No.

A funny story though. My exh gave our then youngest dc his old iphone to use an an ipod. But he didn't completely wipe it and left his text messages on it, which I absolutely read.

There was one thread with a woman he had gone on a date or 2 with. They were hitting it off based on the messages but then over text she let him know she had herpes and wanted him to know before they went further. Knowing my ex he was probably horrified and it made me lol He responded something like I don't think this will work and she flipped out.

No. You probably don't have it. You can get tested to be sure.
You also can get vaccinated to prevent cancer from some varieties. Well worth doing.
https://www.cdc.gov/cancer/hpv/preventing-hpv-associated-cancers.html

Quick poll for those who are adamantly saying no:

On a scale of 1-10, how sure are you that you never dated anyone with HSV?

no

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it. Go get tested. If you have hsv 1 or 2 go for it. If not, don’t knowingly expose yourself to an incurable disease.

Sure lots of people have it, but you don’t (assuming your test comes back negative). Protect your health.

+10000

^^and this is the DCUM crowd? I thought everyone on this board was a hyper-educated boor.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it. Go get tested. If you have hsv 1 or 2 go for it. If not, don’t knowingly expose yourself to an incurable disease.

Sure lots of people have it, but you don’t (assuming your test comes back negative). Protect your health.

OMFG it's not cancer, or AIDS. It's a cold sore. Worst case scenario, you don't have access to valacyclovir and you have a breakout. It's unsightly and uncomfortable for about a week. More likely, you have insurance that doesn't even charge you for the med, which is available as a generic, you keep it on hand, you feel the little tingle on your lip that means you're about to get a breakout, you pop the valacylovir and don't kiss for a few days.

I've had cold sores my whole life. Probably got them from a parent/grandparent as a kid. I don't kiss or go down on people when I'm symptomatic. Zero problems, easy to manage, not at all the "life sentence" this overreacting PP is trying to make them out to be.

The level of health ignorance in the US is already astounding, and I can't see it getting better any time soon...

Don’t do it. Go get tested. If you have hsv 1 or 2 go for it. If not, don’t knowingly expose yourself to an incurable disease.

Sure lots of people have it, but you don’t (assuming your test comes back negative). Protect your health.

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, no.

Guaranteed you have already.

Ugh, no.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not.

If you catch it and things don't work out with him, your dating pool effectively shrinks down to zero. You absolutely cannot sleep with anyone without telling them, and most men will reject you.

Plus, if you want kids, you're now exposing them to it and the stigma they'll face.

If this was an incredible guy, 1 in a million, you're absolutely positive you'll get married snd live happily ever after, I'd say give it a shot and take things extremely slow.

But a man who "really likes you"? Come on. You can do better.

What in the world does that mean??

It means that PP is an idiot.

Anonymous wrote:I would not.

If you catch it and things don't work out with him, your dating pool effectively shrinks down to zero. You absolutely cannot sleep with anyone without telling them, and most men will reject you.

Plus, if you want kids, you're now exposing them to it and the stigma they'll face.

If this was an incredible guy, 1 in a million, you're absolutely positive you'll get married snd live happily ever after, I'd say give it a shot and take things extremely slow.

But a man who "really likes you"? Come on. You can do better.

What in the world does that mean??

Most people have HSV-1 and get it during childhood. This makes no sense at all. Most people don't even know they have it.

My last partner had it. We were together about two years. I never contracted it, and we definitely were not using condoms during part of that time. He was very responsible with symptoms and medication.

He was lovely and let me know well in advance of when we were intimate. That actually was a huge green flag in my book. I did talk to a friend that works in sexual health and got lots of good info before pursuing going deeper with him. It was a good choice all around - what a fabulous human. We’re still friends.

Anonymous wrote:Only if I already had hsv1

Which you most likely do.