but my mom does this and here is my best guess as to why -
Everything is a power struggle. My mom has serious trust issues with people, some more so than others, but there is an overall pattern of distrust and aggression. When I ask her the most simple question, from when I was a young child until now, I will be met with the silent treatment, a glare, or a curt “I will tell you later”. Examples include me asking “mom?” “Can I have so and so’s address?” “What are you doing this week?” “Where were you?” “How come your late?”
If I ask her why she behaves this way she will get very upset and say I am aggressive and hostile (when it appears she is the one actually behaving this way).
It’s so difficult and as a result I learned try my best not to ask her questions as an adult to keep the peace. This too can get used against me though.
If my mom is in a rare good mood she may answer a question and even talk about what she has been up to, especially if it’s a topic she wants to demonstrate she knows a lot about.
She sounds as if she has the mild to moderate paranoia that comes with certain forms of autism. There is also well-known paranoia (that can become much more severe) in untreated biploar disorder and schizophrenia, but you'd have noticed by now if she had either of those two diseases.