Say you have a previous commitment a bit earlier than their event and ask if you can come for dessert. Come late and say you already ate.

There’s really nothing to say to the rude people. Just politely decline and ask them if they have any travel plans for the new year.

This doesn't happen to me bc I do not accept invites to people's houses unless I know their chef.

Anonymous wrote:I hate that people are saying to put food on your plate and push it around. Stop wasting food! As a host, it burns inside when I am scraping plates filled with food. Why did you take it if you weren't going to eat it? Stop wasting money and food!

Maybe the food wasn't very good? But besides that, if you're going to host you just need to look the other way or don't do it at all.

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Anonymous wrote:It's one meal. People act like not eating at one meal is the end of the world. Or not eating exactly what they want. Consider it a fast and offer up to Buddha, Jessus, sky spirit, whatever.

For the people going for a week-- it's a great chance to take your hosts out as a treat.

I’m fine not eating the meal or taking just a couple bites. But it’s the rude comments…

Yeah, I know. And it's a good reminder on here even to the most well-meaning not to "push" food or drink.

If you have food issues, stop eating with people. Do other things together that don't involve food.

Anonymous wrote:You sound judgy OP. Who doesn’t like heavy cream unless they non dairy.

Having said that, is there no bread, salad sides? If not, take some with you. Have very small helpings.

Heavy cream is unhealthy and some may have issues with dairy.

I hate that people are saying to put food on your plate and push it around. Stop wasting food! As a host, it burns inside when I am scraping plates filled with food. Why did you take it if you weren't going to eat it? Stop wasting money and food!

Eat before you go and just take small portions or what you like and ignore. Dont push food around.

If buffet style, you can easily eat as little as you like. If it’s a sit down dinner, decline because you will stand out. Or, tell the host you have a previous engagement and will arrive late.

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Anonymous wrote:Here's what I do ...

Eat before you attend
Simply say no thank you
Don't eat anything
Bring something you prepared or purchased that you like

This is weird. Don't do this.

I don't think ..
What is weird ?? Feeling pressured to eat foods you don't like want or need.

You can’t accept an invitation for a meal at someone’s house and then not eat anything, or eat only food you brought. It would be more polite to decline entirely.

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Anonymous wrote:It's one meal. People act like not eating at one meal is the end of the world. Or not eating exactly what they want. Consider it a fast and offer up to Buddha, Jessus, sky spirit, whatever.

For the people going for a week-- it's a great chance to take your hosts out as a treat.

I’m fine not eating the meal or taking just a couple bites. But it’s the rude comments…

Yeah, I know. And it's a good reminder on here even to the most well-meaning not to "push" food or drink.

Anonymous wrote:It's one meal. People act like not eating at one meal is the end of the world. Or not eating exactly what they want. Consider it a fast and offer up to Buddha, Jessus, sky spirit, whatever.

For the people going for a week-- it's a great chance to take your hosts out as a treat.

I’m fine not eating the meal or taking just a couple bites. But it’s the rude comments…

You sound judgy OP. Who doesn’t like heavy cream unless they non dairy.

Having said that, is there no bread, salad sides? If not, take some with you. Have very small helpings.

Fill your plate with salad and veggies. Blame your small appetite on filling up on hors d’oeuvres, eating too much rich food over the weekend, wanting to have a little taste of everything, etc. Push the food around. Claim you want to save room for dessert. Exclaim that you’ve been so busy talking (or listening to Bob’s tale of his third colonoscopy) that you slowed your eating.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's what I do ...

Eat before you attend
Simply say no thank you
Don't eat anything
Bring something you prepared or purchased that you like

This is weird. Don't do this.

I don't think ..
What is weird ?? Feeling pressured to eat foods you don't like want or need.

I think PP is referring to the last line. Bringing something for yourself to eat is more noticeable than simply saying no thank you if you can’t take a small scoop and push it around on your plate.

It's one meal. People act like not eating at one meal is the end of the world. Or not eating exactly what they want. Consider it a fast and offer up to Buddha, Jessus, sky spirit, whatever.

For the people going for a week-- it's a great chance to take your hosts out as a treat.