Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 17:33     Subject: How often do you speak to your MIL/DIL?
Anonymous wrote:I talk or text with MIL/FIL and BIL as often as my husband is independently in touch with my parents and siblings.


+1000

And in my marriage, for both of us, the answer is the same (almost never).
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 17:31     Subject: Re:How often do you speak to your MIL/DIL?
MIL rarely to never. She hates me.

DH talks to her once or twice per month I think.

We live across the country from her and the rest of the IL family.

I don’t have a DIL. Kids are teens.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 17:22     Subject: How often do you speak to your MIL/DIL?
I like mine and respect her but I don’t agree with nearly everything she says so I just smile and nod (so much is actually factually incorrect). I don’t call her ever. But I do make sure dh plans trips for the whole family to see her.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 17:18     Subject: How often do you speak to your MIL/DIL?
Anonymous wrote:My MIL recently did something very very hurtful and toxic to me. She is a narcissist and is coming to visit in a few weeks and I need help with boundaries. I usually text her about once a week - pics of the kids, etc but have pulled back the last months. When I told her how hurtful he actions were she completely turned it around and wouldn't even have a convo. How do I handle that without causing drama or forcing my husband to end his relationship?


Move on and pretend it never happened. You already told her you were hurt, there is nothing left to say.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 17:16     Subject: Re:How often do you speak to your MIL/DIL?
I’ve blocked my MIL, so I never talk to her unless she is visiting us. My husband talks to her daily I think.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 16:31     Subject: How often do you speak to your MIL/DIL?
My MIL recently did something very very hurtful and toxic to me. She is a narcissist and is coming to visit in a few weeks and I need help with boundaries. I usually text her about once a week - pics of the kids, etc but have pulled back the last months. When I told her how hurtful he actions were she completely turned it around and wouldn't even have a convo. How do I handle that without causing drama or forcing my husband to end his relationship?
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 16:18     Subject: How often do you speak to your MIL/DIL?
Maybe once or twice a year. I would like to have more of a relationship and don't even mind being around them, but she and FIL are just not very family oriented. They maybe call DH once a year for his birthday, but we joke that they *always* call him on the wrong day. I feel bad for DH since he is super family oriented. My mom can be annoying but he appreciates how much she cares about him and our family, and he texts/calls her in some form a couple times a month (usually with the kids but not always). We also see her 3-4 times a month for an overnight visit.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 16:13     Subject: How often do you speak to your MIL/DIL?
Mine is very nice, we talk on each other’s birthday and then during visits. I am sure it will be more as she ages.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 16:07     Subject: How often do you speak to your MIL/DIL?
Never because although she’s needed a hearing aid for as long as I’ve known her (over 30 years) she refuses to wear one. It was nearly impossible to have a normal chatty phone conversation without me shouting myself hoarse and repeating myself so I stopped calling to say hello more than a decade ago.

Occasionally I will text. She is local.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 15:16     Subject: How often do you speak to your MIL/DIL?
Anonymous wrote:Never. She speaks a different language and thought that in order for us to communicate, I HAD to learn her native language. Well, it didn't go the way she thought. I love that I don't have to deal with her.


You sound nice.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 15:15     Subject: How often do you speak to your MIL/DIL?
I talked to her a few times a week when I could, more than my mom. When she got dementia she lived with us for a year with me being her caregiver until I couldn’t do it alone and then I visited her 1-2 times a week when I could at the nursing home.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 15:13     Subject: How often do you speak to your MIL/DIL?
Rarely although we get along. MIL has a full life and has good communication with DH. When she comes to visit, we chat. That’s about once or twice a year.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 12:17     Subject: How often do you speak to your MIL/DIL?
Never. She speaks a different language and thought that in order for us to communicate, I HAD to learn her native language. Well, it didn't go the way she thought. I love that I don't have to deal with her.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2025 16:33     Subject: How often do you speak to your MIL/DIL?
Anonymous wrote:Never. I went no contact 4 years ago. Despite her attempts to speak to me in the years since, I absolutely refuse.

DH has not gone no contact, but has drastically reduced her interactions, and has finally stopped pouting about my decision.


Sad situation.
Anonymous
Post 05/04/2025 14:02     Subject: How often do you speak to your MIL/DIL?
Never. I went no contact 4 years ago. Despite her attempts to speak to me in the years since, I absolutely refuse.

DH has not gone no contact, but has drastically reduced her interactions, and has finally stopped pouting about my decision.