Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 09:06     Subject: Anyone regret sending their dc to an OOS college and paying $$$ prices for a state school?
Anonymous wrote:We are making this decision right now. In-state or a marginally better OOS program at a total cost of 100K. Thankfully, DC understands the value of 100K and is leaning toward the in-state option. I will support my child's decision regardless but truthfully I breathed a sigh of relief when DC said she'd rather save the money.


Smart kid!
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 09:06     Subject: Anyone regret sending their dc to an OOS college and paying $$$ prices for a state school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of states where going OOS is a big upgrade over the in-state schools. It just depends what your options are.


Is that perception or reality?


Reality. You seriously think UDC can compete with an R1? And that’s the standard. If your position is that NO person could EVER rationally go OOS, you’re saying UDC over UMich, every time, for every student, even if the student gets a full ride to the OOS school. [/quote]m


Where did anyone say that there would never EVER be a situation one would go OOS?
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 09:03     Subject: Anyone regret sending their dc to an OOS college and paying $$$ prices for a state school?
We are making this decision right now. In-state or a marginally better OOS program at a total cost of 100K. Thankfully, DC understands the value of 100K and is leaning toward the in-state option. I will support my child's decision regardless but truthfully I breathed a sigh of relief when DC said she'd rather save the money.
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 09:02     Subject: Anyone regret sending their dc to an OOS college and paying $$$ prices for a state school?
^ My calculation
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 09:01     Subject: Anyone regret sending their dc to an OOS college and paying $$$ prices for a state school?
Im poster above. I’m steering dc 2 away from pricey OOS publics. I’ll let dc 2 apply to a few but personally I haven’t liked paying $$$ for a state school in another state. Of course if dc 1 had gotten great merit aid etc by calculation might be different, but most of the ‘selective’ OOS publics my dc targeted don’t give much merit aid.
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 08:59     Subject: Anyone regret sending their dc to an OOS college and paying $$$ prices for a state school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of states where going OOS is a big upgrade over the in-state schools. It just depends what your options are.


Is that perception or reality?


Reality. You seriously think UDC can compete with an R1? And that’s the standard. If your position is that NO person could EVER rationally go OOS, you’re saying UDC over UMich, every time, for every student, even if the student gets a full ride to the OOS school.


Dp - some people do get VERY defensive
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 08:57     Subject: Anyone regret sending their dc to an OOS college and paying $$$ prices for a state school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of states where going OOS is a big upgrade over the in-state schools. It just depends what your options are.


Is that perception or reality?


Reality. You seriously think UDC can compete with an R1? And that’s the standard. If your position is that NO person could EVER rationally go OOS, you’re saying UDC over UMich, every time, for every student, even if the student gets a full ride to the OOS school.


Obviously we aren’t talking about full rides OOS. but those are quite rare.
You are bringing up extreme examples and committing a logical fallacy
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 08:56     Subject: Anyone regret sending their dc to an OOS college and paying $$$ prices for a state school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of states where going OOS is a big upgrade over the in-state schools. It just depends what your options are.


Is that perception or reality?


For some states it is perception, but for some it is absolutely reality. There are plenty of states with middling flagships and plenty of other states with great ones which would be an upgrade.


Well most of us posting here are probably from coastal states which arguably all have good publics

I’m not sure how I would ‘absolutely’ know that UVA or U Michigan, lets say bc those are trendy OOS schools where I live, would be so much better than UMD or Rutgers in NJ.

Is that ‘absolutely reality’? On what basis?
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 08:53     Subject: Anyone regret sending their dc to an OOS college and paying $$$ prices for a state school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would but DD did not get accepted so sending to a nearby state and they’re offering merit that comes in at instate rate. Don’t forget instates are very competitive and not everyone gets in.


But did your DD only apply to one? MD has many state schools and it’s hard to imagine getting rejected at all of them and still being accepted at an OOS.

We’re new to this but our DD is going to an in state over the pricier OOS options. Even with merit aid the price over four years was about $35k more for OOS. We visited and then made a list of pros and cons for all of them and couldn’t figure out a good reason to spend that extra $35k. So she chose one of her in state options.


Everyone’s financial situation is different and I’m not here to comment on yours. But for a lot of people an extra $35k in total spread across four years isn’t a dealbreaker.


PP here. $35k was not a dealbreaker for us either. But for us there has to be a good reason to spend an extra $35k and after visiting and considering the costs and benefits, we didn’t see a good reason to spend that extra money. Fortunately our family has common values so it wasn’t an issue.


Right, but my point is that for some people $35k (or $8.75k/year) is not a particularly meaningful amount of money, and so they would decide based on other factors.
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 08:52     Subject: Anyone regret sending their dc to an OOS college and paying $$$ prices for a state school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of states where going OOS is a big upgrade over the in-state schools. It just depends what your options are.


Is that perception or reality?


Reality. You seriously think UDC can compete with an R1? And that’s the standard. If your position is that NO person could EVER rationally go OOS, you’re saying UDC over UMich, every time, for every student, even if the student gets a full ride to the OOS school.
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 08:51     Subject: Anyone regret sending their dc to an OOS college and paying $$$ prices for a state school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of states where going OOS is a big upgrade over the in-state schools. It just depends what your options are.


Is that perception or reality?


For some states it is perception, but for some it is absolutely reality. There are plenty of states with middling flagships and plenty of other states with great ones which would be an upgrade.
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 08:50     Subject: Anyone regret sending their dc to an OOS college and paying $$$ prices for a state school?
I’ll bite. My dc is going to a large OOS public university that is fairly pricey for us (no merit aid), albeit it has a good reputation in his major (and overall). Is it better than our states public options? Honestly, probably not, but it’s of course impossible to make direct comparisons. But I have a second dc and I’m definitely steering dc away from an OOS public.
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 08:48     Subject: Anyone regret sending their dc to an OOS college and paying $$$ prices for a state school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would but DD did not get accepted so sending to a nearby state and they’re offering merit that comes in at instate rate. Don’t forget instates are very competitive and not everyone gets in.


But did your DD only apply to one? MD has many state schools and it’s hard to imagine getting rejected at all of them and still being accepted at an OOS.

We’re new to this but our DD is going to an in state over the pricier OOS options. Even with merit aid the price over four years was about $35k more for OOS. We visited and then made a list of pros and cons for all of them and couldn’t figure out a good reason to spend that extra $35k. So she chose one of her in state options.


Everyone’s financial situation is different and I’m not here to comment on yours. But for a lot of people an extra $35k in total spread across four years isn’t a dealbreaker.


PP here. $35k was not a dealbreaker for us either. But for us there has to be a good reason to spend an extra $35k and after visiting and considering the costs and benefits, we didn’t see a good reason to spend that extra money. Fortunately our family has common values so it wasn’t an issue.
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 08:46     Subject: Anyone regret sending their dc to an OOS college and paying $$$ prices for a state school?
Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of states where going OOS is a big upgrade over the in-state schools. It just depends what your options are.


Is that perception or reality?
Anonymous
Post 03/26/2025 08:45     Subject: Anyone regret sending their dc to an OOS college and paying $$$ prices for a state school?
Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of states where going OOS is a big upgrade over the in-state schools. It just depends what your options are.[/quote

Is that perception or reality, do you think?