Yes many many times throughout the day. My parents did the opposite, and I know how awful that feels.

I give my kids compliments, but very judiciously. My parents did the opposite when I was growing up, always pointing out every little fault in my appearance. It really damaged my self esteem until I went to college and got away from them.

I grew up in the late 70s early 80s when it really became a thing not to complement on physical appearance. I wasn't as pretty as many of my friends, and my parents never told me I was pretty (much less beautiful).

my sibling was (and still is) very attractive. They also did not get home comments about that attractiveness, but it was clear their physical appearance drew attention when out and about.

I look back at old pictures and I think, wait, I was sort of pretty. I wasn't unattractive. I've just never felt like I am at all pretty or attractive. So yes, I call my kids beautiful or handsome or pretty, along with kind, and clever, and hard working, and talented, and funny, and a good friend, and so on.

3 girls: occasional "good morning gorgeous" "that color really suits you" etc.

1 boy: *punch him in the arm* which he much prefers

Anonymous wrote:Yes! When they are feeling down or acting out, I have them look in the mirror and say, “I’m beautiful”. Because they are. Inside and out.

My kids would laugh in my face.

I tell my little guy he’s cute and handsome all the time!

Not really. I did tell my DD she has pretty hair the other day, but I don’t usually say much about their physical appearance. That’s not an attribute they can control, like being kind, working hard, etc. Their grandparents say it, which I think is fine.

My kids are all gorgeous and I tell them that they are all the time. I also tell them they are smart and funny and nice, etc.

I also tell them when they need to work on something.

I grew up with horrible self esteem and I realized later that my parents never really complimented us growing up. So I try to build my kid’s confidence as much as I can.

Yes! I call them all sorts of things. I like to see my 14 year old son squirm when I tell him he’s my handsome little man. I tell my daughter she’s not just beautiful but gorgeous. I also tell them they are hardworking, intelligent, sweet, kind. I tell them how lucky I am that they are my kids and if they weren’t already mine, I’d adopt them.

Yes, all the time

We do, on as needed basis.

When I was growing up, my family had an older friend who was born with a cleft lip at a time when they didn’t have the capability to perform plastic surgery as they do today. She did not feel beautiful, although she was beautiful because of the type of person she was. I wish her parents had told her she was beautiful more often so she could have felt better about herself.

Anonymous wrote:Meh, I don't tell them that they are good-looking or beautiful in a direct way. I will tell them that they are looking very good when they are well dressed or they have made me very proud with their accomplishments. So I praise the effort.

I do tell them that if they were ugly or slow, I would have found it very easy to put them in daycare, not breastfeed them and continue my career. Instead I became a happy SAHM because they were so worth it and such a joy to be with.

Lololol

Good thing they aren’t ugly or slow.

Yes. I compliment him on good behavior and kindness and all sorts of things. Nothing wrong with it.

Yes, inside and out