Anonymous wrote:-Formula is your friend. It's ok to combo feed or only formula feed. If you enjoy breastfeeding and it's easy, great. Don't use precious energy forcing it if it's not happening.
-Throw money at it. Hire help, use childcare, whatever works for you and your DH and your kids to get through the first year, and then beyond.
And most importantly:
No one wins a medal for perfect parenting. Are your kids safe and loved? Yes? Then you are WINNING and so are they. You got this.
Anonymous wrote:I had two under two and it almost broke me BUT now that they’re older it’s awesome! That first year though… whew.
Tips:
Sleep train! The Sleep Easy Solution has a good option for 4 months (and a weight limit, so maybe a bit later for twins).
Throw money at your sanity EARLY if at all possible. Spending money to keep yourself sane in the first few months is WAY better than waiting until you’re absolutely drowning and trying to pick up the pieces. Get a night nanny at least a few nights a week. Order grocery delivery. Send out your laundry. Use paper plates and plastic cutlery. Get takeout. Buy easy to eat single serving snacks. Get good quality childcare for your older child and lean on it hard. $10-20k in upfront spending would have completely changed my life for that first 18 months, and instead I spent probably close to that trying to put myself back together (therapy, etc).
Do not be afraid to ask for help from anyone who will actually be helpful. Family, friends, neighbors. Don’t be shy. People want to help in this situation. If someone comes to visit the baby, ask them to unload the dishwasher. This is all hands on deck!
Best of luck to you!
Anonymous wrote:Don't plan to use daycare. The twins may be early and high risk for illness. Get a nanny for their health and your sanity.