Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 20:35     Subject: What constitutes a large family, in your opinion?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At this point I consider 3+ kids large. When I was young it was 4+. But I think as parenting standards have risen to expect more involved, intensive parenting, 3 kids now taxes the ability of parents to meet those standards in a way it didn't back in the 80s and 90s.

I know so many 1 or 2 kid families now. It's the vast majority of families I know (2 is most common but I know a LOT of onlies, likely because I am in a field where many women marry and start families later). This also makes the 3 kid families seem so much bigger than they used to. The third child adds an element of noise and (for lack of a better word) chaos that does not exist with most of the families I know.


Sort of the opposite! I didn't know a single family that had more than 2 kids when I was growing up (I was born in the 80s). I have tons of cousins and they all only had one sibling each.

Now 3 seems to be standard for those who can afford it. Everyone seems to have either no kids or 3 kids.


The new most obnoxious comment on DCUM is people who view having 3 or more kids as a signifier of wealth and class. What a stupid reason to have more kids.

I can afford to have a goat and yet I don't because who wants a goat? I certainly don't walk around explaining to people that it makes sense for me to have a goat because, after all, I can afford it.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 20:12     Subject: Re:What constitutes a large family, in your opinion?
1 or 2 kids is small, 3 is medium and anything 4+ is large.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 19:56     Subject: What constitutes a large family, in your opinion?
6+ kids
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 19:04     Subject: What constitutes a large family, in your opinion?
9 kids
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 18:57     Subject: What constitutes a large family, in your opinion?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:At this point I consider 3+ kids large. When I was young it was 4+. But I think as parenting standards have risen to expect more involved, intensive parenting, 3 kids now taxes the ability of parents to meet those standards in a way it didn't back in the 80s and 90s.

I know so many 1 or 2 kid families now. It's the vast majority of families I know (2 is most common but I know a LOT of onlies, likely because I am in a field where many women marry and start families later). This also makes the 3 kid families seem so much bigger than they used to. The third child adds an element of noise and (for lack of a better word) chaos that does not exist with most of the families I know.


Sort of the opposite! I didn't know a single family that had more than 2 kids when I was growing up (I was born in the 80s). I have tons of cousins and they all only had one sibling each.

Now 3 seems to be standard for those who can afford it. Everyone seems to have either no kids or 3 kids.


Definitely agree with this. I grew up in a very wealthy area in New York City and was born in the 80s and it was so rare for a family to have more than two kids. Now all of my peers from the area seem to be having three. It’s definitely a class thing.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 18:46     Subject: What constitutes a large family, in your opinion?
4 or more kids.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 18:38     Subject: What constitutes a large family, in your opinion?
I’d say 3+ kids.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 18:37     Subject: What constitutes a large family, in your opinion?
4+ kids
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 16:56     Subject: What constitutes a large family, in your opinion?
Anonymous wrote:3+

Can't road trip in a regular car, need 2 hotel rooms, don't fit in a standard restaurant booth. The world is designed for families of 4 or less people.


Based on my personal feelings, I agree with this. Based on just looking around and seeing what’s common, I’d say 4 or more children. 3 kids just slides in as “normal.”
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 16:39     Subject: What constitutes a large family, in your opinion?
We live in a neighborhood with lots of families with 4 kids, so that seems more normal. I’d say 5+ would be big.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 15:54     Subject: What constitutes a large family, in your opinion?
Anonymous wrote:3+

Can't road trip in a regular car, need 2 hotel rooms, don't fit in a standard restaurant booth. The world is designed for families of 4 or less people.


+1
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 15:11     Subject: What constitutes a large family, in your opinion?
3+

Can't road trip in a regular car, need 2 hotel rooms, don't fit in a standard restaurant booth. The world is designed for families of 4 or less people.
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 15:06     Subject: What constitutes a large family, in your opinion?
3+ kids
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 14:18     Subject: What constitutes a large family, in your opinion?
Anonymous wrote:4+ kids. I have 3 kids and it seems pretty standard for UMC families. Every house on my culdesac has 3 kids.


+1
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2025 13:56     Subject: What constitutes a large family, in your opinion?
3+