Anonymous
05/06/2025 17:33
Subject: Re:family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure how the conversation went for OP, but I’ve had family members tell me my entire childhood I was fat and would look so pretty if I lost weight. We are EE and these comments were completely unsolicited by me. Think of an aunt that looks at you with so much pity and says “why don’t you just lose the weight?” I wasn’t fat though. I weighed 120 lbs and was 5.1.
Unless op specially asked this person if she was fat, how is it ok that he or she told her she was fat? Stop being hateful under the guise of caring for someone’s health. Now, there is no way I would have asked the person to take it back either. They can think whatever the f they want.
Did you not read the OP? She called herself fat and the person told her she wasn't. Then she got mad at the person for saying that and the person said well if you don't like that about yourself, change it. They never called her fat. Or implied it.
Anonymous
05/06/2025 17:32
Subject: family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
a family member was talking and I joked that I myself am fat. When they didn’t say no you’re not, I asked why they’re not denying it.
He just said ”If you don’t like that about yourself, do something about it”
This is classic toxic masculinity
This easily could have been anyone responding. Mother, MIL, SIL, DH, kids, and someone here would call out the person who said it. Call out the fat woman who says she's fat then wants the response of: No you're not, or you look great, or whatever.
This person didn't even call her fat.
OP: I'm fat
Person: no you're not
OP: yes I am. Why are you denying that?
Person: well if you don't like that about yourself, do something about it.
That's hardly calling her fat. OP just wants be a victim.
As does the person who said the guy was classic Toxic Masculinity.
Anonymous
05/06/2025 17:32
Subject: family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:Im the OP.
A quick question to all of you. How do I slap myself so hard that it’ll force me to do a 180? I need someone to just put a rocket in my behind
That's what she said.
Anonymous
05/06/2025 17:31
Subject: family member implied im fat
It makes people feel awkward when you are fat and say you are. Stop doing it.
Anonymous
05/06/2025 17:31
Subject: family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Im the OP.
A quick question to all of you. How do I slap myself so hard that it’ll force me to do a 180? I need someone to just put a rocket in my behind
Go to therapy. You obviously have some significant issues.
I’m just so sick of people acting like therapy is some sort of panacea or a magical solution.
Millions of a*holes and jerks go to therapy. Millions of people with the most horrible habits. It’s worth a try for sure. But let’s not act like there’s a 100% guarantee I will be
”solved” or my money back!
Anonymous
05/06/2025 17:31
Subject: Re:family member implied im fat
I’m not sure how the conversation went for OP, but I’ve had family members tell me my entire childhood I was fat and would look so pretty if I lost weight. We are EE and these comments were completely unsolicited by me. Think of an aunt that looks at you with so much pity and says “why don’t you just lose the weight?” I wasn’t fat though. I weighed 120 lbs and was 5.1.
Unless op specially asked this person if she was fat, how is it ok that he or she told her she was fat? Stop being hateful under the guise of caring for someone’s health. Now, there is no way I would have asked the person to take it back either. They can think whatever the f they want.
Unless op specially asked this person if she was fat, how is it ok that he or she told her she was fat? Stop being hateful under the guise of caring for someone’s health. Now, there is no way I would have asked the person to take it back either. They can think whatever the f they want.
Anonymous
05/06/2025 17:29
Subject: family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:Mansplaining is awful. Like you need life advice at every turn.
Like I tried to tell op:
Classic toxic masculinity
Anonymous
05/06/2025 17:27
Subject: family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:Im the OP.
A quick question to all of you. How do I slap myself so hard that it’ll force me to do a 180? I need someone to just put a rocket in my behind
Go to therapy. You obviously have some significant issues.
Anonymous
05/06/2025 17:27
Subject: family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
a family member was talking and I joked that I myself am fat. When they didn’t say no you’re not, I asked why they’re not denying it.
He just said ”If you don’t like that about yourself, do something about it”
This is classic toxic masculinity
This easily could have been anyone responding. Mother, MIL, SIL, DH, kids, and someone here would call out the person who said it. Call out the fat woman who says she's fat then wants the response of: No you're not, or you look great, or whatever.
This person didn't even call her fat.
OP: I'm fat
Person: no you're not
OP: yes I am. Why are you denying that?
Person: well if you don't like that about yourself, do something about it.
That's hardly calling her fat. OP just wants be a victim.
Anonymous
05/06/2025 17:27
Subject: family member implied im fat
Im the OP.
A quick question to all of you. How do I slap myself so hard that it’ll force me to do a 180? I need someone to just put a rocket in my behind
A quick question to all of you. How do I slap myself so hard that it’ll force me to do a 180? I need someone to just put a rocket in my behind
Anonymous
05/06/2025 17:25
Subject: family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
a family member was talking and I joked that I myself am fat. When they didn’t say no you’re not, I asked why they’re not denying it.
He just said ”If you don’t like that about yourself, do something about it”
This is classic toxic masculinity
This easily could have been anyone responding. Mother, MIL, SIL, DH, kids, and someone here would call out the person who said it. Call out the fat woman who says she's fat then wants the response of: No you're not, or you look great, or whatever.
Anonymous
05/06/2025 17:24
Subject: family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Just get a prescription for GLP-1. It's amazing.
I have 40 lbs to lose. I know I can do it by just shutting my damn mouth. I dont judge others for doing it. But I know it’s not for me because that would be putting a bandaid on the actual root cause. Which for me is intense anxiety causing me to overeat
So? I have diagnosed anxiety. I eat my feelings. I don't demand reassurances if I tell people I need to lose weight. You're batshite crazy, OP. Truly.
No one cares why you're fat. Just do something about it, or accept that people will know you're fat, and refuse to lie about it just to make you feel better. For God's sakes.
Anonymous
05/06/2025 17:22
Subject: family member implied im fat
You totally set him up. You deserve what you get. If someone says that about themselves, and then has the absolute gall to demand I lie to make them feel better that they said this about themselves, they're not getting satisfaction, OP.
Anonymous
05/06/2025 17:21
Subject: family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Just get a prescription for GLP-1. It's amazing.
I have 40 lbs to lose. I know I can do it by just shutting my damn mouth. I dont judge others for doing it. But I know it’s not for me because that would be putting a bandaid on the actual root cause. Which for me is intense anxiety causing me to overeat
How about starting out with therapy to work on your anxiety and building better coping habits?
Anonymous
05/06/2025 17:19
Subject: family member implied im fat
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Just get a prescription for GLP-1. It's amazing.
I have 40 lbs to lose. I know I can do it by just shutting my damn mouth. I dont judge others for doing it. But I know it’s not for me because that would be putting a bandaid on the actual root cause. Which for me is intense anxiety causing me to overeat
It would help if you switched the foods that you eat. Try snacking on healthier foods like blueberries, blackberries, sushi, avocado, salads, celery, carrot sticks, and other healthy, non-junk foods..
Also, keep a glass of water in the refrigerator. Drink it before you snack.
Engage in moderate exercise if you do not exercise on a daily basis.
The key is that you must want to change.
Good luck !