Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s so weird it makes me wonder if it’s was an oversight somehow. And I can’t believe the kids didn’t ask????

I am certain kids asked. No way that a group of 4 year olds watched another kid blow out candles on a cake and then asked no follow up questions when the cake disappeared and none was offered. One or 2 year olds, okay, they don't know what's going on. Four year olds are like treat detectors. Once when my kid was 4, I unwrapped a lozenge in the front seat of our car and she interrogated me for the next 15 minutes about what I was having and why she couldn't have some. She accurately identified the flavor of the lozenge as lemon from the backseat. She could hear a foil wrapper rip from another floor of the house. She could smell chocolate on someone's breath if it had been consumed even an hour before.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have friends who did this. They’re really weird about dye and sugar but want to have the party look right, so the cake is whisked away right after singing. My secret theory is that the parents binged on it later.

This is something you’ll see up through kindergarten, but by 1st grade most parents have chilled out and are more realistic about their ability to control kids’ behavior (theirs and others) by controlling food intake.

Your explanation makes no sense. They are grown adults who have had birthday parties themselves and gone to many. Nothing happens when children eat a piece of cake. And if they have a problem with sugar or whatever the latest scary ingredient then make something else that everyone can eat. That’s just some rude hostessing.

And why were there so many adults there?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have friends who did this. They’re really weird about dye and sugar but want to have the party look right, so the cake is whisked away right after singing. My secret theory is that the parents binged on it later.

This is something you’ll see up through kindergarten, but by 1st grade most parents have chilled out and are more realistic about their ability to control kids’ behavior (theirs and others) by controlling food intake.

Your explanation makes no sense. They are grown adults who have had birthday parties themselves and gone to many. Nothing happens when children eat a piece of cake. And if they have a problem with sugar or whatever the latest scary ingredient then make something else that everyone can eat. That’s just some rude hostessing.

And why were there so many adults there?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow if my kid was at that party like that at age 4 she would be loudly asking when they get to have cake and would be upset if we left without cake. I'd probably wind up agreeing to buy her a cupcake on the way home just to get her out of there because her association is that birthday=cake, so attending a birthday party and seeing a cake but not being served any would be very hard for her to deal with at age 4.

By age 7 or 8 we'd be able to get her out of there without a problem but we'd be hearing about it for weeks. "Why do you think Joey's parents had that cake and didn't serve it? Do you think that was a fake cake? Do you think the cake tasted bad and that's why they didn't serve it? Will we be serving cake at my birthday because if not I don't want to have a party. Do you think Billy's birthday party next week will have cake and will they serve it and how big will the pieces be and can I have two pieces of cake since I didn't have any cake at Joey's party last month?"

I have to assume these people have no other children.

It is strange but your kid is rude and you need to teach them manners.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow if my kid was at that party like that at age 4 she would be loudly asking when they get to have cake and would be upset if we left without cake. I'd probably wind up agreeing to buy her a cupcake on the way home just to get her out of there because her association is that birthday=cake, so attending a birthday party and seeing a cake but not being served any would be very hard for her to deal with at age 4.

By age 7 or 8 we'd be able to get her out of there without a problem but we'd be hearing about it for weeks. "Why do you think Joey's parents had that cake and didn't serve it? Do you think that was a fake cake? Do you think the cake tasted bad and that's why they didn't serve it? Will we be serving cake at my birthday because if not I don't want to have a party. Do you think Billy's birthday party next week will have cake and will they serve it and how big will the pieces be and can I have two pieces of cake since I didn't have any cake at Joey's party last month?"

I have to assume these people have no other children.

It is strange but your kid is rude and you need to teach them manners.

Anonymous wrote:I have friends who did this. They’re really weird about dye and sugar but want to have the party look right, so the cake is whisked away right after singing. My secret theory is that the parents binged on it later.

This is something you’ll see up through kindergarten, but by 1st grade most parents have chilled out and are more realistic about their ability to control kids’ behavior (theirs and others) by controlling food intake.

Anonymous wrote:Wow if my kid was at that party like that at age 4 she would be loudly asking when they get to have cake and would be upset if we left without cake. I'd probably wind up agreeing to buy her a cupcake on the way home just to get her out of there because her association is that birthday=cake, so attending a birthday party and seeing a cake but not being served any would be very hard for her to deal with at age 4.

By age 7 or 8 we'd be able to get her out of there without a problem but we'd be hearing about it for weeks. "Why do you think Joey's parents had that cake and didn't serve it? Do you think that was a fake cake? Do you think the cake tasted bad and that's why they didn't serve it? Will we be serving cake at my birthday because if not I don't want to have a party. Do you think Billy's birthday party next week will have cake and will they serve it and how big will the pieces be and can I have two pieces of cake since I didn't have any cake at Joey's party last month?"

I have to assume these people have no other children.

Anonymous wrote:It was weird. Kid blew out the candles and then that was that.

This was a 4 year old birthday party with about 10 kids and at least one adult per kid but most had both parents with them and some had siblings as well.

It was like-he blew out the candles and they just moved on. Is this some new thing? This is my third kid and i’ve never experienced this weirdness.

I’m not friends with the birthday kids parents or I would have just asked.

Anonymous wrote:That’s so weird it makes me wonder if it’s was an oversight somehow. And I can’t believe the kids didn’t ask????