Anonymous
Post 01/15/2025 12:02     Subject: Is it wrong to want to look my best self?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am a chubby woman. In my 20s and early 30s I looked objectively very pretty, and was thin. I have gained more and more weight since turning 40 and I tried semaglutide, then regained when I stopped. If you were me, would you consider going on it permanently? I am not a bad eater, I don't drink, I am active. I try dieting and lose 5, gain 2, lose 7, gain 5...and so on. It's like I cannot maintain a calorie deficit for the long run without semaglutide. I don't think I'd care if I were one of these women who can look gorgeous heavier, but my features get lost when I am heavy.


Weight loss is not about counting calories. That is old school thinking. Eliminating sugary foods and beverages, highly processed foods, and high carb foods will cause weight loss.


This is completely inaccurate. Weight loss is exactly about counting calories. I’m very short and I went through my 40’s not able to lose a lb and continued gaining. They say, never go below 1200 calories but unfortunately that’s not true when you are so short. You need to eat less. Sure, it’s better to eat better foods but it’s really about how much you’re eating. For the OP, continue on with the semiglutide and feel good about yourself. I think that you can slowly taper off. Maybe you need the shot once a month or every other week. I started it and have finally lost the extra weight that I put on. It’s so nice to not be constantly thinking about feeling fat, what I should eat, etc. the food noise is gone.


It’s not about counting calories. If anything it’s about counting macros. That is why adopting a low carb lifestyle diet is so effective, especially when done in conjunction with intermittent fasting.

Counting calories is old school and not as effective.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2025 11:19     Subject: Is it wrong to want to look my best self?
I’m on Wegovy.
Will continue on it under my doctors care.
Do what works best for you.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2025 11:04     Subject: Is it wrong to want to look my best self?
Nothing wrong with being conscientious about your health and appearance. Proceed with your best judgment.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2025 10:48     Subject: Is it wrong to want to look my best self?
Anonymous wrote:It's a little alarming that all these responses are agreeing she should go on these drugs for life when she hasn't even defined "chubby." Is it 10 or 15 pounds overweight? 20? 50?


I posted upthread and what I said was "talk to your doctor" and that of course it is not wrong want to look good and to feel good about how she looks.

I'm not a doctor and don't actually know OP so I have no idea if it is medically appropriate for her to be on these drugs longterm. I don't think anyone on this thread can say. I would not advise OP to try to get the drugs in a way other than working through a good doctor who can make sure it makes sense and can also treat her for any side effects and reassess the prescription if circumstances change.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2025 10:43     Subject: Is it wrong to want to look my best self?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am a chubby woman. In my 20s and early 30s I looked objectively very pretty, and was thin. I have gained more and more weight since turning 40 and I tried semaglutide, then regained when I stopped. If you were me, would you consider going on it permanently? I am not a bad eater, I don't drink, I am active. I try dieting and lose 5, gain 2, lose 7, gain 5...and so on. It's like I cannot maintain a calorie deficit for the long run without semaglutide. I don't think I'd care if I were one of these women who can look gorgeous heavier, but my features get lost when I am heavy.


Weight loss is not about counting calories. That is old school thinking. Eliminating sugary foods and beverages, highly processed foods, and high carb foods will cause weight loss.


This is completely inaccurate. Weight loss is exactly about counting calories. I’m very short and I went through my 40’s not able to lose a lb and continued gaining. They say, never go below 1200 calories but unfortunately that’s not true when you are so short. You need to eat less. Sure, it’s better to eat better foods but it’s really about how much you’re eating. For the OP, continue on with the semiglutide and feel good about yourself. I think that you can slowly taper off. Maybe you need the shot once a month or every other week. I started it and have finally lost the extra weight that I put on. It’s so nice to not be constantly thinking about feeling fat, what I should eat, etc. the food noise is gone.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2025 10:24     Subject: Is it wrong to want to look my best self?
Anonymous wrote:Have you tried intermittent fasting/time restricted eating? Medication would be my last resort.


If you name it, I have tried it! Yes, I did IF, I did whole 30, low carb, eat to live, keto...I can do all of these for a while and lose 10lbs with a ton of effort and thought. The issue is I can't stick to any of it very long term and I regain.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 21:14     Subject: Is it wrong to want to look my best self?
Have you tried intermittent fasting/time restricted eating? Medication would be my last resort.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 19:52     Subject: Is it wrong to want to look my best self?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am a chubby woman. In my 20s and early 30s I looked objectively very pretty, and was thin. I have gained more and more weight since turning 40 and I tried semaglutide, then regained when I stopped. If you were me, would you consider going on it permanently? I am not a bad eater, I don't drink, I am active. I try dieting and lose 5, gain 2, lose 7, gain 5...and so on. It's like I cannot maintain a calorie deficit for the long run without semaglutide. I don't think I'd care if I were one of these women who can look gorgeous heavier, but my features get lost when I am heavy.


Weight loss is not about counting calories. That is old school thinking. Eliminating sugary foods and beverages, highly processed foods, and high carb foods will cause weight loss.


I have never been a soda drinker, and I do not eat fast food/packaged cookies or anything like that. I have tried low carb. It works to some extent, but isn't sustainable to me long term. I know this about myself because I get a little bit of a win that way, then don't maintain it. So I know what you are saying and I am sure that if I never touched a piece of bread or pasta in my life I'd be thin. I think realistically semaglutide would be easier to do than that.


Understood.

