Anonymous
Post 04/05/2025 09:08     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
I used to live in countries where I had full-time, or 6 hours a day, housekeepers. It was wonderful.
Then I had weekly cleaners in the 2000s. When we moved to the DMV, due to the high cost of living and our salaries, we couldn't afford it.
Now, I have two women come once a month, and it is wonderful. I would prefer it weekly or twice per month, but not adding cost as I don't know what the future brings for DH's and my job.
Anonymous
Post 04/05/2025 06:59     Subject: Re:Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Everybody ought to have a working girl

Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 23:33     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Life changing - you all should get one now.


Great.
Hire, train, and manage the cleaning lady.

Tidy up and organize things before she comes each time too, so she can actually scrub, dust or clean surfaces areas and floors.


You're just trying to convince yourself not to do it for some reason.

Here's how the hiring process went.

Me to neighbor who has cleaner: You like your cleaner?
Them: Yes, here's their number.
Me: thanks

Me (texting cleaner): can you clean my house?
Cleaner: Yes, be there on Tuesday
Me: thanks

Here's how the training process went:

Me: So, yeah, the whole first floor, the basement playroom, upstairs but not the master bedroom.
Cleaner: Got it.

Here's how the managing goes:

Me: So here's a key, I'll venmo you when you're done.
Cleaner: Okay!

Here's how the decluttering process goes:

Me: Sorry we didnt' pick up more, is this okay?
Cleaner: this is great!

That's it. That's all. And frankly, the amount of hassle it would have to entail to be worse than the stress of spending my weeks irritated because me and the wife are too busy to clean up enough and my weekends feeling swamped because we can never catch up... would have to be really high.


We’ve had cleaners since before Covid. It’s nice to disinfects bathrooms and kitchens routinely. But the kids and messier people convert it back within 1-2 days.

Now paying intelligent organizers or housekeepers to come seasonally is better.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 23:26     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:Yes if my family could pick up their crap from surfaces, I’d get one too.


this is why i got rid of mine. family wouldn't pick up their sh!t before she was coming!
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 23:25     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Lmao
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 23:25     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes if my family could pick up their crap from surfaces, I’d get one too.


My wife’s excuse for years was that the house was too cluttered and we just needed to declutter it and we could

A)get ahead of the mess
B) talk about a cleaning person

But guess what? They decluttered for us. And magically all our seasonal allergies went away because they were actually dust allergies.


Cool, yes they stack up your mess and move it from area to area to clean under it.

By the end of the month you’ll have several stacks of stuff you should process. Cool.


I can have no stacks and a dirty house or I can have several stacks and a clean house. So, very cool. Also, I have the time and energy to take care of a couple of stacks. So, now I have a clean house and no stacks.


Wait, you live alone or with only one other adult person?!
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 23:25     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Check back after two months when you count the cobwebs and see cut corners. Or broken items.
Anonymous
Post 04/04/2025 21:48     Subject: Re:Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
I would LOVE to have someone come into my home, 1x/wk to deep clean everything - most especially the kitchen + bathroom.
🪣🧽🧼🧹
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2025 20:33     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes if my family could pick up their crap from surfaces, I’d get one too.


My wife’s excuse for years was that the house was too cluttered and we just needed to declutter it and we could

A)get ahead of the mess
B) talk about a cleaning person

But guess what? They decluttered for us. And magically all our seasonal allergies went away because they were actually dust allergies.


Cool, yes they stack up your mess and move it from area to area to clean under it.

By the end of the month you’ll have several stacks of stuff you should process. Cool.


I can have no stacks and a dirty house or I can have several stacks and a clean house. So, very cool. Also, I have the time and energy to take care of a couple of stacks. So, now I have a clean house and no stacks.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2025 20:32     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Life changing - you all should get one now.


Great.
Hire, train, and manage the cleaning lady.

Tidy up and organize things before she comes each time too, so she can actually scrub, dust or clean surfaces areas and floors.


You're just trying to convince yourself not to do it for some reason.

Here's how the hiring process went.

Me to neighbor who has cleaner: You like your cleaner?
Them: Yes, here's their number.
Me: thanks

Me (texting cleaner): can you clean my house?
Cleaner: Yes, be there on Tuesday
Me: thanks

Here's how the training process went:

Me: So, yeah, the whole first floor, the basement playroom, upstairs but not the master bedroom.
Cleaner: Got it.

Here's how the managing goes:

Me: So here's a key, I'll venmo you when you're done.
Cleaner: Okay!

Here's how the decluttering process goes:

Me: Sorry we didnt' pick up more, is this okay?
Cleaner: this is great!

That's it. That's all. And frankly, the amount of hassle it would have to entail to be worse than the stress of spending my weeks irritated because me and the wife are too busy to clean up enough and my weekends feeling swamped because we can never catch up... would have to be really high.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2025 19:49     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:Tell my husband, not me.


Same. We revisit this conversation frequently.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2025 19:43     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Do it just to get his pee and pubes off all the toilet seats.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2025 19:42     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes if my family could pick up their crap from surfaces, I’d get one too.


My wife’s excuse for years was that the house was too cluttered and we just needed to declutter it and we could

A)get ahead of the mess
B) talk about a cleaning person

But guess what? They decluttered for us. And magically all our seasonal allergies went away because they were actually dust allergies.


Cool, yes they stack up your mess and move it from area to area to clean under it.

By the end of the month you’ll have several stacks of stuff you should process. Cool.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2025 19:41     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
Anonymous wrote:Life changing - you all should get one now.


Great.
Hire, train, and manage the cleaning lady.

Tidy up and organize things before she comes each time too, so she can actually scrub, dust or clean surfaces areas and floors.
Anonymous
Post 04/02/2025 19:32     Subject: Wife finally agreed to a cleaning lady
If you are working your DH doesn't need to agree.