Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:At that age, kids are not going to respond well to being corrected by another kid. Especially a kid lower on the social totem pole.
It is what it is.
Your DD should just sit in a different seat.
If she wants to, she can ask the teacher privately at another time (or email the teacher) to ask the teacher to handle this issue.
Why are you keep suggesting a hierarchy here? Are you on a lower social totem pole when you interact with richer people, people with more social influence, people who yell louder? Do you let them do whatever they want to you? Do you give your rights away because what they are on a higher social totem pole? I’ll never instill that kind of mindset to my kids! She doesn’t swap seats if she is not willing to! Let alone these are just rude kids she is dealing with.
+1. Ms Hierarchy is way wrong.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:At that age, kids are not going to respond well to being corrected by another kid. Especially a kid lower on the social totem pole.
It is what it is.
Your DD should just sit in a different seat.
If she wants to, she can ask the teacher privately at another time (or email the teacher) to ask the teacher to handle this issue.
Why are you keep suggesting a hierarchy here? Are you on a lower social totem pole when you interact with richer people, people with more social influence, people who yell louder? Do you let them do whatever they want to you? Do you give your rights away because what they are on a higher social totem pole? I’ll never instill that kind of mindset to my kids! She doesn’t swap seats if she is not willing to! Let alone these are just rude kids she is dealing with.
Anonymous wrote:At that age, kids are not going to respond well to being corrected by another kid. Especially a kid lower on the social totem pole.
It is what it is.
Your DD should just sit in a different seat.
If she wants to, she can ask the teacher privately at another time (or email the teacher) to ask the teacher to handle this issue.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a pretty crappy school. She needs to toughed up or learn to fight back.
It’s actually sad because it’s one of the top pyramids. Most of these kids are from pretty rich families. They all have the latest of everything. I assume the parents are well educated in this area. I honestly don’t know why some kids are so mean.
You think money makes people nice?
Did you not go to middle school in the US?
Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a teacher issue. She knows the kid sits in the other kids' seat, and has taken no action. She is basically allowing bullying and forcing your DD to handle this situation on her own, although it is the teacher who has assigned the seats. Teacher needs to fix it.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a pretty crappy school. She needs to toughed up or learn to fight back.
It’s actually sad because it’s one of the top pyramids. Most of these kids are from pretty rich families. They all have the latest of everything. I assume the parents are well educated in this area. I honestly don’t know why some kids are so mean.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Many middle schoolers don’t like when their peers try to enforce rules.
Your kid needs to figure out the pecking order or figure out how to project toughness. Preferably both.
It sucks but that’s been the reality of American middle schools for decades and it’s only getting worse.
Happy to hear more about projecting toughness in such case. Any advice on what to say or behave? But tbh I don’t quite agree with the pecking order thing.
According to my dd (just realized I typed ds above), this girl is one of the group of “popular” kids at school. Very stereotypical group that is loud, not listening, and ONLY cares about fashion, social media and attractiveness to the other gender. I’m not going to tell my dd that she and her group is at a lower level in the “hierarchy” at school. That’s ridiculous!!
So you acknowledge she’s popular. Your daughter needs to figure it out for herself, like I said.
I do acknowledge it. However, not the type of popularity I want my child to have anyway. The popularity here is defined by visibility and attention, dominance in social circles, skewed by current school values and trends, and caused by immaturity. I’m not sure there is anything I want my child to figure it out for herself here. It’s a fact, doesn’t mean it’s right.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Many middle schoolers don’t like when their peers try to enforce rules.
Your kid needs to figure out the pecking order or figure out how to project toughness. Preferably both.
It sucks but that’s been the reality of American middle schools for decades and it’s only getting worse.
Happy to hear more about projecting toughness in such case. Any advice on what to say or behave? But tbh I don’t quite agree with the pecking order thing.
According to my dd (just realized I typed ds above), this girl is one of the group of “popular” kids at school. Very stereotypical group that is loud, not listening, and ONLY cares about fashion, social media and attractiveness to the other gender. I’m not going to tell my dd that she and her group is at a lower level in the “hierarchy” at school. That’s ridiculous!!
So you acknowledge she’s popular. Your daughter needs to figure it out for herself, like I said.
Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a pretty crappy school. She needs to toughed up or learn to fight back.