Anonymous
04/21/2025 05:31
Subject: Re:Coming over unannounced
In the 50’s/60’s this was more acceptable.
People would spend entire days visiting w/friends.
These days?
Not so much.
People use the excuse that they are simply busier…..🤷🏻
But if a woman showed up unannounced w/food, wanting to have sex most men would forgive her……
People would spend entire days visiting w/friends.
These days?
Not so much.
People use the excuse that they are simply busier…..🤷🏻
But if a woman showed up unannounced w/food, wanting to have sex most men would forgive her……
Anonymous
04/20/2025 10:45
Subject: Coming over unannounced
Big no. We just don’t do that anymore. Everyone calls or texts first
Anonymous
04/20/2025 10:39
Subject: Coming over unannounced
Anonymous wrote:What are your thoughts on coming over unannounced when dating for a short amount of time? A male friend tried to convince me that the reason I’m having a hard time getting into a committed relationship is because I’m not aggressive enough, and I need to do bold acts like this. I find the idea of showing up unannounced a turn off and violation of boundaries. He says no man will turn down a beautiful woman on his doorstep who shows up with food and a desire for sex. Please chime in.
That’s bad advice, especially if dating only for a short time.
No real man would like it.
If she’s trying to surprise him to check if he’s dating other women, fine and good for her. But if she thinks it’s some kind of move that would make the guy be more attracted to her, she’s totally wrong.
Anonymous
04/20/2025 10:29
Subject: Coming over unannounced
Anonymous wrote:What are your thoughts on coming over unannounced when dating for a short amount of time? A male friend tried to convince me that the reason I’m having a hard time getting into a committed relationship is because I’m not aggressive enough, and I need to do bold acts like this. I find the idea of showing up unannounced a turn off and violation of boundaries. He says no man will turn down a beautiful woman on his doorstep who shows up with food and a desire for sex. Please chime in.
If your intended beloved is sick or facing some work or family related stress, it would be nice to go to his place with care package or food or invite him to your place to pamper but even though it's spontaneous and unplanned, text and check if they are indeed available.
Anonymous
04/20/2025 10:22
Subject: Coming over unannounced
Anonymous wrote:I'm so confused. He wants you to show up unannounced with your sexy self on his doorstep with a home cooked meal? Girl you can do so much better. How about he shows up with roses and with a reservation to the Ritz Carlton. Don't fall for this BS. How is this even a question. Block this loser. I would rather be alone.
That’s why you are alone. Lol
Anonymous
04/20/2025 08:38
Subject: Coming over unannounced
Don't take dating advice from this friend.
He sounds beta and at least not aggressive himself. Most guys would not like this. When my relatives were dating and women tried to show up unannounced my relatives would leave them standing on the porch. It became a running family joke for one cousin eventually.
Unless the guy is super duper into you this doesn't end well. Respect boundaries.
He sounds beta and at least not aggressive himself. Most guys would not like this. When my relatives were dating and women tried to show up unannounced my relatives would leave them standing on the porch. It became a running family joke for one cousin eventually.
Unless the guy is super duper into you this doesn't end well. Respect boundaries.
Anonymous
04/19/2025 20:05
Subject: Coming over unannounced
Anonymous wrote:I'm so confused. He wants you to show up unannounced with your sexy self on his doorstep with a home cooked meal? Girl you can do so much better. How about he shows up with roses and with a reservation to the Ritz Carlton. Don't fall for this BS. How is this even a question. Block this loser. I would rather be alone.
NP. You know, this all makes much more sense if it's someone posting as if "a friend" had "told them" this, but it's really that they had an idea and are running it up the flagpole and seeing if anyone salutes
Anonymous
04/19/2025 18:39
Subject: Coming over unannounced
This is one of those maneuvers for TV, not real life.
Anonymous
04/19/2025 18:38
Subject: Coming over unannounced
Anonymous wrote:What are your thoughts on coming over unannounced when dating for a short amount of time? A male friend tried to convince me that the reason I’m having a hard time getting into a committed relationship is because I’m not aggressive enough, and I need to do bold acts like this. I find the idea of showing up unannounced a turn off and violation of boundaries. He says no man will turn down a beautiful woman on his doorstep who shows up with food and a desire for sex. Please chime in.
Are you STILL with him?
Anonymous
04/19/2025 18:36
Subject: Coming over unannounced
Don't ever, ever do this.
Anonymous
04/19/2025 18:36
Subject: Coming over unannounced
Your male friend may be sabotaging you on purpose.
Anonymous
04/19/2025 18:32
Subject: Coming over unannounced
It's rude and desperate. Don't do it. I definitely would not appreciate it.
I remember my mother doing this once when someone canceled a date on her and she was paranoid he was with another woman; she made one of those "cup-a-soup" things and took it to his house. Didn't even make him any real soup. He answered the door sick AF, and knew full well what she was doing.
I remember my mother doing this once when someone canceled a date on her and she was paranoid he was with another woman; she made one of those "cup-a-soup" things and took it to his house. Didn't even make him any real soup. He answered the door sick AF, and knew full well what she was doing.
Anonymous
04/19/2025 17:40
Subject: Coming over unannounced
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your friend is an idiot
It’s his stupid porn hub fantasy or something, but I guarantee that if someone he was dating just showed up on unannounced, he would think she was a psycho stalker.
OP here. the topic came up because he dates lots of women and many of them behave like this and he likes it. I told him this seems unhealthy to me and like boundary violation. He said they are aggressive and end up becoming his girlfriend because they insist on it.
I would NEVER do something like this. I was complaining that healthy people like me just end up single, and he said this is the reason why.
What a liar he is. He wants you to show up so you can see who he has besides you. You’re nuts to see him again.
Anonymous
04/19/2025 16:05
Subject: Coming over unannounced
That's on a case-by-case basis and usually after mutual trust has been established.
Anonymous
04/19/2025 16:01
Subject: Coming over unannounced
Anonymous wrote:What are your thoughts on coming over unannounced when dating for a short amount of time? A male friend tried to convince me that the reason I’m having a hard time getting into a committed relationship is because I’m not aggressive enough, and I need to do bold acts like this. I find the idea of showing up unannounced a turn off and violation of boundaries. He says no man will turn down a beautiful woman on his doorstep who shows up with food and a desire for sex. Please chime in.
It's all fun and games until you walk in on him doing something that makes you both freak out.
JK JK
This is really more of a cultural or even personal thing. People sometimes call before showing up, or some people just show up and bang on the door to say hi, and some, like close friends or family, just walk on in without announcing.