I've been married >20 years. We don't text each other unless absolutely necessary. Seeing each other at home is more than enough.

People in long term relationships could care less about these childish antics. You'll get there some day.

I often have workdays where I don't have time to text or eat lunch or even pee.

Anonymous wrote:"Licensed", eh?
In what?

Based on their writing style I’m assuming OP has a driver’s license.

Your boss must love it when you talk to your spouse all day! Makes her/him really pleased to see you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the idea that a spouse needs to be on their phone all day while they work is nonsense.

Everyone should be able to go hours without being on the phone with their spouse without being accused of infidelity.

You should focus more on your clients instead of being on your phone all day to show you aren’t cheating.

You sound like a simpleton. Pretty much 99.999999% of white collar professionals in DC (is that still an OK descriptor?) glance at their phone literally every 10 minutes, if not morseo. The casual relpy-when-you-can attitude is not accepted. We all KNOW you are looking at your phone. So, when a text or email isn't answered, we know it was a choice. They could answer, but they don't.

Guilty, all day long.

I was at a client pitch meeting this week. None of us who were pitching had our phone out.

And my DH did a heart transplant today and asked me if he should pick up anything on the way home.

During the heart transplant???

I almost never text with my husband at work. Never have. Sure I may look at the traffic before I come home and let him know if I am running late. And yes, if I am working from home and we need milk or something, I might txt him to pick up on the way home. But for the most part, we spend our days at work doing work and interacting with work people.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the idea that a spouse needs to be on their phone all day while they work is nonsense.

Everyone should be able to go hours without being on the phone with their spouse without being accused of infidelity.

You should focus more on your clients instead of being on your phone all day to show you aren’t cheating.

You sound like a simpleton. Pretty much 99.999999% of white collar professionals in DC (is that still an OK descriptor?) glance at their phone literally every 10 minutes, if not morseo. The casual relpy-when-you-can attitude is not accepted. We all KNOW you are looking at your phone. So, when a text or email isn't answered, we know it was a choice. They could answer, but they don't.

Guilty, all day long.

I was at a client pitch meeting this week. None of us who were pitching had our phone out.

And my DH did a heart transplant today and asked me if he should pick up anything on the way home.

That’s the reason ORs have a list of protocols. The human brain is fallible particularly when multitasking. Only thing worse than arrogant surgeons are their spouses.

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Way to trigger all the posters obsessed about infidelity, "counselor". You just want to stir the pot.

A business development exercise. Don’t hate the player, hate the game.

We are both busy people. If something is urgent (usually involving one of the kids) we'll pick up the phone. Most things can wait until after work.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the idea that a spouse needs to be on their phone all day while they work is nonsense.

Everyone should be able to go hours without being on the phone with their spouse without being accused of infidelity.

You should focus more on your clients instead of being on your phone all day to show you aren’t cheating.

You sound like a simpleton. Pretty much 99.999999% of white collar professionals in DC (is that still an OK descriptor?) glance at their phone literally every 10 minutes, if not morseo. The casual relpy-when-you-can attitude is not accepted. We all KNOW you are looking at your phone. So, when a text or email isn't answered, we know it was a choice. They could answer, but they don't.

Guilty, all day long.

Impressive, how you conducted detailed research to reach your oh, so confident "99.9999 blah blah percent" figure!

You're projecting, PP. You even admit it: "Guilty, all day long." You might be guilty of being obsessively glued to your phone, but not all of the rest of us are like you. Certainly nowhere near 99.9999999 whatever.

"When a text or email isn't answered, we know it was a choice." How dramatic. Sometimes, a personal text or email doesn't get answered because the recipient was actually paying full attention to work. Like grown-ups often do.

+1

There seems to be an influx of women with non-essential jobs here who play on their phones all day, every day, and project that expectation onto the men they date. Some of us do real work, or if we don't, at least try to find ways to stay busy and productive at work... i.e. not scrolling social media all day.

I seldom use my phone around others at work, and even in the privacy of my office don't rush to check texts if I'm in the middle of a project. If there's work to be done or ideas to be had in how I can benefit my team, then I'm acting on it.

