Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have had 3 partners attack me as I tried to leave. This was their way of being upset I guess.
I am surprised that STDs were your first concern.

If not one, not two but three 3 partners attacked, you are the common denominator there.

What. This is unfortunately not uncommon for women. They are at highest risk when leaving a partner. It can be a very dangerous time.

Statically around 75% of women and 50% of men cheat during a long term relationship.
Most people will work past the cheating.
It's the lying and betrayal that is worse.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why you let them move in?

Why would you suggest one adult even if a parent, controlling another adult's life?

How do you suggest people find out if they are compatible or not without living together?

Had mother pushed a marriage, they'll be going through mess of divorce. Isn't it better to find out before you are married and have 1.5 kids?

Different person. I agree with the question.

In my country we do not see it this way at all. No. In my country nobody is controlling the life of the other adult. But we help our children because the family is most important. When the time comes for the marriage the children do not have any experience and therefore we guide them and arrange things. This system really is very much better in my opinion personally.

You should not have just let the youngsters to move in to the apartment together without the marriage.

Anonymous wrote:Good on you for supporting your dd OP.

In addition to the std tests, please advise her to just find a roommate or live on her own. When you move in with a potential cheater it's really much harder to extricate yourself when you need to. Best to have your own place or your own room with someone you aren't romantically involved with.

She's moving in with a female roommate.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have had 3 partners attack me as I tried to leave. This was their way of being upset I guess.
I am surprised that STDs were your first concern.

Same. And my ex was a great man who had never done something like that previously. I think me leaving made something snap in him. He also punched holes in a door and the wall. Anyone is capable of anything.

Please tell your dd to be careful. Sometimes guys want you to move in so they feel like they have control over you.

Good on you for supporting your dd OP.

In addition to the std tests, please advise her to just find a roommate or live on her own. When you move in with a potential cheater it's really much harder to extricate yourself when you need to. Best to have your own place or your own room with someone you aren't romantically involved with.

Anonymous wrote:I have had 3 partners attack me as I tried to leave. This was their way of being upset I guess.
I am surprised that STDs were your first concern.

Same. And my ex was a great man who had never done something like that previously. I think me leaving made something snap in him. He also punched holes in a door and the wall. Anyone is capable of anything.

Anonymous wrote:Why you let them move in?

Why you grammar so bad?

You did an excellent job raising a young woman with good self-esteem OP. 👏🏼

Just be happy that this happened before they were married.

(And that you did not find out by him giving her AIDS).

Anonymous wrote:I have had 3 partners attack me as I tried to leave. This was their way of being upset I guess.
I am surprised that STDs were your first concern.

This! Cheating is an act of abuse. Why stop there?

I have had 3 partners attack me as I tried to leave. This was their way of being upset I guess.
I am surprised that STDs were your first concern.

It sounds like you have a real problem picking guys. OP is absolutely right to be concerned about STDs with a cheating partner, and get tested is the standard advice in this situation. I am surprised you don’t know this.

Anonymous wrote:OP is being a responsible and helpful parent and apparently acting in concert with daughter, not trying to run her life. Good for you. OP.

I am not sure would say it in same breath that DD telling me about the breakup though. I would say day told to block calls and text and drop from social media feeds if DD intends to stick with ending it as otherwise often the partner does the siren song/apology tour to get back together. Years away from all this, do believe the quick and complete break is the best if can do that.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have had 3 partners attack me as I tried to leave. This was their way of being upset I guess.
I am surprised that STDs were your first concern.

If not one, not two but three 3 partners attacked, you are the common denominator there.

I'm an immigrant. I didn't choose two of my partners, and that happened in US by the way. Third one was complete opposite of the two, but even he lost control once while drunk. Well, once in 10 years, so not sure if its good or bad. I left.
I'm single now and not eager to get into relationships.