Anonymous
Post 05/11/2025 00:44     Subject: Dog is ruining my sleep but dh likes her sleeping with us.
Anonymous wrote:Love our dog but she is not good for my sleep. Our bed is only a queen (no room for a king) and she’s 60 pounds and moves around a lot at night, waking me up. I’m in peri right now and sleep is fraught enough as it is. I wake up in the AM exhausted.

But dh loves having the dog in bed (a little weird to some, I know) and admittedly I would too if she weren’t so disruptive. We’ve always been pets in the bed people. She’s very snuggly too.

Thoughts? What’s a compromise? We have a crate but she’s only it when we are out of the house, and she often comes with us, so I think crate training would be incredibly painful while she got used to it, and admittedly I don’t think I’d want her so far away either. I could try to leash her up and put her in a dog bed by our bed… hopefully we’d all get used to this quickly.

Anyone btdt?


Only the being that husband wants to be intimate with gets to sleep in the bed.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2025 07:20     Subject: Dog is ruining my sleep but dh likes her sleeping with us.
Our short haired dog loves his cot bed. We put the cot bed inside a fenced area in living room with cover on ( sofa cover) with fence door open. He doesn’t want to leave his bed during sleep unless he smells food. If it doesn’t solve the problem, maybe get a cot bed or sleeping bag so either you or your DH takes turn sleep on/in it. Or 2 separate beds instead of a queen bed.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2025 04:26     Subject: Dog is ruining my sleep but dh likes her sleeping with us.
I understand the struggle OP. We have a dog bed too but our dog we rescued last June refuses to sleep on it. He’s also in the bed, it’s disruptive at time but I do enjoy the feeling of having him in the bed.
Have you tread melatonin or Unisom?
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2025 03:14     Subject: Dog is ruining my sleep but dh likes her sleeping with us.
Anonymous wrote:Sleeping with dogs gives you dermodex infestations in your eyelids. Gross


When? Because I'm 48 and still going strong in both eyelids. Also, we wipe the dog's paws when she comes in from outside every time.
Anonymous
Post 05/08/2025 02:45     Subject: Dog is ruining my sleep but dh likes her sleeping with us.
I love my dog and let him nap in the bed when I take a nap on the weekends. But not at night for all the same reasons you list. A dog bed in our room didn't work because he kept jumping up in the middle of the night.

I put the bed in the hallway between our room and our son's room. It creates a little nook right there with our doors closed. Sounds mean, but he's with us all the rest of the day. Gets plenty of play time and two walks a day from us. I had to prioritize my sleep for health reasons and to keep me from murdering others lol
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 18:55     Subject: Dog is ruining my sleep but dh likes her sleeping with us.
Many dogs prefer crates - my dog always relaxes more at night when she’s in it. We took it down due to space so she sleeps near our bed on a dog bed but sleeps in her crate downstairs frequently by choice. She’s less restless in the crate.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 18:49     Subject: Dog is ruining my sleep but dh likes her sleeping with us.
Do you have space under your bed? One of mine loves to crawl under there for most of the night and come see us in the morning.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 16:23     Subject: Dog is ruining my sleep but dh likes her sleeping with us.
Anonymous wrote:Sleeping with dogs gives you dermodex infestations in your eyelids. Gross


They live there anyway.
You can find photos online of the little buggers poking their heads out of your follicles to say hi.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 15:17     Subject: Dog is ruining my sleep but dh likes her sleeping with us.
Similar story here. We finally just filled the entire room with a king size bed. It worked out for the best, even though there’s like no room for the dresser.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 14:30     Subject: Re:Dog is ruining my sleep but dh likes her sleeping with us.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Crate train the dog. Mine sleep in their crate in my room. Door is closed when they're puppies, open when they're old enough to understand they need to stay in their crate at night.


We are not crate train types. The dog is rarely crated, and I don’t think I’d want her in another room, and there’s no room for her crate in our room. I think a dog bed would be a nice compromise, no?


Our room is tiny (basically a queen and a dresser) but we put a fabric crate in it so we could move it around. We just removed it and just put the bed down as I got tired of tripping on it.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 14:28     Subject: Dog is ruining my sleep but dh likes her sleeping with us.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have a dog bed in our room. Dog switchers. If it’s too much dog and husband go to the couch.


Op. Dog bed it is. Thanks, all!


Our dog will cuddle with us and eventually get down to her bed but when its she and I, she'll stay in bed with me.
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 14:28     Subject: Dog is ruining my sleep but dh likes her sleeping with us.
My huge ragdoll cat has a bed that extends from my side of the mattress. She refused to sleep in a bed on the floor and insisted on sleeping in our bed, so this was the solution that satisfied her. They make them big enough for dogs.

This is similar to the one I got:

https://www.amazon.com/Bedside-Dog-Bed-Mattress-ONLY/dp/B0CFHRD171?source=ps-sl-shoppingads-lpcontext&ref_=fplfs&smid=A1V25EL87IMH3W&th=1
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 14:23     Subject: Re:Dog is ruining my sleep but dh likes her sleeping with us.
Anonymous wrote:Crate train the dog. Mine sleep in their crate in my room. Door is closed when they're puppies, open when they're old enough to understand they need to stay in their crate at night.


We are not crate train types. The dog is rarely crated, and I don’t think I’d want her in another room, and there’s no room for her crate in our room. I think a dog bed would be a nice compromise, no?
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 14:21     Subject: Dog is ruining my sleep but dh likes her sleeping with us.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sleeping with dogs gives you dermodex infestations in your eyelids. Gross


demodex mites are on your eyelashes whether you have pets or not.

Even trolls like you always have friends!

lol
Anonymous
Post 05/06/2025 14:19     Subject: Dog is ruining my sleep but dh likes her sleeping with us.
Anonymous wrote:We have a dog bed in our room. Dog switchers. If it’s too much dog and husband go to the couch.


Op. Dog bed it is. Thanks, all!