Anonymous wrote:He was wrong. People leave old papers all the time. No way to know that was intentional. You need to leave a coat and keys or something else to show it’s intentional.

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Your husband does not understand that women sometimes need to show a lot more force than men when they're harassed, otherwise the men who harass them don't get the message.

You made a mistake anyone would have made, you apologized and you went above and beyond by offering him his table back. So don't worry on that front.

It's amazing to me how many DCUM posters never learned to read.

+1 OP is a man

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Anonymous wrote:A newspaper is the kind of thing people leave behind all the time. so I wouldn't have understood it to mean that the table was reserved. You gotta leave something of value--a sweater, a book (open face-down so it's clear you're in the middle of reading it), even a baseball cap. But a disposable item like a newspaper? No.

The only thing that reserves a table or a chair is an actual person - not things.

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Anonymous wrote:
Your husband does not understand that women sometimes need to show a lot more force than men when they're harassed, otherwise the men who harass them don't get the message.

You made a mistake anyone would have made, you apologized and you went above and beyond by offering him his table back. So don't worry on that front.

It's amazing to me how many DCUM posters never learned to read.

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Anonymous wrote:But you think it's ok to work from "home" at a semi-crowded coffee shop, hogging the table for hours while sipping a coffee? Probably one of those clueless people that also takes calls there.

People like you are the worst.

+1

You are the rude one, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:
Your husband does not understand that women sometimes need to show a lot more force than men when they're harassed, otherwise the men who harass them don't get the message.

You made a mistake anyone would have made, you apologized and you went above and beyond by offering him his table back. So don't worry on that front.

It's amazing to me how many DCUM posters never learned to read.

Anonymous wrote:A newspaper doesn't reserve a table because people always leave them behind.

You should have stood and given him the table back without asking though, to be kind and not put the demand back on him.

He was wrong to come back and berate you, he probably was angry at himself for not saying yes when you'd offered it back to him.

Raising your voice was probably unavoidable, since he kept harping on. But I would have just said "Again, I'm very sorry for the misunderstanding." and not engaged that he was in the wrong.

Anonymous wrote:But you think it's ok to work from "home" at a semi-crowded coffee shop, hogging the table for hours while sipping a coffee? Probably one of those clueless people that also takes calls there.

People like you are the worst.

Anonymous wrote:DW and I went to WFH at a semi-crowded coffee shop. We saw a table with a copy of the NYT on it. We figured someone left it there and moved the newspaper to a nearby ledge and thought nothing of it.

A few minutes later a man came over and told us this was his table and it was rude that we moved his newspaper. We said sorry we didn't realize and asked if he wanted us to move so he could have the table. He muttered to himself, shook his head, and walked away.

He then came BACK and told us we should know how rude we were. He kept arguing with us so I just raised my voice and told him you can't indefinitely reserve a table in a crowded coffee shop with a newspaper, and to please leave us alone. He kept going on about how he doesn't agree and we just needed to know how rude we were.

DW said I shouldn't have raised my voice but I think this guy clearly doesn't have all his marbles.

Anonymous wrote:
Your husband does not understand that women sometimes need to show a lot more force than men when they're harassed, otherwise the men who harass them don't get the message.

You made a mistake anyone would have made, you apologized and you went above and beyond by offering him his table back. So don't worry on that front.

Anonymous wrote:A newspaper is the kind of thing people leave behind all the time. so I wouldn't have understood it to mean that the table was reserved. You gotta leave something of value--a sweater, a book (open face-down so it's clear you're in the middle of reading it), even a baseball cap. But a disposable item like a newspaper? No.