I was hit and almost killed by a drunk and drugged up driver. Five minutes from home

I know how to give grace. I know how to forgive and more importantly let go of all of what I can’t control and isn’t my business.

Signed
Person who left a good lawyer recommendation and mother of two under 22 yo olds.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why should it be expunged?

It is a serious offense.

Consequences teach valuable lessons.

She’s 19 she could literally have blown a .000001 and it’s DUI.

My oldest (99th percentile IQ, AAP, attending selective university, planning to attend t14 law school) would have never done something like this. It's sickening to think unstable individuals such as this poster's daughter are allowed to roam free. Before the mob attacks: no, I am not religious, no I am not kidding, no I am not uptight.

No one cares about your kids stats.

This x 1000000000000

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Anonymous wrote:1) every single one of you would try to help your kid if they did this. So lay off your high horses please.

2) I doubt she will get jail time but that’s what a good lawyer is for.

"Help your kid" has different meanings to different people. Daddy bailing her out is not what I have in mind.

If my teen got a DUI I would "help" them by sending them to rehab and doing everything I could to make sure that they don't drive for the foreseeable future. I would expect them to suffer some consequences that hopefully will teach a lifelong lesson.

Oh please. I love it when DCUM posters get all hysterical for no reason. She asked for a layer recommendation. You have no idea what else they’re doing or not doing. A DUI at 19 does not equal a necessary trip to rehab. Not that you or anyone else could make an adult do that. Calm down.

You are so wrong. If your drinking is threatening other areas of your life (school, career, financial, reputation), you have a problem .

And the younger kids start, the more likely they are to develop a substance abuse disorder.

This post is a good wake up call for those who allow underage kids to drink alcohol.

It is not true that they all do. Many do, but the ones who have condoning parents drink more. And more often. While they are still young, make the behaviors that can have life changing consequences difficult for them to carry out.

Anonymous wrote:I do think that in this day and age with all the messaging about dui and all the ride share options, that someone who still chooses to drink and drive should lose their license. They do not have the maturity or sense of responsibility to drink responsibly. Since you can’t stop them from drinking, then the goal should be to make it as hard as possible for them to drive and to come down hard when they do.

While anyone charged with any offence has a right to legal help and should access that, the goal should not be to minimize consequences.

Do you even know what lawyers do?

OP, I'm sorry. I know this must be hard and worrying. I hope you find a good lawyer and your daughter learns a valuable lesson, if for nothing else but for her own safety. And ignore most of these sanctimonious posters. They either have super young kids or are clueless about what their kids actually do. Teens do dumb things. Their teens are no better.

I do think that in this day and age with all the messaging about dui and all the ride share options, that someone who still chooses to drink and drive should lose their license. They do not have the maturity or sense of responsibility to drink responsibly. Since you can’t stop them from drinking, then the goal should be to make it as hard as possible for them to drive and to come down hard when they do.

While anyone charged with any offence has a right to legal help and should access that, the goal should not be to minimize consequences.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why should it be expunged?

It is a serious offense.

Consequences teach valuable lessons.

She’s 19 she could literally have blown a .000001 and it’s DUI.

My oldest (99th percentile IQ, AAP, attending selective university, planning to attend t14 law school) would have never done something like this. It's sickening to think unstable individuals such as this poster's daughter are allowed to roam free. Before the mob attacks: no, I am not religious, no I am not kidding, no I am not uptight.

No one cares about your kids stats.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why should it be expunged?

It is a serious offense.

Consequences teach valuable lessons.

She’s 19 she could literally have blown a .000001 and it’s DUI.

My oldest (99th percentile IQ, AAP, attending selective university, planning to attend t14 law school) would have never done something like this. It's sickening to think unstable individuals such as this poster's daughter are allowed to roam free. Before the mob attacks: no, I am not religious, no I am not kidding, no I am not uptight.

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Anonymous wrote:Try to get probation before judgement and the arrest expunged.

Assuming they had probable cause and she’s guilty.

Good luck.

They used to have a program called REDO not sure if it exists or changed names for 1st offenders to get the record expunged

DUI is a specifically excepted from expungable offenses in many jurisdictions, including Maryland.

Good. I hope it follows her for life.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) every single one of you would try to help your kid if they did this. So lay off your high horses please.

2) I doubt she will get jail time but that’s what a good lawyer is for.

"Help your kid" has different meanings to different people. Daddy bailing her out is not what I have in mind.

If my teen got a DUI I would "help" them by sending them to rehab and doing everything I could to make sure that they don't drive for the foreseeable future. I would expect them to suffer some consequences that hopefully will teach a lifelong lesson.

My dad always told me if I got myself in jail, he wouldn’t bail me out. The kid in the article above didn’t even get the option. The judge gave him no bail. In jail since the morning of the accident.

My dad said the same thing. His brother - my uncle - was killed in a hit and run and nothing ever happened to the driver. (This was decades ago. No idea if they were drunk since they didn’t turn themselves in for days.) My uncle left behind three little boys who missed out on having a dad their entire lives. Drunk driving is not a little thing and, with mass transit, Uber, Lyft and cabs, a totally unecessary thing. If you can afford an attorney, you could afford the Uber. Get your kid into rehab for real and take away the car keys. The life he saves may be his own.

I was hit by a drunk driver on the beltway when a teen. He was driving the wrong way. I was incredibly fortunate to walk away and have no idea how I did. The driver behind me was not fortunate. I watched them trying to extricate him. I have from the time my kids were preschoolers openly discussed the dangers of drinking and driving. They know the risks. I have told them I won’t bail them out. But the reality is that kids are often immature and do stupid things and I don’t blame a parent for wanting a good lawyer. However, I would require my child to seek treatment (even if they claimed they didn’t have a drinking problem) and I would take away the car. I would never again allow my child to drive my car/insure them. I wouldn’t want to assume the risk of my child being a repeat offender.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) every single one of you would try to help your kid if they did this. So lay off your high horses please.

2) I doubt she will get jail time but that’s what a good lawyer is for.

"Help your kid" has different meanings to different people. Daddy bailing her out is not what I have in mind.

If my teen got a DUI I would "help" them by sending them to rehab and doing everything I could to make sure that they don't drive for the foreseeable future. I would expect them to suffer some consequences that hopefully will teach a lifelong lesson.

My dad always told me if I got myself in jail, he wouldn’t bail me out. The kid in the article above didn’t even get the option. The judge gave him no bail. In jail since the morning of the accident.

My dad said the same thing. His brother - my uncle - was killed in a hit and run and nothing ever happened to the driver. (This was decades ago. No idea if they were drunk since they didn’t turn themselves in for days.) My uncle left behind three little boys who missed out on having a dad their entire lives. Drunk driving is not a little thing and, with mass transit, Uber, Lyft and cabs, a totally unecessary thing. If you can afford an attorney, you could afford the Uber. Get your kid into rehab for real and take away the car keys. The life he saves may be his own.

Anonymous wrote:Why should it be expunged?

It is a serious offense.

Consequences teach valuable lessons.

She’s 19 she could literally have blown a .000001 and it’s DUI.

Anonymous wrote:1) every single one of you would try to help your kid if they did this. So lay off your high horses please.

2) I doubt she will get jail time but that’s what a good lawyer is for.

Agree with this poster. OPs daughter made a mistake, and OP is trying to help. We've all made mistakes to varying degrees, we can all hope this young adult has earned their lesson.

No judgement from me OP - and good luck

Rene Sandler is an excellent criminal attorney. I think she handles DUIs.

Maybe see what your new car insurance rates are going to look like before setting a budget for this.