Anonymous
Post 12/24/2024 17:24     Subject: Gift ideas for adult kid's fiancée?
Some of my favorite gifts from my
MIL are childhood pictures of my husband in nice frames
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2024 15:06     Subject: Gift ideas for adult kid's fiancée?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Young people are usually still setting up their home, so maybe a Christmas cookie jar, rolling pin and cookie cutters?

You could to a nice chef's knife and cutting board. Or a set of steak knives. Or an immersion blender and soup recipe book. Nice wine glasses from Crate and Barrel and a bottle of wine?


What? No. The Ugg slippers that OP's son suggested are perfect. I'm aghast at your sexist suggestions. And I cook and bake. But these seem a lot like gifts for this woman to serve/perform for OP's son.

Agast at wine glasses and steak knives? You're ridiculous. Young people are waiting longer to get married and don't want to drink wine out of plastic solo cups into their 30s and saw at their meat with dull knives.
I'd buy these equally for a son or daughter. Heck, I got my brother cookie cutters and a rolling pin for Christmas a few years ago--he loves Christmas cookies.

The Ugg slippers are fine too. I didn't see that decision until after I'd posted, but have there's no issues with nice things for their home.


That was a personal gift, because you know he loves cookies.

There are issues with buying HER a gift for THEIR home. Do you not understand this? And the implications that come with it?
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2024 15:04     Subject: Gift ideas for adult kid's fiancée?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Young people are usually still setting up their home, so maybe a Christmas cookie jar, rolling pin and cookie cutters?

You could to a nice chef's knife and cutting board. Or a set of steak knives. Or an immersion blender and soup recipe book. Nice wine glasses from Crate and Barrel and a bottle of wine?


What? No. The Ugg slippers that OP's son suggested are perfect. I'm aghast at your sexist suggestions. And I cook and bake. But these seem a lot like gifts for this woman to serve/perform for OP's son.


Everything can be taken wrong way by woke culture but cooking stuff is more of a wedding, hostess or housewarming gift, not a Christmas or birthday gift for any gender.


Everything is not about being “woke”. Buying a young woman who is cohabitating with your son knives and blenders and wine glasses is tone deaf at best. Let’s be real - there are people RIGHT NOW who think it’s the woman’s duty to cook, clean, entertain, and serve.

My point was for OP to buy this young woman something FOR HER. Not for her to cook with, entertain with, etc. Because more than likely, that’s what the person that suggested those items thought.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2024 12:11     Subject: Gift ideas for adult kid's fiancée?
When I first met my in-laws for Christmas they gave me a gift basket of items special to their hometown. I loved it.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2024 12:08     Subject: Gift ideas for adult kid's fiancée?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Young people are usually still setting up their home, so maybe a Christmas cookie jar, rolling pin and cookie cutters?

You could to a nice chef's knife and cutting board. Or a set of steak knives. Or an immersion blender and soup recipe book. Nice wine glasses from Crate and Barrel and a bottle of wine?


These are not gifts for her as an individual. These would be gifts to the couple (including your son), for their home.


Yes and this harkens back to the Relationships thread about a DIL who never gets personalized presents from her MIL. Try to give her something for herself, not for her house.

I didn't and don't want my MIL picking out things for me. They rarely hit the mark. She's much better at gifting things for our home.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2024 12:07     Subject: Gift ideas for adult kid's fiancée?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Young people are usually still setting up their home, so maybe a Christmas cookie jar, rolling pin and cookie cutters?

You could to a nice chef's knife and cutting board. Or a set of steak knives. Or an immersion blender and soup recipe book. Nice wine glasses from Crate and Barrel and a bottle of wine?


What? No. The Ugg slippers that OP's son suggested are perfect. I'm aghast at your sexist suggestions. And I cook and bake. But these seem a lot like gifts for this woman to serve/perform for OP's son.

Agast at wine glasses and steak knives? You're ridiculous. Young people are waiting longer to get married and don't want to drink wine out of plastic solo cups into their 30s and saw at their meat with dull knives.
I'd buy these equally for a son or daughter. Heck, I got my brother cookie cutters and a rolling pin for Christmas a few years ago--he loves Christmas cookies.

