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Anonymous wrote:No. One year of living alone after a difficult relationship is just healing, OP, and you need it. But it doesn't mean that companionship is over-rated. I think it's under-rated, actually. We need meaningful human connections to keep us from lacking empathy... the opposite of what one billionaire thinks. But those connections don't necessarily have to be romantic, and they don't necessarily mean you need to share your private spaces. Broaden your mind.

You probably misunderstand what that billionaire meant.

Point is, his autism warps his worldview. He himself doesn't need human connection, and he thinks empathy is over-rated. He's wrong.

He's not wrong. Empathy is fine and needed on a micro, interpersonal level, but it does not scale well.

You need a history refresher.

Empathy is what got you limited daily work hours, work-free weekends, paid time off, and sick leave.
Empathy is what got you the modern healthcare system, however flawed it is in the US.
Empathy is what got people pensions, and social security.
Empathy is what got people CPS (child protective services), and a nationwide alert system to look for missing children.

You have no clue how much you owe to people before you who were thoughtful and caring and who wanted others to live long and healthy lives and have some joy in the process.

You are so, so, blind. What a little worm you are.

Yeah, no. Empathy is what has idiots try to craft policy tailored to the feelings of exceptional edge cases, no matter what distortions or malign second and third order effects it brings for the majority. Empathy is what has people trying to humanize and cater to enemies who could give two shits about you, your family or their wellbeing. Empathy leads to the relaxation of standards and the degradation of culture that will eventually have you usurped by enemies who care not. Try again.

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Anonymous wrote:No. One year of living alone after a difficult relationship is just healing, OP, and you need it. But it doesn't mean that companionship is over-rated. I think it's under-rated, actually. We need meaningful human connections to keep us from lacking empathy... the opposite of what one billionaire thinks. But those connections don't necessarily have to be romantic, and they don't necessarily mean you need to share your private spaces. Broaden your mind.

You probably misunderstand what that billionaire meant.

Point is, his autism warps his worldview. He himself doesn't need human connection, and he thinks empathy is over-rated. He's wrong.

He's not wrong. Empathy is fine and needed on a micro, interpersonal level, but it does not scale well.

You need a history refresher.

Empathy is what got you limited daily work hours, work-free weekends, paid time off, and sick leave.
Empathy is what got you the modern healthcare system, however flawed it is in the US.
Empathy is what got people pensions, and social security.
Empathy is what got people CPS (child protective services), and a nationwide alert system to look for missing children.

You have no clue how much you owe to people before you who were thoughtful and caring and who wanted others to live long and healthy lives and have some joy in the process.

You are so, so, blind. What a little worm you are.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes we are. Women scream all they long they don't need a man but they are lying. The extent to which women go not be alone is crazy.

Puh-lease. Men approached my mother all the time after she got divorced from my father and she was not interested. She found happiness with friends and family, no man needed. Millions of women do this and drop out of the dating pool.

They wanted your mom's vagina

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Anonymous wrote:No. One year of living alone after a difficult relationship is just healing, OP, and you need it. But it doesn't mean that companionship is over-rated. I think it's under-rated, actually. We need meaningful human connections to keep us from lacking empathy... the opposite of what one billionaire thinks. But those connections don't necessarily have to be romantic, and they don't necessarily mean you need to share your private spaces. Broaden your mind.

You probably misunderstand what that billionaire meant.

Point is, his autism warps his worldview. He himself doesn't need human connection, and he thinks empathy is over-rated. He's wrong.

He's not wrong. Empathy is fine and needed on a micro, interpersonal level, but it does not scale well.

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Anonymous wrote:It's now been 1 year since I have been divorced and I am honestly enjoying being alone. I no longer have to abide by some rules from someone who thinks our household has to be led according to their rules. And I can go to bed whenever I want and have undisturbed sleep. When I am out late at work or on a business trip I don't have to to worry about someone swearing on their end that I am cheating despite having never cheated. I can go on and on.. We have 50/50 custody. When I have my kids we have a better time together. My son is a teenager now so he is in his own universe. My daughter is 12 and she really loves me and I love her equally. The time we spent together now is more fulfilling.

I guess some people want daily sex, I don't. It has not been difficult for me to find an attractive woman that was willing to sleep with me. I have a friend who calls me when she wants some and i call her as well when in need of sex. I just won't get into a relationship with anyone.To me it's not worth the hassle.

Some people thought have amazing relationships and I hope it stays that way for them. But for some of us I wonder if we are being forced into a companionship/relationship because that's what adults are supposed to be in....

Is companionship overrated?

Depends on your nature and your companion. You could be a married to a saint but yourself be a bad partner and after breakup feel happy and never realize that problem isn't companionship or the companion but you yourself.

Some people aren't cut out for responsibilities and teamwork. They can't care for others and if put in such equation, want out. That's why knowing yourself is as important as knowing your companion.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it is overrated. Men relish solitude more than women.

Anonymous wrote:I’m with you OP. I’m still married as my kids are young, but I’m absolutely miserable. Counting down the years until I can get out and be on my own. My husband is a narcissistic abuser, I get nothing from him but financial security and maybe the thought that our children will have an ok life (but they won’t because of his abuse patterns). I hate how my life has turned out and wish that I could get out every day.

Anonymous wrote:It's now been 1 year since I have been divorced and I am honestly enjoying being alone. I no longer have to abide by some rules from someone who thinks our household has to be led according to their rules. And I can go to bed whenever I want and have undisturbed sleep. When I am out late at work or on a business trip I don't have to to worry about someone swearing on their end that I am cheating despite having never cheated. I can go on and on.. We have 50/50 custody. When I have my kids we have a better time together. My son is a teenager now so he is in his own universe. My daughter is 12 and she really loves me and I love her equally. The time we spent together now is more fulfilling.

I guess some people want daily sex, I don't. It has not been difficult for me to find an attractive woman that was willing to sleep with me. I have a friend who calls me when she wants some and i call her as well when in need of sex. I just won't get into a relationship with anyone.To me it's not worth the hassle.

Some people thought have amazing relationships and I hope it stays that way for them. But for some of us I wonder if we are being forced into a companionship/relationship because that's what adults are supposed to be in....

Is companionship overrated?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes we are. Women scream all they long they don't need a man but they are lying. The extent to which women go not be alone is crazy.

Puh-lease. Men approached my mother all the time after she got divorced from my father and she was not interested. She found happiness with friends and family, no man needed. Millions of women do this and drop out of the dating pool.

Anonymous wrote:Yes we are. Women scream all they long they don't need a man but they are lying. The extent to which women go not be alone is crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:No. One year of living alone after a difficult relationship is just healing, OP, and you need it. But it doesn't mean that companionship is over-rated. I think it's under-rated, actually. We need meaningful human connections to keep us from lacking empathy... the opposite of what one billionaire thinks. But those connections don't necessarily have to be romantic, and they don't necessarily mean you need to share your private spaces. Broaden your mind.

You probably misunderstand what that billionaire meant.

Point is, his autism warps his worldview. He himself doesn't need human connection, and he thinks empathy is over-rated. He's wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:No. One year of living alone after a difficult relationship is just healing, OP, and you need it. But it doesn't mean that companionship is over-rated. I think it's under-rated, actually. We need meaningful human connections to keep us from lacking empathy... the opposite of what one billionaire thinks. But those connections don't necessarily have to be romantic, and they don't necessarily mean you need to share your private spaces. Broaden your mind.

You probably misunderstand what that billionaire meant.

Point is, his autism warps his worldview. He himself doesn't need human connection, and he thinks empathy is over-rated. He's wrong.