Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:15 weeks. Our mothers are relentless gossips, so the second we share anything with them they are blabbing to everyone and anyone. Doesn't matter if you ask them to keep it in confidence. They will share and overshare a d I am old enough to understand the consequences of telling them any personal information.
They're also incredibly selfish and I knew if I miscarried, it would be all about their disappointment. I needed to get to a point where I felt the risk of loss had dramatically decreased and wasn't going to be resentful that they told the whole world I was pregnant.
If you have toxic people in your life like this I would recommend lying about the due date. Advance it 2wks or even a month otherwise you will be pestered relentlessly as the due date approaches. Give you the option of giving birth in peace. I have heard of toxic in-laws asking to be in the delivery room (!!!!!) promising they will stay behind a curtain (yeah right)
Anonymous wrote:We told my parents the day we found out, and his parents after the initial ultrasound.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is my first pregnancy and will be my parents' first grandchild. I want to share the baby news with them as I think they'll be very excited, but the idea of having to "untell" them if something goes wrong fills me with dread. I'm 5 weeks now so am very early on. I am considering waiting until 12 weeks to tell them, but my in-laws will be visiting us before then and I don't think we'll be able to hide it from them. I do know with almost certainty that my mum would be a little hurt if my in-laws knew weeks before she did. People here may say that I shouldn't prioritize her feelings but I also want her to be among the first to know for my own reasons.
Is there an earlier milestone that gave you relative confidence for sharing news with family? Do most people just tell people in their inner circle immediately?
Why not?
We shared at 12 weeks.
OP here. Because we live in a small two bedroom/1 bathroom apartment and they're staying with us. God willing I'll be less nauseous by week 9 (when they are visiting) but if I'm not I'm not sure how else I'll explain the constant near vomiting. Keeping it from my MIL for a week while she stays at our apartment feels more like lying than just not sharing the news with her when she's 1000 miles away does.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is my first pregnancy and will be my parents' first grandchild. I want to share the baby news with them as I think they'll be very excited, but the idea of having to "untell" them if something goes wrong fills me with dread. I'm 5 weeks now so am very early on. I am considering waiting until 12 weeks to tell them, but my in-laws will be visiting us before then and I don't think we'll be able to hide it from them. I do know with almost certainty that my mum would be a little hurt if my in-laws knew weeks before she did. People here may say that I shouldn't prioritize her feelings but I also want her to be among the first to know for my own reasons.
Is there an earlier milestone that gave you relative confidence for sharing news with family? Do most people just tell people in their inner circle immediately?
Why not?
We shared at 12 weeks.
Anonymous wrote:This is my first pregnancy and will be my parents' first grandchild. I want to share the baby news with them as I think they'll be very excited, but the idea of having to "untell" them if something goes wrong fills me with dread. I'm 5 weeks now so am very early on. I am considering waiting until 12 weeks to tell them, but my in-laws will be visiting us before then and I don't think we'll be able to hide it from them. I do know with almost certainty that my mum would be a little hurt if my in-laws knew weeks before she did. People here may say that I shouldn't prioritize her feelings but I also want her to be among the first to know for my own reasons.
Is there an earlier milestone that gave you relative confidence for sharing news with family? Do most people just tell people in their inner circle immediately?
Anonymous wrote:My mom wouldn't put it on social media but she would tell just everyone. I waited until about ten weeks knowing she'd tell everyone in the family.