Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dh told me he expects sex from me because he gives me a comfortable life.

This is such a fsckboi argument. "I put the tokens in. Why didn't I get a sex?!"

If only men understood that most women will freely fsck you, daily, if they feel wanted and safe. Being told he expects it of you, like you're just some kind of machine, accomplishes neither. Idiot.

+1000

Splitting the care of HIS children when he is at home isn’t “above and beyond”. These are HIS children!
It does kinda feel like he has the attitude he is owed, which isn’t sexy. Young children can be physically exhausting, even with some help. They are having sex 2x a week on the regular, which isn’t “withholding sex”.

What are the ages of your children OP? Can you be specific about how much help you have with the kids and how hands on he is?

Anonymous wrote:Withholding it is spousal abuse generally. If you dont want to do it, get a divorce and free him.

Twice weekly is not withholding.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's such a circular argument. He demands, she withholds because he's demanding, he demands more, she withholds more...

Y'all need to learn to compromise. He doesn't get it every day, you pick up an extra shift laying back and thinking of England. It's not that complicated.

I don’t withhold because he asks for sex. I just don’t have sex every time he asks because I don’t want it. We are still having sex twice a week and usually one more that includes service for just him. I think that’s reasonable when you have a 3.5 month old and an almost 2 year old.

DH here: I was sort of sympathetic to him and thinking about more constructive ways to express his concerns until I read this. If you’re having sex twice a week when you have a 3.5 month old you’re some kind of sexual hero. He needs to get his act together and count his blessings, he’s making the rest of us look bad. Seriously, WTF.

Anonymous wrote:If you have a 3 mo th old I'm impressed you have any. My libido was in the tank and I was super dry until I weaned the baby.

I’m not breastfeeding. I gave up after 1 month of latch issues. I nursed my first but this one wouldn’t latch and I wasn’t about to exclusively pump.

If you have a 3 mo th old I'm impressed you have any. My libido was in the tank and I was super dry until I weaned the baby.

Mandatory sex is very unsexy.
You can tell him you're adding it to your chore list.

Or he can up his chore list. I find a man loading and unloading the dishwasher very sexy. If he folds laundry, he's going to get well pampered.

He isn’t entitled to sex.

When you say demanding — how did he actually say it? Because “I really wish we could have sex more often” or something like that feels like a demand but isn’t really.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's such a circular argument. He demands, she withholds because he's demanding, he demands more, she withholds more...

Y'all need to learn to compromise. He doesn't get it every day, you pick up an extra shift laying back and thinking of England. It's not that complicated.

I don’t withhold because he asks for sex. I just don’t have sex every time he asks because I don’t want it. We are still having sex twice a week and usually one more that includes service for just him. I think that’s reasonable when you have a 3.5 month old and an almost 2 year old.

OMG. 😳

He needs a Come to Jesus talk. He is acting like an AH.

You will be divorced within 2 years.

Anonymous wrote:No one should force you to have sex. Your husband isn’t entitled to your body because he’s nice to you. Parenting his own kids isn’t going above and beyond. He’s a jerk.

+1

Four times a week? No.

No one is entitled to another person's body.

He’s a jerk.

Anonymous wrote:It's such a circular argument. He demands, she withholds because he's demanding, he demands more, she withholds more...

Y'all need to learn to compromise. He doesn't get it every day, you pick up an extra shift laying back and thinking of England. It's not that complicated.

I don’t withhold because he asks for sex. I just don’t have sex every time he asks because I don’t want it. We are still having sex twice a week and usually one more that includes service for just him. I think that’s reasonable when you have a 3.5 month old and an almost 2 year old.

Anonymous wrote:Dh told me he expects sex from me because he gives me a comfortable life.

This is such a fsckboi argument. "I put the tokens in. Why didn't I get a sex?!"

If only men understood that most women will freely fsck you, daily, if they feel wanted and safe. Being told he expects it of you, like you're just some kind of machine, accomplishes neither. Idiot.

It's such a circular argument. He demands, she withholds because he's demanding, he demands more, she withholds more...

Y'all need to learn to compromise. He doesn't get it every day, you pick up an extra shift laying back and thinking of England. It's not that complicated.