i hope i don't get anything.

i am getting a pool right now.

that's plenty.

I mean what do you all want? DH will buy me flowers and chocolate and I will get him chocolate. We plan a super fun themed dinner for the kids (fondue or such) and then they go to bed and then the real celebrations start. It's perfect. I wouldn't want any presents.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do grown people feel the need to give in to the pressure of this made-up holiday? I understand why kids and teens do it. But I'm assuming you're an adult. If things aren't working in your relationship, if you're unhappy, speak up. Valentine's Day is just another day. If my marriage wasn't working I certainly wouldn't expect some gushy card or a present on VD. I have a good relationship and we looked at each other the other night and said that we dont plan to get each other anything. We show love every day. Dont need a special occasion.

If you're a man, please get her a little something anyways.

Unless you've agreed on no gifts. Id be so annoyed if DH got me a gift after we agreed on no gifts.

Anonymous wrote:Me. He will be spending all his efforts on his affair partner/ girlfriend.

I’ll be spending mine having a wonderful day with my DD and enjoying my own peace.

Same. Just like last year.

With any luck, next year I will not have a husband on Valentine's Day.

I don't actually care much about the day itself and never really did so it's NBD in the grand scheme of things.

Anonymous wrote:Why do grown people feel the need to give in to the pressure of this made-up holiday? I understand why kids and teens do it. But I'm assuming you're an adult. If things aren't working in your relationship, if you're unhappy, speak up. Valentine's Day is just another day. If my marriage wasn't working I certainly wouldn't expect some gushy card or a present on VD. I have a good relationship and we looked at each other the other night and said that we dont plan to get each other anything. We show love every day. Dont need a special occasion.

If you're a man, please get her a little something anyways.

We don’t really do Valentine’s - I picked up some seasonal candy that we will eat together while watching movies after the kids go to sleep.

Anonymous wrote:I bought him a really funny gag gift card. I literally can't wait for him to open it! The kids will get a kick out of it too.

Me again -- I doubt he got me anything but I don't care, I enjoy giving gifts more than getting them. I will buy myself something pretty and put his name on it for "Valentine's Day" most likely. Probably something for my dog because seeing her happy brings me joy too, lol.

I bought him a really funny gag gift card. I literally can't wait for him to open it! The kids will get a kick out of it too.

We used to give gifts. But some time late last year DH declared we are not doing Valentine's gifts any more. I'm not sure if he remembers he said that, but I do, so he's definitely not getting anything from me.

I have mixed feelings about it. On the one hand, as the family member who generally gets stuck shouldering 99% of the gift giving burden throughout the year, being able to drop one occasion has its plusses. But it does smart a little that he conveniently declared the one romantic holiday the one to go. And it's not as if he ever spared much effort in gift giving or romance departments in the first place.

Me. He will be spending all his efforts on his affair partner/ girlfriend.

I’ll be spending mine having a wonderful day with my DD and enjoying my own peace.

Grow up, Valentine's day is a made up day to try to spend money to disappoint commercially influenced expectations of women you may not even love.

Anonymous wrote:We have exchanged homemade cards since 2020 (covid store avoidance). His are very sweet and he obviously spends time looking for the right image.
We will have the last 2 Baked & Wired coconut cupcakes in the freezer from his last foray there inn the fall. When he goes to the 19th St NW dentist, he walks there and then picks up Metro at Rosslyn. So they are a love treat.

Love it. So sweet. What a great tradition.

He is on travel and had my fav flowers delivered yesterday since I was home all day. I hid his fav chocolates and a (not homemade!) card in his luggage before he left.

So I am not expecting anything tomorrow. Is that what you meant, OP?

Anonymous wrote:Me thankfully. We don’t do Valentine’s Day. Haven’t for a good 20 years

Same here.

I did buy something for my wife this year, not because it's Valentine's Day, but because I saw something that she'd love. It just so happens that the timing works out. I actually thought of waiting until next week, so she wouldn't feel bad about not getting me anything, but I'm too excited to wait. She'll understand that it wasn't intended to be a dig, and that the timing was just coincidental.

I will clean the house and do laundry. That will be enough of a pleasant surprise for him.

I do love him very much but I am a lazy person.

Me. We don't really celebrate it anymore and haven't for a long time. Totally fine with it.