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Anonymous wrote:Your teen should be able to tell you how they feel about skipping piano practice for a week.

DD is a violinist performance major currently. There was a point during sophomore year in HS where she began traveling with her violin for week long vacations. Before that she would simply take a break from playing while we traveled. However at that point in her playing “career”, she felt her fingers would tighten even for a day or two days of breaks.

Let your teen “guide” this process. If they feel they need to keep up, they will find ways to seek out practice opportunities. One thing I wouldn’t do it to book lodging solely based on the availability of a piano. Most times, the pianos are not properly maintained and tuned. For a serious pianist, the slightest out of tune will bother their ears. The touch of the keys will also differ from piano to piano. Your teen may prefer not to practice on these units and sit out the week. There are ways they can stay engaged through mental practice, sight reading exercises, and focused listening sessions. Your teen will figure out how to fit vacation into their practice schedule.

Teen's solution is not to go on vacation. We would very much like to have teen come on vacation, so looking for other solutions.

In the past we've rented a house at the beach. Last year we brought an electric piano, but teen is now saying that's not enough. So, we're wondering what other people have done.

No normal, Curtis or Julliard-eligible teen is going to behave like this, OP. Does your teen have OCD (read, autism) about practicing, or are you scheduling vacations right before auditions, competitions or recitals? You NEVER want to do the latter. And you might want to assess the former. The family should not be having this problem. We are part of a competitive music studio and none of the teens who have gone on to prestigious conservatories behaved like this, but then their families were also careful about picking vacation dates around their teen's music schedule.

Oh, shut it, wannabe therapist. Your ableism is disgusting.

OP, unless there are concerns beyond what you've presented here, a teen prioritizing an interest over a family vacation sounds really developmentally normal. It may be as much that they don't care about family vacation (like most teens) as it is that they don't want to miss practice. Also, they are at an age when this feels like a huge part of their identity, so they make choices accordingly (and perhaps a bit dramatically).

Also, could it be a legitimate concern? I have a family member who is a professional pianist and there have been very few times when he's traveled for a week without playing. Like I think he missed it to go on safari. He won't visit us for more than 2 nights at a time because there is no suitable practice piano in our area.

IDK what the solution is, but I do think teens can be miserable enough already on family vacation. IDK if you want to force this. Would talking to their piano instructor help? Or could you compromise...they go for 3 or 4 nights and then return early?

My high school teenager is a serious pianist (competes regularly) and we usually have intentions of usually getting a piano practice room if vacations are longer than 1 week -- but in our past few vacations, we just skipped. Teenager is great and usually comes back home refreshed and eager to play!

Where do you vacation at the beach, OP? We once rented a vrbo house in Maine that had a baby grand piano in it (no one in my family
seriously plays!). Also beach towns in CA near auCSB and UCSD could be an option, and they could possibly rent practice space at the college.

In HS, my teen son was rigid about practicing his sport (which requires specific facilities) while we were on vacation; we tried our hest to accommodate but it couldn’t always happen.

This is so weird. What are they worried is going to happens in a week

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would let the teen decide as long as it was feasible to bring the instrument and they figured out on their own how to work in practice time.

Requiring your teen to practice on vacation would be some pretty seriously deranged behavior.

Teen is saying that they only want to go to places with pianos. Last year we brought an electric piano to the beach but they are saying that is not an option.

Your teen doesn’t always get to decide everything for the family

+1-teens make unreasonable demands sometimes. They don’t get a pass because it’s piano.

Your teen's obsession to play over vacation is a bit worrisome AND his inability to cope with the idea of missing a few days of practice.

Is there adhd? Why so rigid? Is the piano his way of making you proud of him? Placating you? Hence his zeal to practice no matter what?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your teen should be able to tell you how they feel about skipping piano practice for a week.

DD is a violinist performance major currently. There was a point during sophomore year in HS where she began traveling with her violin for week long vacations. Before that she would simply take a break from playing while we traveled. However at that point in her playing “career”, she felt her fingers would tighten even for a day or two days of breaks.

