Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 21:22     Subject: Too many doctor's appointments?
Anonymous wrote:Your teenagers should be able to go to the dentist or dermatologist without you. If something comes up that you need to be involved in the decision making of, the kid or doctor can call or FaceTime you during the appointment. I started going to the ortho and dentist alone when I was 12 and to the allergist and pediatrician alone when I was 15 or 16.


An adult should go.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 21:18     Subject: Too many doctor's appointments?
Things like dental cleanings and dermatologist you should be stacking together on one day and taking PTO that day. If it’s a 30 min video consult I think it’s fine but if it’s a 90 min appointment plus travel back and forth then that’s a lot. Especially when it’s not even for you but for your kid.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 21:05     Subject: Too many doctor's appointments?
I'd be worried that my boss noticed. The job market isn't great right now.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 20:57     Subject: Too many doctor's appointments?
Anonymous wrote:As a teen I rode my bike and went to dermatologist, dentist and orthodontist on my own.

The world was different a thousand years ago, Great-gramps.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 19:53     Subject: Too many doctor's appointments?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:As a teen I rode my bike and went to dermatologist, dentist and orthodontist on my own.


We once sent our teen alone to the orthodontist and they called to let us know that wasn’t allowed. I don’t think a parent ever accompanied me to the ortho when I had braces.


I agree - this is a ridiculous suggestion.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 19:50     Subject: Too many doctor's appointments?
Anonymous wrote:As a teen I rode my bike and went to dermatologist, dentist and orthodontist on my own.


We once sent our teen alone to the orthodontist and they called to let us know that wasn’t allowed. I don’t think a parent every accompanied me to the ortho when I had braces.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 19:42     Subject: Too many doctor's appointments?
Anonymous wrote:How many doctors appointments do your teens have? I have a kid with disabilities and we don't have that many. My teens also go to routine dental and orthodontist appointments by themselves.


+1
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 19:38     Subject: Too many doctor's appointments?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Eye opening - H used to take DCs to many (not all) doctor's appointments in the past, but since he moved away for work, I have to do all doctor's appointments. They're not little anymore, and it's more serious stuff - sports injuries, dermatologists, therapy etc. or simple things like dental cleaning. I can't send a nanny with them - it's not fair and it's also not recommendable because I need to know about instructions and make decisions in some instances. My boss complained that I have too many doctor's appointments. I think that's rude and bizarre. She's a someone who used to have a SAHD (kids are now in college). What do you think about this?


Your nanny can drive them to therapy, dental and other basic stuff.


I don't have a nanny. My salary would not cover this additional expense.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 19:34     Subject: Too many doctor's appointments?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Try to schedule as many appointments as possible on one day and you take off work for the day and that will be MUCH less disruptive to your job.


How is it less disruptive to disappear an entire day than just 2 hours 3 times or so? That would leave at least 6 hours left to do a lot of the work, or all of it.


Taking one day off once a month is much easier than being gone Wednesday from 8-10 and then next Tuesday from 2:30-4:45, etc.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 19:34     Subject: Too many doctor's appointments?
Anonymous wrote:Eye opening - H used to take DCs to many (not all) doctor's appointments in the past, but since he moved away for work, I have to do all doctor's appointments. They're not little anymore, and it's more serious stuff - sports injuries, dermatologists, therapy etc. or simple things like dental cleaning. I can't send a nanny with them - it's not fair and it's also not recommendable because I need to know about instructions and make decisions in some instances. My boss complained that I have too many doctor's appointments. I think that's rude and bizarre. She's a someone who used to have a SAHD (kids are now in college). What do you think about this?


Your nanny can drive them to therapy, dental and other basic stuff.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 19:30     Subject: Too many doctor's appointments?
Anonymous wrote:As a teen I rode my bike and went to dermatologist, dentist and orthodontist on my own.



This was me too except I took the bus or metro rather than my bike
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 19:30     Subject: Too many doctor's appointments?
Anonymous wrote:Do you not have to take PTO for those kind of absences? Or at least use Flex Time? If you are just kind of disappearing from work for a couple hours every two weeks, I could see why she might be saying something.



It's not a few hours every two weeks. It's maybe 1-2 hours at most, sometimes every two weeks, sometimes less. I don't keep track. It's never every week though. I don't know where it's coming from, I am exempt, I work after hours as well. I think she's annoyed because I had to take FMLA (that's unpaid anyway) and now she complains about literally everything since I returned.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 19:30     Subject: Too many doctor's appointments?
Your teenagers should be able to go to the dentist or dermatologist without you. If something comes up that you need to be involved in the decision making of, the kid or doctor can call or FaceTime you during the appointment. I started going to the ortho and dentist alone when I was 12 and to the allergist and pediatrician alone when I was 15 or 16.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 19:30     Subject: Too many doctor's appointments?
As a teen I rode my bike and went to dermatologist, dentist and orthodontist on my own.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 19:27     Subject: Too many doctor's appointments?
Do you not have to take PTO for those kind of absences? Or at least use Flex Time? If you are just kind of disappearing from work for a couple hours every two weeks, I could see why she might be saying something.