This could maybe work if he already does at least half the cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, etc. He should also be able to handle basic house maintenance and ideally small projects like building new shelves.

If he doesn’t take that initiative and has you handle the majority of those tasks, this is doomed to fail.

If your career is demanding and you would be able to achieve more with a house husband to support you, and he is good at/enjoys supporting you - go for it!
But it doesn’t sound like that, sounds like he is just lazy.

Agree with others. Run. I kind of tested my husband with a bunch of jokes/comments about him being a SAHD before we got married (I’m in big law) and he always made clear that he would have absolutely no interest in doing something like that. Wouldn’t even joke about it. Eventually I did make clear that I didn’t think I would be ok with it if he didn’t want a job.

After we married he has been willing to try to find flexibility in his roles to make my job work (eg job with no travel), but I needed that to make mine work — that was always a joint conversation and we felt the same way about things.

Listen to us. Do not marry him. He is not joking.

Anonymous wrote:Just want to make sure everyone agrees if the sexes are reversed that the woman is also a lazy ass mooch that should be kicked to the curb yesterday.

We all agree?

OFC not. Presumably the man wants the woman to create a literal human being for him? Something that would cost him over a hundred thousand dollars in surrogacy? Women bring value just with our innate biology- men have to add it. Something all societies have always known

Just want to make sure everyone agrees if the sexes are reversed that the woman is also a lazy ass mooch that should be kicked to the curb yesterday.

We all agree?

Does he have a big pp tho?

Every time I see this subject in recent topics, it makes me think of Hot Husband - the instagram account of Celeste Barber’s husband. 😁

It’s not gonna go well and it doesn’t matter that he’s a husband if you were dating someone who doesn’t wanna work and you want them to work you need to break up.

He’s gonna be a lazy ass you’re gonna pay for everything and then when you divorce him he’s gonna get half of your house that you paid for with your money and your hard work.

What a turn off. Lazy/entitled men are the absolute worst. And they will mooch off you until youre bled dry to the bone

Break up and tell him you hope he finds what he’s looking for but you two don’t want the same things.

Much MUCH easier to get rid of a boyfriend than a husband and especially not a co-parent where he can come after you for child support.

Refer back to the “not a breadwinner” thread to see what you will be in for. Agree with the PP that I don’t find this appealing in the slightest.

He’s telling you the truth. If that’s not what you want move on.

Oooohhh heck no

Break up. Hes not joking hes testing the waters. How do you react when he says that?

He’s not a real man.