Let your teen “guide” this process. If they feel they need to keep up, they will find ways to seek out practice opportunities. One thing I wouldn’t do it to book lodging solely based on the availability of a piano. Most times, the pianos are not properly maintained and tuned. For a serious pianist, the slightest out of tune will bother their ears. The touch of the keys will also differ from piano to piano. Your teen may prefer not to practice on these units and sit out the week. There are ways they can stay engaged through mental practice, sight reading exercises, and focused listening sessions. Your teen will figure out how to fit vacation into their practice schedule.

Teen's solution is not to go on vacation. We would very much like to have teen come on vacation, so looking for other solutions.

In the past we've rented a house at the beach. Last year we brought an electric piano, but teen is now saying that's not enough. So, we're wondering what other people have done.

No normal, Curtis or Julliard-eligible teen is going to behave like this, OP. Does your teen have OCD (read, autism) about practicing, or are you scheduling vacations right before auditions, competitions or recitals? You NEVER want to do the latter. And you might want to assess the former. The family should not be having this problem. We are part of a competitive music studio and none of the teens who have gone on to prestigious conservatories behaved like this, but then their families were also careful about picking vacation dates around their teen's music schedule.

Sounds like anxiety, would talk to psychiatrist.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would let the teen decide as long as it was feasible to bring the instrument and they figured out on their own how to work in practice time.

Requiring your teen to practice on vacation would be some pretty seriously deranged behavior.

Teen is saying that they only want to go to places with pianos. Last year we brought an electric piano to the beach but they are saying that is not an option.

Your teen doesn’t always get to decide everything for the family

+1-teens make unreasonable demands sometimes. They don’t get a pass because it’s piano.

Mostly mine takes a break. Life is long and there’s more than just piano.

But depending where you are, you might find a studio where you can rent rehearsal time. In Philadelphia, for example, there’s a piano store near Rittenhouse where you can reserve practice slots if they have space available. Hotel ballrooms are another option. However, it’s harder to practice in public spaces like lobbies. It’s not really feasible to relax enough to play well or go over sections repeatedly and work things out, because that’s annoying to listeners.

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Anonymous wrote:Breaks are actually good for memory consolidation. Just let them take a break.

+1

Yes this

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would let the teen decide as long as it was feasible to bring the instrument and they figured out on their own how to work in practice time.

Requiring your teen to practice on vacation would be some pretty seriously deranged behavior.

Teen is saying that they only want to go to places with pianos. Last year we brought an electric piano to the beach but they are saying that is not an option.

Your teen doesn’t always get to decide everything for the family

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your teen should be able to tell you how they feel about skipping piano practice for a week.

DD is a violinist performance major currently. There was a point during sophomore year in HS where she began traveling with her violin for week long vacations. Before that she would simply take a break from playing while we traveled. However at that point in her playing “career”, she felt her fingers would tighten even for a day or two days of breaks.

Let your teen “guide” this process. If they feel they need to keep up, they will find ways to seek out practice opportunities. One thing I wouldn’t do it to book lodging solely based on the availability of a piano. Most times, the pianos are not properly maintained and tuned. For a serious pianist, the slightest out of tune will bother their ears. The touch of the keys will also differ from piano to piano. Your teen may prefer not to practice on these units and sit out the week. There are ways they can stay engaged through mental practice, sight reading exercises, and focused listening sessions. Your teen will figure out how to fit vacation into their practice schedule.

Teen's solution is not to go on vacation. We would very much like to have teen come on vacation, so looking for other solutions.

In the past we've rented a house at the beach. Last year we brought an electric piano, but teen is now saying that's not enough. So, we're wondering what other people have done.

That is a hard one OP. I guess your teen is at the same stage my DD was. It was either not going on vacation or carry her violin everywhere we went. It was not easy to lug her instrument through security screening and making sure there was enough overhead bin space. We were constantly worried about damage and ended up investing heavily into a solid case for her. We had wished that she played the piano at one point but DS (the pianist of the family) pointed out the challenges with practicing on badly tuned hotel pianos.

Curious how much does your teen typically practice on a daily basis? Based on our experiences w our kids, they were fine skipping a week when they were practicing < 2-3 hrs daily. DS never went above 3 hrs as he decided piano performance was not his one passion in life. For DD, when she hit 3hrs practice sessions consistently, she began traveling w her violin.