The women with the "counselor's" mindset are extremely paranoid, overbearing, and insecure. If a man thought this way, accusing his spouse of cheating because she didn't respond during a 20 minute huddle, he'd rightfully be called the same. They also fail to realize that cheating men can and will respond to your insecure texts... while getting some action. Takes five seconds.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the idea that a spouse needs to be on their phone all day while they work is nonsense.

Everyone should be able to go hours without being on the phone with their spouse without being accused of infidelity.

You should focus more on your clients instead of being on your phone all day to show you aren’t cheating.

You sound like a simpleton. Pretty much 99.999999% of white collar professionals in DC (is that still an OK descriptor?) glance at their phone literally every 10 minutes, if not morseo. The casual relpy-when-you-can attitude is not accepted. We all KNOW you are looking at your phone. So, when a text or email isn't answered, we know it was a choice. They could answer, but they don't.

Guilty, all day long.

Impressive, how you conducted detailed research to reach your oh, so confident "99.9999 blah blah percent" figure!

You're projecting, PP. You even admit it: "Guilty, all day long." You might be guilty of being obsessively glued to your phone, but not all of the rest of us are like you. Certainly nowhere near 99.9999999 whatever.

"When a text or email isn't answered, we know it was a choice." How dramatic. Sometimes, a personal text or email doesn't get answered because the recipient was actually paying full attention to work. Like grown-ups often do.

I wish I knew this a decade ago. My husband played this out to a T with other classic cheating behaviors like hiding in bathrooms for a couple hours (to text), gaslighting, avoiding outings, etc.
I thought he was just depressed. I had no idea what marital cheating looked like.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the idea that a spouse needs to be on their phone all day while they work is nonsense.

Everyone should be able to go hours without being on the phone with their spouse without being accused of infidelity.

You should focus more on your clients instead of being on your phone all day to show you aren’t cheating.

You sound like a simpleton. Pretty much 99.999999% of white collar professionals in DC (is that still an OK descriptor?) glance at their phone literally every 10 minutes, if not morseo. The casual relpy-when-you-can attitude is not accepted. We all KNOW you are looking at your phone. So, when a text or email isn't answered, we know it was a choice. They could answer, but they don't.

Guilty, all day long.

No, we're just normal people. This forum goes insane every time infidelity is mentioned. It's like a circle jerk of affair obsessives. You're seriously in need of help if you truly believe this.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the idea that a spouse needs to be on their phone all day while they work is nonsense.

Everyone should be able to go hours without being on the phone with their spouse without being accused of infidelity.

You should focus more on your clients instead of being on your phone all day to show you aren’t cheating.

+1

So dumb

+2. Task switching is terrible for your brain. I’ll check my phone once at lunch and when I’m done working but unless it’s an emergency I don’t respond during work hours.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the idea that a spouse needs to be on their phone all day while they work is nonsense.

Everyone should be able to go hours without being on the phone with their spouse without being accused of infidelity.

You should focus more on your clients instead of being on your phone all day to show you aren’t cheating.

You sound like a simpleton. Pretty much 99.999999% of white collar professionals in DC (is that still an OK descriptor?) glance at their phone literally every 10 minutes, if not morseo. The casual relpy-when-you-can attitude is not accepted. We all KNOW you are looking at your phone. So, when a text or email isn't answered, we know it was a choice. They could answer, but they don't.

Guilty, all day long.

I was at a client pitch meeting this week. None of us who were pitching had our phone out.

And my DH did a heart transplant today and asked me if he should pick up anything on the way home.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the idea that a spouse needs to be on their phone all day while they work is nonsense.

Everyone should be able to go hours without being on the phone with their spouse without being accused of infidelity.

You should focus more on your clients instead of being on your phone all day to show you aren’t cheating.

You sound like a simpleton. Pretty much 99.999999% of white collar professionals in DC (is that still an OK descriptor?) glance at their phone literally every 10 minutes, if not morseo. The casual relpy-when-you-can attitude is not accepted. We all KNOW you are looking at your phone. So, when a text or email isn't answered, we know it was a choice. They could answer, but they don't.

Guilty, all day long.

I was at a client pitch meeting this week. None of us who were pitching had our phone out.