See you next Tuesday OP

Anonymous wrote:No wonder your SIL hates you.

If SIL hates OP, why is she calling her? Want information? Call your brother.

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Anonymous wrote:And we wonder why the divorce rate is so high. This is one of the (many) reasons. Couples aren't part of a team anymore. My DH and I go over all presents we are sending family.

OP was hostile and posted here to get DCUM strokes for being an a**.

Men have gone generations married without knowing what their own children were getting for Christmas. Not knowing what DH is getting his mom won’t cause a divorce

And we criticize it. Just because you’re a feminist and they’re doing the same thing doesn’t make it right.

What’s so strange is the lack of communication in a modern, equal partnership. Not even a quick passing comment or a question? That speaks more to their marriage and non-partnership than OP’s modern living.

And seven years is a long time. Long enough to be married, to have kids and to build a relationship.

I have a good relationship with my ILs, and DH has a good relationship with my parents. (And both sets of siblings, etc., nieces and nephews, etc.) But that doesn’t mean I care if DH sends his dad a new book for his birthday, and I send my mom the perfume she wants. Who cares? They literally have the same birthday, we send them each a gift, who cares? Neither of them wants for anything and could buy themselves anything. It’s just a gesture, we both know the gesture is being made, we only talk about stuff that needs to be discussed or is fun or interesting. I think it’s OK that DH doesn’t find my mother’s desire for a bottle of Tresor to be interesting.

No wonder your SIL hates you.

Anonymous wrote:And we wonder why the divorce rate is so high. This is one of the (many) reasons. Couples aren't part of a team anymore. My DH and I go over all presents we are sending family.

OP was hostile and posted here to get DCUM strokes for being an a**.

NP and DH and I are a team in that we divide and conquer. We know and trust that each other is taking care of gifts and cards and logistics for each of our side of the family. We only need to check in for dates of visits and travel. DH loves our nieces and nephew on my side of the family, but I don’t think he particularly cares that I sent them a holiday Barbie or whatever.

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Anonymous wrote:And we wonder why the divorce rate is so high. This is one of the (many) reasons. Couples aren't part of a team anymore. My DH and I go over all presents we are sending family.

OP was hostile and posted here to get DCUM strokes for being an a**.

Men have gone generations married without knowing what their own children were getting for Christmas. Not knowing what DH is getting his mom won’t cause a divorce

And we criticize it. Just because you’re a feminist and they’re doing the same thing doesn’t make it right.

What’s so strange is the lack of communication in a modern, equal partnership. Not even a quick passing comment or a question? That speaks more to their marriage and non-partnership than OP’s modern living.

And seven years is a long time. Long enough to be married, to have kids and to build a relationship.

Anonymous wrote:And we wonder why the divorce rate is so high. This is one of the (many) reasons. Couples aren't part of a team anymore. My DH and I go over all presents we are sending family.

OP was hostile and posted here to get DCUM strokes for being an a**.

Men have gone generations married without knowing what their own children were getting for Christmas. Not knowing what DH is getting his mom won’t cause a divorce

20-25 years of cryostasis, I guess.

Anonymous wrote:What were her exact words? Do keep in mind that you is plural.

Another avoidable tragedy. Another family torn about by the failure to use the proper second person plural "y'all".

OP is rude. Love that she thinks she's so progressive and better than thou

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Anonymous wrote:So you don’t even talk to your husband? No communication to know what he got his own mom? Even in passing conversation? That’s weird.

Nope! He ships stuff to his parents, I send stuff to mine. Or on the years we have them here, we buy and wrap. What’s to discuss? I didn’t tell him I made a donation to my hometown library and a gift card to a restaurant for my parents. We have enough shared responsibility to discuss.

^^ divorce in … I give it 7 years.

And we wonder why the divorce rate is so high. This is one of the (many) reasons. Couples aren't part of a team anymore. My DH and I go over all presents we are sending family.

OP was hostile and posted here to get DCUM strokes for being an a**.

Anonymous wrote:You're kind of a b, op.

OK?

You're kind of a b, op.

My in laws asked us not to get them presents because they feel that they have plenty of stuff. I love them for that!