What are the side effects of semaglutide? Are you willing to accept the risks?
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 17:04     Subject: Is it wrong to want to look my best self?
Why would it be weird to want to be the best version of yourself?
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 16:48     Subject: Is it wrong to want to look my best self?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am a chubby woman. In my 20s and early 30s I looked objectively very pretty, and was thin. I have gained more and more weight since turning 40 and I tried semaglutide, then regained when I stopped. If you were me, would you consider going on it permanently? I am not a bad eater, I don't drink, I am active. I try dieting and lose 5, gain 2, lose 7, gain 5...and so on. It's like I cannot maintain a calorie deficit for the long run without semaglutide. I don't think I'd care if I were one of these women who can look gorgeous heavier, but my features get lost when I am heavy.


Weight loss is not about counting calories. That is old school thinking. Eliminating sugary foods and beverages, highly processed foods, and high carb foods will cause weight loss.


I have never been a soda drinker, and I do not eat fast food/packaged cookies or anything like that. I have tried low carb. It works to some extent, but isn't sustainable to me long term. I know this about myself because I get a little bit of a win that way, then don't maintain it. So I know what you are saying and I am sure that if I never touched a piece of bread or pasta in my life I'd be thin. I think realistically semaglutide would be easier to do than that.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 16:34     Subject: Is it wrong to want to look my best self?
Anonymous wrote:I am a chubby woman. In my 20s and early 30s I looked objectively very pretty, and was thin. I have gained more and more weight since turning 40 and I tried semaglutide, then regained when I stopped. If you were me, would you consider going on it permanently? I am not a bad eater, I don't drink, I am active. I try dieting and lose 5, gain 2, lose 7, gain 5...and so on. It's like I cannot maintain a calorie deficit for the long run without semaglutide. I don't think I'd care if I were one of these women who can look gorgeous heavier, but my features get lost when I am heavy.


Weight loss is not about counting calories. That is old school thinking. Eliminating sugary foods and beverages, highly processed foods, and high carb foods will cause weight loss.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 16:20     Subject: Is it wrong to want to look my best self?
You should join a gym.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 15:59     Subject: Is it wrong to want to look my best self?
Anonymous wrote:I don't struggle with my weight, so I haven't had to make this decision directly.

But I have multiple family members and friends who have. I don't get involved in their decisions - I just support them. But the logic that goes through my mind on their behalf is:

Worst case, you think about your inability to lose weight as a moral failing, and that weight loss drugs are cheating. Not saying I agree, but that seems to be why people are uncomfortable taking the drugs.

So here are your choice:

Have a moral failing for not being able to lose the weight naturally, and take the drugs and be thin.

Or have a moral failing for not being able to lose the weight naturally, and be fat.

If you're going to feel bad either way, but as well choose the path that makes you feel better about how you look and comes with ancillary health benefits.



I get what you are saying, but there are a lot of reasons a person would not want to try it, besides feeling like it's a cheat: side effects, long-term health risks, concern of losing muscle mass, fear of needles, insurance issues, availability issues, costs.

Since OP is considering going on it for life, I'm assuming the side effects are manageable and the rest are not issues for her. So the question would then be are there any long-term health risks and are they worth it to lose 25 or so pounds and keep it off. It's really only something she can discuss with her doctors. I think OP wants a sort of absolution here but it's like anything... is it worth the risk of a surgery to have bigger boobs or a smoother face? For some people yes and for others, no.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 15:09     Subject: Is it wrong to want to look my best self?
Anonymous wrote:I am a chubby woman. In my 20s and early 30s I looked objectively very pretty, and was thin. I have gained more and more weight since turning 40 and I tried semaglutide, then regained when I stopped. If you were me, would you consider going on it permanently? I am not a bad eater, I don't drink, I am active. I try dieting and lose 5, gain 2, lose 7, gain 5...and so on. It's like I cannot maintain a calorie deficit for the long run without semaglutide. I don't think I'd care if I were one of these women who can look gorgeous heavier, but my features get lost when I am heavy.


Almost no one can. My doctor told me that I will be on it for life because obesity is a chronic condition.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 15:02     Subject: Is it wrong to want to look my best self?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't struggle with my weight, so I haven't had to make this decision directly.

But I have multiple family members and friends who have. I don't get involved in their decisions - I just support them. But the logic that goes through my mind on their behalf is:

Worst case, you think about your inability to lose weight as a moral failing, and that weight loss drugs are cheating. Not saying I agree, but that seems to be why people are uncomfortable taking the drugs.

So here are your choice:

Have a moral failing for not being able to lose the weight naturally, and take the drugs and be thin.

Or have a moral failing for not being able to lose the weight naturally, and be fat.

If you're going to feel bad either way, but as well choose the path that makes you feel better about how you look and comes with ancillary health benefits.


This is bizarre. Being overweight or losing weight using a drug are moral failings? I am so glad I don't know you.

OP, I don't know what the side effects are, but if you can live with potential of those, and you can afford to pay for it, go for it. Feeling good about yourself makes a huge difference in life.

If you go for it, I would make sure you add exercise and healthy eating. Good luck


TY. I already exercise and eat pretty well, though likely too much. I don't eat junk, no alcohol, no soda, almost never eat out...So there is only so much I can modify. Ironically I probably eat much better than I did when I was thin and young! It mostly comes down to calories and being hungry. At least with semaglutide I am less hungry. It is daunting doing this for the long haul, but so is not liking how I look and retreating socially because of it.