Anonymous
04/11/2025 22:49
Subject: Middle age married zero sex
Anonymous wrote:Serious question: My DW has a low sex drive. I augment the acceptable way -- I go solo. Every chance I get. Why is that not an option for everyone?
Affairs are so incredibly complicated. Sex workers are expensive and honestly, ew. An orgasm is an orgasm. What's the big deal?
Seriously. Get to be friends with Rosie Palm and her 5 sisters and keep talking with your spouse.
Don't lie and break trust.
Anonymous
04/11/2025 22:43
Subject: Middle age married zero sex
Anonymous wrote:She has cancer. She needs to be on my health insurance, so we can’t get divorced. There is nothing to talk about in therapy. I will just sound like an a$$hole.
Troll
Anonymous
04/11/2025 22:26
Subject: Re:Middle age married zero sex
I would consider the fact that you are conflict avoidant if you can't just have this conversation with your spouse. Do you fear her reaction because it will make you feel uncomfortable? So therefore, you'll just lie and potentially manifest the divorce that you say you don't want.
Honesty is your friend.
Honesty is your friend.
Anonymous
04/11/2025 21:53
Subject: Middle age married zero sex
Anonymous wrote:This thread needs to be saved and re-posted every time someone claims sex is a need.
No, it isn’t.
You want sex. Your spouse has cancer. What did you think the “in sickness” part of your vows meant?
Truly you’re the least attractive man on all of DCUM today and I include the gross red-pillers in the politics forum. I hope you are a troll but regardless you’re truly disgusting.
OP said someone pretending to be him started talking about cancer.
Anonymous
04/11/2025 21:40
Subject: Middle age married zero sex
Anonymous wrote:Serious question: My DW has a low sex drive. I augment the acceptable way -- I go solo. Every chance I get. Why is that not an option for everyone?
Affairs are so incredibly complicated. Sex workers are expensive and honestly, ew. An orgasm is an orgasm. What's the big deal?
+1.
Anonymous
04/11/2025 21:37
Subject: Middle age married zero sex
Serious question: My DW has a low sex drive. I augment the acceptable way -- I go solo. Every chance I get. Why is that not an option for everyone?
Affairs are so incredibly complicated. Sex workers are expensive and honestly, ew. An orgasm is an orgasm. What's the big deal?
Affairs are so incredibly complicated. Sex workers are expensive and honestly, ew. An orgasm is an orgasm. What's the big deal?
Anonymous
04/11/2025 21:37
Subject: Middle age married zero sex
Anonymous wrote:So. I asked for therapy and she doesn’t want. I prefer not to divorce.
The honest thing is to divorce, but I don’t want it yet.
I see most people in unhappy marriages in that situation. If divorce and therapy are out of the menu of options, then what is the next step?
You asked for therapy in the 20 minutes since saying you didn’t want therapy because you would sound like an a$$hole?
Troll.
Anonymous
04/11/2025 21:34
Subject: Middle age married zero sex
This thread needs to be saved and re-posted every time someone claims sex is a need.
No, it isn’t.
You want sex. Your spouse has cancer. What did you think the “in sickness” part of your vows meant?
Truly you’re the least attractive man on all of DCUM today and I include the gross red-pillers in the politics forum. I hope you are a troll but regardless you’re truly disgusting.
No, it isn’t.
You want sex. Your spouse has cancer. What did you think the “in sickness” part of your vows meant?
Truly you’re the least attractive man on all of DCUM today and I include the gross red-pillers in the politics forum. I hope you are a troll but regardless you’re truly disgusting.
Anonymous
04/11/2025 21:32
Subject: Re:Middle age married zero sex
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If she didn't have cancer, would you be divorcing? IOW, if she didn't need your health insurance, would this marriage be over? If the answer is yes, and you both agree with that, then I don't see why it wouldn't be appropriate for you to have sex with a third party, so long as you disclose this and so long as you don't sleep with your spouse and thereby possibly expose her to STIs.
If she didn’t have cancer, we would still be having sex, so no. And I don’t want to divorce. I love her. I just need sex.
How do you see having an affair going? I love my cancer-stricken wife but I want you to help me cheat on her? How do you think you’re not going to come across like scum? Or are you just planning to lie to two women?
Anonymous
04/11/2025 20:49
Subject: Middle age married zero sex
Anonymous wrote:You are an a*$hole for even thinking this way.
So much so even his hand is rejecting him. Pitiful.
Anonymous
04/11/2025 20:47
Subject: Re:Middle age married zero sex
Her saying she doesn't want therapy does not equal a gag order against you saying, "I can't go without sex any longer."
You just say those words out loud. That's what you do.
Anything else means that you are willing to rob her of her autonomy. Two wrongs don't make a right.
You just say those words out loud. That's what you do.
Anything else means that you are willing to rob her of her autonomy. Two wrongs don't make a right.
Anonymous
04/11/2025 20:32
Subject: Re:Middle age married zero sex
Anonymous wrote:If she didn't have cancer, would you be divorcing? IOW, if she didn't need your health insurance, would this marriage be over? If the answer is yes, and you both agree with that, then I don't see why it wouldn't be appropriate for you to have sex with a third party, so long as you disclose this and so long as you don't sleep with your spouse and thereby possibly expose her to STIs.
If she didn’t have cancer, we would still be having sex, so no. And I don’t want to divorce. I love her. I just need sex.
Anonymous
04/11/2025 19:50
Subject: Re:Middle age married zero sex
If she didn't have cancer, would you be divorcing? IOW, if she didn't need your health insurance, would this marriage be over? If the answer is yes, and you both agree with that, then I don't see why it wouldn't be appropriate for you to have sex with a third party, so long as you disclose this and so long as you don't sleep with your spouse and thereby possibly expose her to STIs.
Anonymous
04/11/2025 19:45
Subject: Middle age married zero sex
Anonymous wrote:So. I asked for therapy and she doesn’t want. I prefer not to divorce.
The honest thing is to divorce, but I don’t want it yet.
I see most people in unhappy marriages in that situation. If divorce and therapy are out of the menu of options, then what is the next step?
Get some new hobbies that make you happy and glad to be alive that don't involve cheating on a spouse with cancer.
Anonymous
04/11/2025 19:42
Subject: Middle age married zero sex
You are an a*$hole for even thinking this way.