Anonymous
04/25/2025 22:03
Subject: WE DONT GET ALONG
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How old is the baby?
He just turned 11 weeks.
Time to return to life. Unless you want to be a single mom.
Anonymous
04/25/2025 21:39
Subject: WE DONT GET ALONG
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Try to ride it out. It will pass.
You are both sleep deprived and irritable. You need to cancel and blow off everything else in favor of sleep. Try that for two weeks and see how you do.
I have put my life on hold and that an issue for him. He wants to still go out and “ enjoy life” while I want to stay in.
Looks like he is not doing enough night time feedings and diaper changes.
He actually does do them. We split shifts. I am a night owl and take the 8-2am shift and he does the 2-8am shift. He works from home and is still doing what he can to help during the day. Makes me lunch, takes the baby when I need to do something, and cooks dinner. We share responsibility pretty well.
We are still sleep deprived because our once pretty decent sleeper is now going through a phase of wanting to wake up every couple of hours just because.
At 11 weeks you are almost through the worst of it. But it’s a massive transition that causes lots of challenges, and some have a harder time than others. Try to go easy on each other, it gets better.
Anonymous
04/25/2025 19:49
Subject: WE DONT GET ALONG
Anonymous wrote:WE TYPE IN ALL CAPS
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Anonymous
04/25/2025 19:23
Subject: WE DONT GET ALONG
WE TYPE IN ALL CAPS
Anonymous
04/25/2025 18:54
Subject: WE DONT GET ALONG
Anonymous wrote:The stress and fatigue of being new parents has been wearing on us. We bicker often and can't agree on much. I miss my husband and my marriage so much. How can we make our marriage survive new parenthood?
This too shall pass. Be kind to yourselves, hire help and don’t have a second kid too soon.
Anonymous
04/25/2025 18:10
Subject: WE DONT GET ALONG
I know a family like that. Husband is super extrovert. They managed through early years. Now kids are in ES and he goes out multiple times a week, concerts, happy hours etc. But then he also takes kids on weekends and takes them all over for museums and other activities and his wife can stay home and enjoy the quiet on her own. They do plenty together too.
Anonymous
04/25/2025 18:05
Subject: Re:WE DONT GET ALONG
Anonymous wrote:People don't realize how quality of life suffers when you become a parent - if it was widely known, I think fewer people would do it.
Harsh Truth .. Ugh
Anonymous
04/25/2025 18:04
Subject: WE DONT GET ALONG
I think he needs to be allowed to go out but twice a week max. He also needs to allow you to go out even if it’s only once a week. Even if you just go to Target by yourself. It’s important for you and important for him to to step into Dad role.
Anonymous
04/25/2025 18:03
Subject: WE DONT GET ALONG
Do you have friends or family who can come by for like 3 hrs so you two can just go out and get lunch, coffee, a drink, a walk in a park...something just the two of you to be together and reconnect?
Anonymous
04/25/2025 18:02
Subject: Re:WE DONT GET ALONG
People don't realize how quality of life suffers when you become a parent - if it was widely known, I think fewer people would do it.
Anonymous
04/25/2025 17:59
Subject: WE DONT GET ALONG
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Try to ride it out. It will pass.
You are both sleep deprived and irritable. You need to cancel and blow off everything else in favor of sleep. Try that for two weeks and see how you do.
I have put my life on hold and that an issue for him. He wants to still go out and “ enjoy life” while I want to stay in.
Looks like he is not doing enough night time feedings and diaper changes.
He actually does do them. We split shifts. I am a night owl and take the 8-2am shift and he does the 2-8am shift. He works from home and is still doing what he can to help during the day. Makes me lunch, takes the baby when I need to do something, and cooks dinner. We share responsibility pretty well.
We are still sleep deprived because our once pretty decent sleeper is now going through a phase of wanting to wake up every couple of hours just because.
They start getting teeth, etc. sleep is not linear.
Anonymous
04/25/2025 17:58
Subject: WE DONT GET ALONG
Anonymous wrote:I’m sure this is normal but I have zero desire to go out on the town with an 11 week old at home. I want to spend all his waking time with him. I’m such a homebody now that I’ve become a mom. DH is a big extrovert and loves going out. He wants solo nights and to get out of the house often. Lack of sleep is a big issue for us too.
Go out when he is asleep. I was like you and am divorced. There is a balance. You don’t want parallel lives with spouse.
Anonymous
04/25/2025 17:35
Subject: WE DONT GET ALONG
Get through it. Hire a sitter whenever you can. Let the little things go. The first few months of my first child’s life were the obsolete worst of our 19 year marriage so far.
Anonymous
04/25/2025 17:34
Subject: WE DONT GET ALONG
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Try to ride it out. It will pass.
You are both sleep deprived and irritable. You need to cancel and blow off everything else in favor of sleep. Try that for two weeks and see how you do.
I have put my life on hold and that an issue for him. He wants to still go out and “ enjoy life” while I want to stay in.
Looks like he is not doing enough night time feedings and diaper changes.
He actually does do them. We split shifts. I am a night owl and take the 8-2am shift and he does the 2-8am shift. He works from home and is still doing what he can to help during the day. Makes me lunch, takes the baby when I need to do something, and cooks dinner. We share responsibility pretty well.
We are still sleep deprived because our once pretty decent sleeper is now going through a phase of wanting to wake up every couple of hours just because.
Anonymous
04/25/2025 17:25
Subject: WE DONT GET ALONG
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Try to ride it out. It will pass.
You are both sleep deprived and irritable. You need to cancel and blow off everything else in favor of sleep. Try that for two weeks and see how you do.
I have put my life on hold and that an issue for him. He wants to still go out and “ enjoy life” while I want to stay in.
Looks like he is not doing enough night time feedings and diaper changes.