The Ugg slippers are fine too. I didn't see that decision until after I'd posted, but have there's no issues with nice things for their home.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2024 12:00     Subject: Gift ideas for adult kid's fiancée?
If it's a woman then it's fiancée.

Anonymous
Post 12/24/2024 11:42     Subject: Gift ideas for adult kid's fiancée?
Anonymous wrote:What's on wish list of young working women? Something nice but not bank breaking. Gift card? Perfume?


Gift card to a nice restaurant for her and your child to go out to on a date night.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2024 11:35     Subject: Gift ideas for adult kid's fiancée?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A cashmere scarf or throw blanket.

Definitely not perfume and definitely not anything she can't take on a plane, if she's flying.


Yeah, I think the cashmere scarf or an Ugg or Barefoot Dreams blanket would be great options. Nothing like perfume.


These are really nice options. You should also ask your son-- it's possible his fiancee has a hobby. I like to sew and a gift card to a high end fabric store would be a great gift.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2024 11:22     Subject: Gift ideas for adult kid's fiancée?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Young people are usually still setting up their home, so maybe a Christmas cookie jar, rolling pin and cookie cutters?

You could to a nice chef's knife and cutting board. Or a set of steak knives. Or an immersion blender and soup recipe book. Nice wine glasses from Crate and Barrel and a bottle of wine?


These are not gifts for her as an individual. These would be gifts to the couple (including your son), for their home.


Yes and this harkens back to the Relationships thread about a DIL who never gets personalized presents from her MIL. Try to give her something for herself, not for her house.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2024 11:21     Subject: Gift ideas for adult kid's fiancée?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I talked to my son about ideas.

Ended up with a nice pair of ugg slippers.


Good choice!

Talking to your son FTW! Congratulations on this new adventure in life, becoming a MiL. Choosing a gift based on a personal recommendation shows DIL you are seeing her as a person. Much nicer than an impersonal gift card.

+1 Talk to your son and ask him for recommendations if you cannot think of anything on your own. A nice pair of cashmere gloves, a pretty necklace with a simple pendant + small earrings, a stocking for your home if you don't already have one, a book or two that you think she'll enjoy, etc.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2024 09:26     Subject: Gift ideas for adult kid's fiancée?
Anonymous wrote:Young people are usually still setting up their home, so maybe a Christmas cookie jar, rolling pin and cookie cutters?

You could to a nice chef's knife and cutting board. Or a set of steak knives. Or an immersion blender and soup recipe book. Nice wine glasses from Crate and Barrel and a bottle of wine?


These are not gifts for her as an individual. These would be gifts to the couple (including your son), for their home.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2024 09:01     Subject: Gift ideas for adult kid's fiancée?
Well, if you know the person loves cooking that’s fine. At least I hope so. Giving future son in law cookbook and knife set for Xmas tomorrow!
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2024 21:27     Subject: Gift ideas for adult kid's fiancée?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Young people are usually still setting up their home, so maybe a Christmas cookie jar, rolling pin and cookie cutters?

You could to a nice chef's knife and cutting board. Or a set of steak knives. Or an immersion blender and soup recipe book. Nice wine glasses from Crate and Barrel and a bottle of wine?


What? No. The Ugg slippers that OP's son suggested are perfect. I'm aghast at your sexist suggestions. And I cook and bake. But these seem a lot like gifts for this woman to serve/perform for OP's son.


Everything can be taken wrong way by woke culture but cooking stuff is more of a wedding, hostess or housewarming gift, not a Christmas or birthday gift for any gender.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2024 19:47     Subject: Gift ideas for adult kid's fiancée?
Anonymous wrote:A cashmere scarf or throw blanket.

Definitely not perfume and definitely not anything she can't take on a plane, if she's flying.


Yeah, I think the cashmere scarf or an Ugg or Barefoot Dreams blanket would be great options. Nothing like perfume.