Anonymous wrote:9th grade is way too early to tell what her chances are, and also way too early to have a dream school. Have her focus on developing her interests, getting involved in ECs that are interesting to her, etc. Do not talk too much at home about Harvard being the best, etc. There are so many great schools out there and people who are so fixated on getting into a particular one will create unnecessary angst in an already stressful time. You can also educate yourself on what opportunities are available at lots of different schools, as there are pros and cons of going to private v. public, large v. small, etc.
by the 7, 8th grade it's pretty clear what the chancer are. sure, there are some late bloomers, some highly pressured kids will burn out, but in most cases the potential is apparent.