Anonymous wrote:Some might never move out, my neighbor is 36 and she still lving at home she has no plans to moving out in the next 10 years, the mom jokes around saying she will change the locks when she leave the house next time. She could move out with roommates but doesn't want to spend any money. The father discounted cable, to see if she would pay for it and nope. She a freeloader. She makes about 60k, it might be alot, but she can have roommates or help out, but she doesn't.

This.
Our 86yo neighbors 55 yo daughter just moved back in. Refuses to work.

Some might never move out, my neighbor is 36 and she still lving at home she has no plans to moving out in the next 10 years, the mom jokes around saying she will change the locks when she leave the house next time. She could move out with roommates but doesn't want to spend any money. The father discounted cable, to see if she would pay for it and nope. She a freeloader. She makes about 60k, it might be alot, but she can have roommates or help out, but she doesn't.

I'm SO burnt out by parenting at this point. DH does not get it and is so sad about kids going off to college, but every day I feel like I am going to scream if I have to make another meal, do more laundry, deal with whatever problem or request of the day is. I feel like my nurturing cup is empty and has a hole at the bottom.

Anonymous wrote:No.

We were not happy that kids moved out of the house, even though we were happy that they were reaching adulthood milestones. Happy for them, sad for becoming an empty nester.

However, we have a good family and no mental health issues.

+1

Anonymous wrote:Not happy at all. I will miss DC.

This.

Having a little one was the happiest I ever was.

DD moved back home to finish college during the pandemic and then moved to an apartment three years ago. I’m single, but had almost never lived alone till now. While I'm glad she’s launched and see her weekly since she still lives in the same county, it’s been an adjustment.

Bittersweet. Missed them being here but also excited and happy for them to enter the next phase of their lives. We enjoy the dynamic of just us and the dog but sometimes feel nostalgic for when the kids were here full time. Don’t really miss the little kid phase but loved the older kid and young adult/college aged phase.

So happy. They're successful and launched.

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Anonymous wrote:And hopefully, responsible. I can’t wait for DD to leave for college and to eventually be on her own, after college.

If I had been a difficult child and mended my relationship with my parents, I would “get” it-the parenthood scenario. But DD is a narcissist, I don’t see that we will ever be close. I’m finally okay with knowing that after instilling, and trying so hard to get along and do the parent thing - for her to be a good, moral, responsible human and citizen to the world- it all doesn’t guarantee we will be close.

So the DD got the narcissist streak from a mailman?

This caught my attention too. OP was a bad parent and just admitted it. For a narcissist, she has to have genetic potential to be one AND environmental conditions to develop into one. OP gave her both - she was a bad parent and wants to blame the kid.

My college kids came home this weekend and this moment, knowing they are here in their rooms and their car I the driveway, is the best moment.

I am divorced and look forward to it, my daughter lives w/me to save $ and is in my knickers all the time. She has a full social life but thinks I am going to pass away or something. I had a year between my son moving out and my daughter moving in, it was glorious.

My youngest was off to college in the fall and I'm the last one left at home. My husband died when the kids were very young so I raised them solo. This is my first time living alone and it's been an adjustment, though there are parts of it I enjoy: popcorn & an apple for dinner, no need to be 'on' 24/7, I can read a novel all evening uninterrupted.

But the other day I was out for a walk and saw a young mom pushing a stroller holding a dog on a leash and trailing an older child on a scooter. Lort help me I couldn't resist saying "Enjoy these days, they pass so quickly!" She looked at me as if I were nuts.

Anonymous wrote:Not happy at all. I will miss DC.

+1 younger DD will miss older sister. It’s life but not happy for moving out. Bittersweet, a job well done.

Anonymous wrote:Cried, because I missed the kids and missed their games and performances and other parts of their lives. And, happy because I could cook what I wanted to for spouse and I without worrying about if picky eater kid would eat it, and because we could be spontaneous (concerts, weekend get aways, whatever) whenever we wanted, and the house would stay cleaner, and there wouldn't be a trail of hoodies and shoes left allover the house and because we could have naked time whenever we wanted, wherever we wanted.

Hopefully they never came to surprised y'all when you doing in the living rom

its bitter sweet, but can't have being 35 or 50 or even 60 at living at home.