It is a bit of trial and error. For hotel pianos, you can try to contact the staff ahead of time and ask how often they tune. I imagine the higher priced lodging options that offer piano entertainment in lounges may do better w their piano upkeep. Good luck to you and your teen!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your teen should be able to tell you how they feel about skipping piano practice for a week.

DD is a violinist performance major currently. There was a point during sophomore year in HS where she began traveling with her violin for week long vacations. Before that she would simply take a break from playing while we traveled. However at that point in her playing “career”, she felt her fingers would tighten even for a day or two days of breaks.

Let your teen “guide” this process. If they feel they need to keep up, they will find ways to seek out practice opportunities. One thing I wouldn’t do it to book lodging solely based on the availability of a piano. Most times, the pianos are not properly maintained and tuned. For a serious pianist, the slightest out of tune will bother their ears. The touch of the keys will also differ from piano to piano. Your teen may prefer not to practice on these units and sit out the week. There are ways they can stay engaged through mental practice, sight reading exercises, and focused listening sessions. Your teen will figure out how to fit vacation into their practice schedule.

Teen's solution is not to go on vacation. We would very much like to have teen come on vacation, so looking for other solutions.

In the past we've rented a house at the beach. Last year we brought an electric piano, but teen is now saying that's not enough. So, we're wondering what other people have done.

No normal, Curtis or Julliard-eligible teen is going to behave like this, OP. Does your teen have OCD (read, autism) about practicing, or are you scheduling vacations right before auditions, competitions or recitals? You NEVER want to do the latter. And you might want to assess the former. The family should not be having this problem. We are part of a competitive music studio and none of the teens who have gone on to prestigious conservatories behaved like this, but then their families were also careful about picking vacation dates around their teen's music schedule.

Anonymous wrote:Your teen should be able to tell you how they feel about skipping piano practice for a week.

DD is a violinist performance major currently. There was a point during sophomore year in HS where she began traveling with her violin for week long vacations. Before that she would simply take a break from playing while we traveled. However at that point in her playing “career”, she felt her fingers would tighten even for a day or two days of breaks.

Let your teen “guide” this process. If they feel they need to keep up, they will find ways to seek out practice opportunities. One thing I wouldn’t do it to book lodging solely based on the availability of a piano. Most times, the pianos are not properly maintained and tuned. For a serious pianist, the slightest out of tune will bother their ears. The touch of the keys will also differ from piano to piano. Your teen may prefer not to practice on these units and sit out the week. There are ways they can stay engaged through mental practice, sight reading exercises, and focused listening sessions. Your teen will figure out how to fit vacation into their practice schedule.

Teen's solution is not to go on vacation. We would very much like to have teen come on vacation, so looking for other solutions.

In the past we've rented a house at the beach. Last year we brought an electric piano, but teen is now saying that's not enough. So, we're wondering what other people have done.

Anonymous wrote:As a teen, I used to practice in empty hotel ballrooms and piano stores ( call ahead and ask, usually it was okay because it helped them sell pianos). If we were visiting friends or family, someone always knew someone who had a piano I could use for a couple of hours.

Colleges usually have practice rooms available as well.

And you are a professional musician or composer now and would not have made it but for never taking a break?

Your teen should be able to tell you how they feel about skipping piano practice for a week.

DD is a violinist performance major currently. There was a point during sophomore year in HS where she began traveling with her violin for week long vacations. Before that she would simply take a break from playing while we traveled. However at that point in her playing “career”, she felt her fingers would tighten even for a day or two days of breaks.

Let your teen “guide” this process. If they feel they need to keep up, they will find ways to seek out practice opportunities. One thing I wouldn’t do it to book lodging solely based on the availability of a piano. Most times, the pianos are not properly maintained and tuned. For a serious pianist, the slightest out of tune will bother their ears. The touch of the keys will also differ from piano to piano. Your teen may prefer not to practice on these units and sit out the week. There are ways they can stay engaged through mental practice, sight reading exercises, and focused listening sessions. Your teen will figure out how to fit vacation into their practice schedule.