I weigh a little less in my 40s than I did at 15 because, at 15, I was a very competitive athlete and had more muscle than I do now. I wasn't overweight then (5'6, 120), but my legs and butt were more muscular than now.

Anonymous wrote:Mine is 140 and she’s 5’5” — she weighs about 20 pounds more than me, but she’s got at least an inch on my height as well. She’s “not happy with her body” she is telling me.
I’m wondering when she’s gonna hit a plateau. She got her period at 12.5 years old.

What are your stats (assuming you are a woman)? More importantly what WERE your stats at 14?

My son is 5'5 and 115. Massive increase in appetite starting around 13th birthday.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re supposed to be 100 lbs at 5 feet and then 5 lbs for each additional inch.

I think it's more like 10 lbs for each additional inch. For instance I am 5'3 and 115 would be underweight from a BMI standpoint, 5'3 130 is right in the middle of "normal".

Unfortunately I have been more like 10 lbs for each additional decade since high school, lol.

I don't think so. I am 5'6" and 130. I am not thin. I am solidly in normal weight. I am 50, and used to be 120 which looks much better on me. 5'6" and 160 is overweight.

Different people are built differently. Britney Spears or Beyoncé are not overweight, but probably weigh much more than Natalie Portman or Kristen Bell.

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Anonymous wrote:5'6" 118. Active, does track. Is your DD active?

volleyball twice a week but she barely breaks a sweat. she walks the dog 30 min the other days of the week. PE a few times a week at middle school.
-OP

I would encourage more activity. Not to give her a complex about her body but sounds like she's not moving enough.

I agree completely. But how do I encourage more activity WITHOUT giving her a complex? that's my struggle. she always says she's so tired. MS starts so early and she doesn't get enough sleep, school is draining, I get it. I hate to be the pestering mom especially when I'm smaller/lighter than her.
-OP

Make sure she gets enough sleep. Electronics away no later than 10pm. Nutritious food and a multi-vitamin. Limited junk food availability (occasional treat of course, but not staple in diet). Keep fresh food and veggies on hand for snacking. She should not be that tired. My middle schooler sometimes comes home tired, but more often is full of energy when she comes home. If you can, take a brisk walk with her after dinner and chat about her day. Do more active things as a family on the weekends. More activity will make her feel better, and give her a stronger body and more energy. Focus on that part, not weight.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re supposed to be 100 lbs at 5 feet and then 5 lbs for each additional inch.

I think it's more like 10 lbs for each additional inch. For instance I am 5'3 and 115 would be underweight from a BMI standpoint, 5'3 130 is right in the middle of "normal".

Unfortunately I have been more like 10 lbs for each additional decade since high school, lol.

Then you are overweight.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re supposed to be 100 lbs at 5 feet and then 5 lbs for each additional inch.

I think it's more like 10 lbs for each additional inch. For instance I am 5'3 and 115 would be underweight from a BMI standpoint, 5'3 130 is right in the middle of "normal".

Unfortunately I have been more like 10 lbs for each additional decade since high school, lol.

Then you are overweight.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re supposed to be 100 lbs at 5 feet and then 5 lbs for each additional inch.

I think it's more like 10 lbs for each additional inch. For instance I am 5'3 and 115 would be underweight from a BMI standpoint, 5'3 130 is right in the middle of "normal".

Unfortunately I have been more like 10 lbs for each additional decade since high school, lol.

I don't think so. I am 5'6" and 130. I am not thin. I am solidly in normal weight. I am 50, and used to be 120 which looks much better on me. 5'6" and 160 is overweight.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re supposed to be 100 lbs at 5 feet and then 5 lbs for each additional inch.

I think it's more like 10 lbs for each additional inch. For instance I am 5'3 and 115 would be underweight from a BMI standpoint, 5'3 130 is right in the middle of "normal".

Unfortunately I have been more like 10 lbs for each additional decade since high school, lol.

No not at all. That’s just overweight then.

Mine is 5'3" and 125ish. She is very active, and has tons of muscle, but also is not a small kid. She has always been a bit bigger (even when she had a six-pack) and never had the skinny-leg phase, if that makes sense.

She doesn't discuss often, but has occasionally been worried about her size. Because she is so into her sports, we focus on what her body is able to do, and how she needs to eat healthily to stay healthy. We discuss food as a whole family, and getting enough healthy protein along with paying attention to how we feel when we eat certain foods. I think similarly with exercise, you may need to up regular walks/hikes/bike rides as a whole family. It's the perfect season to get outside more...

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Anonymous wrote:5'6" 118. Active, does track. Is your DD active?

volleyball twice a week but she barely breaks a sweat. she walks the dog 30 min the other days of the week. PE a few times a week at middle school.
-OP

I would encourage more activity. Not to give her a complex about her body but sounds like she's not moving enough.

I agree completely. But how do I encourage more activity WITHOUT giving her a complex? that's my struggle. she always says she's so tired. MS starts so early and she doesn't get enough sleep, school is draining, I get it. I hate to be the pestering mom especially when I'm smaller/lighter than her.
-OP

I think you need to completely remove weight or body discussions from anything and make it more about getting her energy back and feeling good. She is not doing much activity so really shouldn't be tired. My 12-15 year olds are all in sports at school each season and club sports after school. I really find that on days when things are cancelled b/c of weather or whatever, they have less energy and are kind of blah. At the same time, they haven't used up enough energy so aren't tired and end up doing stupid stuff and staying up later than on nights when they are scrambling after sports to get the homework done and go to bed early. They sleep a lot better and earlier when their bodies are tired from sports. Can you put her in a more serious v-ball program? She could do a club team w/ practices that are intense and more frequent. Any other sports she likes? If not, it's not too late to sign her up for tennis lessons, dance or rec soccer. I'd just get her in things where she is moving a lot more and she'll feel better.

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Anonymous wrote:You’re supposed to be 100 lbs at 5 feet and then 5 lbs for each additional inch.

I think it's more like 10 lbs for each additional inch. For instance I am 5'3 and 115 would be underweight from a BMI standpoint, 5'3 130 is right in the middle of "normal".

Unfortunately I have been more like 10 lbs for each additional decade since high school, lol.

So my 5’11” DD should be 210 pounds?

My niece is 13 and is 5’6” and 120 pounds.

She is not you, OP. Your weight is irrelevant to hers. It’s normal for girls to add a little excess fat to their bodies at this age. When parents freak out about it, it can do a lifetime of harm. Just keep modeling activity and providing a range of nutritious foods. My teenagers hates to exercise to the point of sweating, but she’ll do brisk walks, so we do those together as often as possible.

Anonymous wrote:You’re supposed to be 100 lbs at 5 feet and then 5 lbs for each additional inch.

I think it's more like 10 lbs for each additional inch. For instance I am 5'3 and 115 would be underweight from a BMI standpoint, 5'3 130 is right in the middle of "normal".

Unfortunately I have been more like 10 lbs for each additional decade since high school, lol.