Anonymous
Post 01/04/2025 11:19     Subject: I’m exhausted with my fiancé
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It feels like he’s always getting upset about small things. For example, last night, I was just about to pop into the bathroom to get ready for bed, when a news report popped up about the UK grooming gangs that has been in the news lately. I was chatting to him about it, because he had never heard of it. Granted, I get it’s a bit of a depressing topic, but next thing I know he had stormed out and insisted on sleeping on the couch because “I don’t want to hear about this before I go to bed”. I get that, in retrospect, I should have maybe kept it to myself and just gotten ready for bed. But I honestly didn’t think it, and, in any case, it feels like I have to walk on eggshells around him, that he’s not good at managing his emotions and freaks out over the smallest things. Unfortunately I am (accidentally) pregnant so leaving isn’t so easy, but I’m afraid when we have a child together it will be a million times worse. I’m not sure if this kind of thing, a guy who always seems upset, is a legitimate red flag or I’m just suffering from pregnancy hormones. And if it is really bad, then IDK whether I should leave now or wait till after the child arrives


Before you started "chatting" did you gague if he was in a chatty mood? In life we don't just have to start talking and assume that just because we are talking those around us have to take it in right then and there.


Gmafb. Adults who are not in a chatty mood say so and their partner respects them enough to back off. What you are encouraging is for the OP to continue to try to interpret his moods instead of for the adult man to use his big boy words to set a boundary when he doesn’t want to hear something upsetting.

OP, people aren’t perfect, but his behavior is not normal and will be really hard to navigate long term.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2025 11:17     Subject: I’m exhausted with my fiancé
Anonymous wrote:You should be free to talk about whatever you want.

His reaction is very odd and a red flag.


Ok if you think this than people should be able to react in whatever way they want, if you assert that communication is a free for all.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2025 11:14     Subject: I’m exhausted with my fiancé
Not normal. Do not discuss with him. Make a plan and follow it and your gut with trusted confidants.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2025 11:12     Subject: I’m exhausted with my fiancé
You should be free to talk about whatever you want.

His reaction is very odd and a red flag.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2025 11:10     Subject: I’m exhausted with my fiancé
Before you abort and leave this man, can you have a conversation about his reaction? Is he triggered by more subjects? Good luck.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2025 11:07     Subject: I’m exhausted with my fiancé
Anonymous wrote:He probably has anxiety and possibly sexual abuse in his past. Actually talk to him about it. He may be completely freaking out about you being pregnant accidentally. Are you sure he wants to raise a baby?



Interested in knowing what made you think he was SA?
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2025 10:44     Subject: I’m exhausted with my fiancé
Anonymous wrote:Is there still time to get an abortion? Do that.


+1
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2025 10:38     Subject: I’m exhausted with my fiancé
He probably has anxiety and possibly sexual abuse in his past. Actually talk to him about it. He may be completely freaking out about you being pregnant accidentally. Are you sure he wants to raise a baby?
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2025 10:34     Subject: I’m exhausted with my fiancé
Terminate the pregnancy immediately and get away from that man.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2025 10:07     Subject: I’m exhausted with my fiancé
Anonymous wrote:It feels like he’s always getting upset about small things. For example, last night, I was just about to pop into the bathroom to get ready for bed, when a news report popped up about the UK grooming gangs that has been in the news lately. I was chatting to him about it, because he had never heard of it. Granted, I get it’s a bit of a depressing topic, but next thing I know he had stormed out and insisted on sleeping on the couch because “I don’t want to hear about this before I go to bed”. I get that, in retrospect, I should have maybe kept it to myself and just gotten ready for bed. But I honestly didn’t think it, and, in any case, it feels like I have to walk on eggshells around him, that he’s not good at managing his emotions and freaks out over the smallest things. Unfortunately I am (accidentally) pregnant so leaving isn’t so easy, but I’m afraid when we have a child together it will be a million times worse. I’m not sure if this kind of thing, a guy who always seems upset, is a legitimate red flag or I’m just suffering from pregnancy hormones. And if it is really bad, then IDK whether I should leave now or wait till after the child arrives


Before you started "chatting" did you gague if he was in a chatty mood? In life we don't just have to start talking and assume that just because we are talking those around us have to take it in right then and there.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2025 10:01     Subject: I’m exhausted with my fiancé
Is there still time to get an abortion? Do that.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2025 09:59     Subject: I’m exhausted with my fiancé
Get your ducks in a row. This does not bode well for you or your kid.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2025 09:56     Subject: Re:I’m exhausted with my fiancé
How many other kids do you have OP?
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2025 09:48     Subject: I’m exhausted with my fiancé
He might have anxiety
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2025 08:38     Subject: I’m exhausted with my fiancé
How far along? If early, I would be aborting that pregnancy. If not, move out immediately without telling this guy where you’re going and give it up for adoption. The baby will destroy what’s left of your relationship anyway.