Anonymous wrote:I know a number of bisexual women in heterosexual marriages that are monogamous and it's a non-issue. When you think about it, there's not much difference between giving up relationships with one gender or two. If you got married, you'd be agreeing to stop having relationships with any other women, right? Well she'd be agreeing to stop having relationships with both men and women. It's not that different.
That said, I will say I know one bi woman in a hetero marriage where it *is* an issue, and they are open and the husband would probably not choose an open marriage but for the bisexuality issue. But in this one instance, I also suspect the woman has a personality disorder, and that is a much bigger source of their marital issues than her bisexuality. Like I think if she were just hetero but otherwise the same person, she'd still be pushing for an open marriage, it's just that she'd have to admit to herself that the reason why is that she is easily bored and requires a lot of attention, not that she simply cannot go through life without sleeping with both men and women.
So I guess my advice is -- don't write her off because of the bisexuality, but also don't let the bisexuality obscure other issues, whether they are commitment problems on her part or just a general mismatch in values.
Great comment. Totally agree, especially with the final paragraph.
--bisexual woman