Anonymous wrote:Holy Child

Do you live in LALA land?

Not only does Holy Child have mean girl clicks, some of the girls were kicked out of other schools psychological problems.

No school is perfect. However Holy Child is not immune to mean girls

Anonymous wrote:Holy Child

What? No.

9th grade AHC. Great group of girls.

There are mean girls and boys everywhere. Don’t kid yourself.

Anonymous wrote:Madeira. Friends shift; groups change; people get upset with other people; people find new close friendships. You know, like life. But there isn't a "ruling" class or popular crowd that determines the social scene, and everyone finds a friend group that fits.

+1

They tend to select a great cohort of kind, supportive girls.

Anonymous wrote:I have two girls in upper school at NCS and neither has encountered mean girls at any point.

I think if your daughter fits the mold there and has all the right socioeconomic clout to go with it, perhaps she won’t encounter any of the “mean girl” stuff. If there are any quirks, home issues or learning concerns, there could be some bumps in the road for her at NCS. Just my two cents

Holton

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I’ve always said my son’s friend group has more “queen bee” and “mean girls” types than my daughter’s.

As a teacher I see this too. In the boy groups there is always an obvious “leader”. Sometimes this kid is a nice kid who the others look up too but often it’s a mean kid who the others are afraid to upset. I also see boys instigating a lot of drama that is seen as “girl drama”.

Anonymous wrote:When will people realize this mean girl cliche is rooted in misogyny. Girls and boys both have social growing pains in their teen years when trying to find themselves and the group they click with. Some teen girls are jerks, same for teen boys. I have 2 girls.

I have spoke to many parents of girls regarding their school choice and social dynamics. There has only been 1 person who claims their school was overran with mean girls and that person had a daughter that was clearly the issue.

I don’t agree with the part about the mean girl dynamic being rooted in misogyny. I just think boys and girls develop differently and the hormones that flare up as a result of puberty impact social structures. This plays out very differently at all girls vs coed MS. DD did not have a great experience at SR MS but by US the issues from MS disapated. I think it has less to do with the place (school) than it does with the particular cocktail of hormones + personalities. Some classes will have less drama and others more.

Anonymous wrote:When will people realize this mean girl cliche is rooted in misogyny. Girls and boys both have social growing pains in their teen years when trying to find themselves and the group they click with. Some teen girls are jerks, same for teen boys. I have 2 girls.

I have spoke to many parents of girls regarding their school choice and social dynamics. There has only been 1 person who claims their school was overran with mean girls and that person had a daughter that was clearly the issue.

I’ve always said my son’s friend group has more “queen bee” and “mean girls” types than my daughter’s.

When will people realize this mean girl cliche is rooted in misogyny. Girls and boys both have social growing pains in their teen years when trying to find themselves and the group they click with. Some teen girls are jerks, same for teen boys. I have 2 girls.

I have spoke to many parents of girls regarding their school choice and social dynamics. There has only been 1 person who claims their school was overran with mean girls and that person had a daughter that was clearly the issue.

I have two girls in upper school at NCS and neither has encountered mean girls at any point.

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Anonymous wrote:We haven’t had it at NCS. I think it’s class specific.

Or your kid is one of them.

Agree - heard too many stories from friends there

Same. When I read the title, NCS came to mind first.

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Anonymous wrote:We haven’t had it at NCS. I think it’s class specific.

Or your kid is one of them.

Agree - heard too many stories from friends there

No problems at St Andrews