Anonymous
Post 01/06/2025 16:23     Subject: Hitting the panic button- what to wear for first date at 47
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Being feminine doesn't mean you are a trad wife. The fact that you immediately jump to extreme stereotypes tells me that you do not understand what a typical man is looking for on a first date.


At some 47, OP, I hope, is considering what she wants in a man, is looking for a man who likes her as-is, and is not trying to dress to please a stranger.


She can both want to put her best foot forward and look for someone who likes her as she is. Wearing a nice dress doesn't mean she's changing who she is as a person.

But she can also NOT wear a nice dress if that's her preference! She doesn't have to cast the widest possible net for someone who'd want to be with her.

In short - what are we even arguing about?!

I think PP's comment about the sweater dress was more a critique of it being a bit basic - but lots of people like basic! And lots of people look good in a sweater dress!!


We are “fighting” over this: “Preferably something that looks fuzzy and soft, you want to project that you’d be a nice feminine presence in their life.”. All fine if OP wants to project fuzzy, soft, and nice feminine presence in this stranger’s life. It sounds like it might be news to you that this is not how some of us want to project.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2025 16:20     Subject: Hitting the panic button- what to wear for first date at 47
Anonymous wrote:Hmm that's a good point about the jewelry. So a dress feels overdone?


It’s cold. I would go business casual with a button undone depending on where you are headed.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2025 16:17     Subject: Hitting the panic button- what to wear for first date at 47
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Being feminine doesn't mean you are a trad wife. The fact that you immediately jump to extreme stereotypes tells me that you do not understand what a typical man is looking for on a first date.


At some 47, OP, I hope, is considering what she wants in a man, is looking for a man who likes her as-is, and is not trying to dress to please a stranger.


She can both want to put her best foot forward and look for someone who likes her as she is. Wearing a nice dress doesn't mean she's changing who she is as a person.

But she can also NOT wear a nice dress if that's her preference! She doesn't have to cast the widest possible net for someone who'd want to be with her.

In short - what are we even arguing about?!

I think PP's comment about the sweater dress was more a critique of it being a bit basic - but lots of people like basic! And lots of people look good in a sweater dress!!
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2025 15:23     Subject: Hitting the panic button- what to wear for first date at 47
Anonymous wrote:Being feminine doesn't mean you are a trad wife. The fact that you immediately jump to extreme stereotypes tells me that you do not understand what a typical man is looking for on a first date.


At some 47, OP, I hope, is considering what she wants in a man, is looking for a man who likes her as-is, and is not trying to dress to please a stranger.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2025 13:41     Subject: Hitting the panic button- what to wear for first date at 47
Being feminine doesn't mean you are a trad wife. The fact that you immediately jump to extreme stereotypes tells me that you do not understand what a typical man is looking for on a first date.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2025 13:26     Subject: Hitting the panic button- what to wear for first date at 47
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Depends on the venue- fancy restaurant? Black pants - nice camisole with a cropped blazer and heels

Casual place- your cashmere v neck and jeans


Don’t wear a blazer on a first date. Good lord DC has the worst fashion advice.

Sweater dress with nice boots. Preferably something that looks fuzzy and soft, you want to project that you’d be a nice feminine presence in their life.


Maybe OP isn't looking to be a trad wife in her next relationship. OP, wear what makes YOU comfortable, not what you think men want.


OK then dress in red leather and bring the whip, not the cream.

Or wear a suit and bring your laptop to share you spreadsheets on the economic forecast of getting married.


heh you have some weird ideas about how women dress
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2025 13:25     Subject: Hitting the panic button- what to wear for first date at 47
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Depends on the venue- fancy restaurant? Black pants - nice camisole with a cropped blazer and heels

Casual place- your cashmere v neck and jeans


Don’t wear a blazer on a first date. Good lord DC has the worst fashion advice.

Sweater dress with nice boots. Preferably something that looks fuzzy and soft, you want to project that you’d be a nice feminine presence in their life.


Maybe OP isn't looking to be a trad wife in her next relationship. OP, wear what makes YOU comfortable, not what you think men want.


OK then dress in red leather and bring the whip, not the cream.

Or wear a suit and bring your laptop to share you spreadsheets on the economic forecast of getting married.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2025 13:19     Subject: Hitting the panic button- what to wear for first date at 47
Anonymous wrote:Be yourself, or you're creating trouble for yourself.

Wear what your wear to work, or to theater, or church, or family parties.

Nothing looks sexier than comfort and interest.


+1
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2025 09:03     Subject: Hitting the panic button- what to wear for first date at 47
I am invested now, OP, what did you decide?
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2025 08:57     Subject: Hitting the panic button- what to wear for first date at 47
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Depends on the venue- fancy restaurant? Black pants - nice camisole with a cropped blazer and heels

Casual place- your cashmere v neck and jeans


Don’t wear a blazer on a first date. Good lord DC has the worst fashion advice.

Sweater dress with nice boots. Preferably something that looks fuzzy and soft, you want to project that you’d be a nice feminine presence in their life.


98% of woman don't have the body for this look,yet 98% of woman feel the need to wear it.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2025 08:36     Subject: Hitting the panic button- what to wear for first date at 47
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Depends on the venue- fancy restaurant? Black pants - nice camisole with a cropped blazer and heels

Casual place- your cashmere v neck and jeans


Don’t wear a blazer on a first date. Good lord DC has the worst fashion advice.

Sweater dress with nice boots. Preferably something that looks fuzzy and soft, you want to project that you’d be a nice feminine presence in their life.


Please, no.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2025 08:28     Subject: Hitting the panic button- what to wear for first date at 47
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Depends on the venue- fancy restaurant? Black pants - nice camisole with a cropped blazer and heels

Casual place- your cashmere v neck and jeans


Don’t wear a blazer on a first date. Good lord DC has the worst fashion advice.

Sweater dress with nice boots. Preferably something that looks fuzzy and soft, you want to project that you’d be a nice feminine presence in their life.


Maybe OP isn't looking to be a trad wife in her next relationship. OP, wear what makes YOU comfortable, not what you think men want.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2025 08:17     Subject: Hitting the panic button- what to wear for first date at 47
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wear a great outfit but DO NOT put pressure on two dates. You need to set up like 25 convenient first dates in a constant assembly line so they are all low risk and low investment. Don’t get to know them at all online, just do a coffee or a drink somewhere convenient.


This!!


This is excellent advice. Plus the rec for black cashmere v-neck with darker denim? You’ll be all set.

I divorced at 38 and both bits of advice are almost exactly what I did. Have fun, OP!!
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2025 08:00     Subject: Hitting the panic button- what to wear for first date at 47
Be yourself, or you're creating trouble for yourself.

Wear what your wear to work, or to theater, or church, or family parties.

Nothing looks sexier than comfort and interest.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2025 07:57     Subject: Hitting the panic button- what to wear for first date at 47
Anonymous wrote:Depends on the venue- fancy restaurant? Black pants - nice camisole with a cropped blazer and heels

Casual place- your cashmere v neck and jeans


Don’t wear a blazer on a first date. Good lord DC has the worst fashion advice.

Sweater dress with nice boots. Preferably something that looks fuzzy and soft, you want to project that you’d be a nice feminine presence in their life.