Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women who say they want marriage and children but then keep dating the same guy for 5+ years.
I don’t have any kind of moral issue with it. I just think it’s stupid and don’t want to talk about it.

OMG THIS!! I have a friend who spent age 30-42 dating the same guy. Now at 43 she wants marriage and babies.

I hope it works out for her but I just find the thought process deeply perplexing. Like…..what was going through your head 5 years ago?

She obviously wanted him more than marriage and babies but equation changed when she realized he doesn't love her enough to give her that.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women who say they want marriage and children but then keep dating the same guy for 5+ years.
I don’t have any kind of moral issue with it. I just think it’s stupid and don’t want to talk about it.

OMG THIS!! I have a friend who spent age 30-42 dating the same guy. Now at 43 she wants marriage and babies.

I hope it works out for her but I just find the thought process deeply perplexing. Like…..what was going through your head 5 years ago?

Deeply perplexing? oh brother.

Perhaps in her 30s she didn't want kids/marraige? Nothing perplexing about it, much less deeply.

Anonymous wrote:Women who say they want marriage and children but then keep dating the same guy for 5+ years.
I don’t have any kind of moral issue with it. I just think it’s stupid and don’t want to talk about it.

OMG THIS!! I have a friend who spent age 30-42 dating the same guy. Now at 43 she wants marriage and babies.

I hope it works out for her but I just find the thought process deeply perplexing. Like…..what was going through your head 5 years ago?

Anonymous wrote:Come on, tell us...what's your judgy-est, snobbiest thought about relationships?

Mine is that I've never met a marriage between high school sweethearts that I'm jealous of.

I've. They are interracial, interfaith and together since high school. Did go to college and grad schools in different states but kept coming back to each other, had wedding at 25 and are happily married now for years and both are quite successful. Families were skeptical but eventually came around seeing their dedication.

Most men shouldn't get married.

They like the idea of marriage and kids, but most aren't willing to put in the work.

I work with a lot of 20s/early 30s guys and they all want a wife who is hot, will "build an empire" with them, let them travel as much as they want, do whatever they want, and will accompany them when requested.

After one of these guys said he wants a wife who will co-found a business with him that would require extensive travel from both, I asked who would raise their kids. He replied "I never thought of that. I guess we'll just make enough money that we can hire people to stay with the kids".

Sadly this seems to be the attitude most men have. I want this, I want that, me me me, kids and wife have to suck it up. Men like that have zero business getting married or reproducing.

Anonymous wrote:I judge when people post Happy Anniversary, Happy Birthday, or Happy Mother's/Father's Day posts on social media. YOU LIVE WITH YOUR SPOUSE - JUST TELL THEM IN REAL PERSON. I am totally judging you for the fact that you need external validation of how great your marriage/spouse is. It's pathetic.

My mom loves that stuff.

I think generally happily married people who judge single or divorced (or remarried) people for their “less desireable” status are pathetic and mean-spirited. There but for the grace of God go you!!

That most of the OPs here posting about their relationships are just as much of the problem.

Anonymous wrote:I hate when one spouse calls me, and they are on speaker and their spouse keeps jumping in. Even worse, when they interrupt each other and even worse than THAT when they argue with each other.

Megan, I just want to talk with YOU! Not you and Brian.

Right? Go in another room and lock the door.

Anonymous wrote:If you’re dating or in a new relationship immediately post separation, you’ve done zero work on yourself. I don’t care that “the marriage was over a long time ago.”

You clearly have not been in a bad marriage. I waited until I divorced to date and in hindsight, I wasted 2 years when separated when I could have been dating. I had not been intimate or in a relationship with my spouse for 7 years by the time the divorce was final at age 42.

I judge when people post Happy Anniversary, Happy Birthday, or Happy Mother's/Father's Day posts on social media. YOU LIVE WITH YOUR SPOUSE - JUST TELL THEM IN REAL PERSON. I am totally judging you for the fact that you need external validation of how great your marriage/spouse is. It's pathetic.

Anonymous wrote:Come on, tell us...what's your judgy-est, snobbiest thought about relationships?

Mine is that I've never met a marriage between high school sweethearts that I'm jealous of.

My cousin and her husband were high school sweethearts and have a great marriage. They broke up for a little while in college, but then missed each other and got back together. They were only 22 when they got married.

Women who say they want marriage and children but then keep dating the same guy for 5+ years.
I don’t have any kind of moral issue with it. I just think it’s stupid and don’t want to talk about it.

People spending a fortune on weddings and then divorcing within a couple of years.

People fawning over their spouse one year and new fiancee next year.

If you’re dating or in a new relationship immediately post separation, you’ve done zero work on yourself. I don’t care that “the marriage was over a long time ago.”