Anonymous
Post 12/19/2024 17:54     Subject: Age for this
Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you. About our basement, it has creaky steps that anyone can hear coming. It’s a long walk around hallway to the projector setup.

So, they’d be able to feign innocence easily, never ever be caught off guard. Adding that to my thoughts, and your thoughts, it’s a no for me. If they want to use the cooler movie space that feels more like a theater, they can in a group.


This is sensible. I don’t know if you posted more about age, length of relationship, but if they’re watching a movie, it’s good to be in a family area. Everyone knows about Netflix and chill. They don’t have to be doing everything, but.. hand stuff can be an issue.

Your group idea is good for a basement, theater room night.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2024 13:47     Subject: Age for this
16. If I felt like I needed to be checking in several times then I just wouldn’t allow. At this age kids can go on dates somewhere outside the house so what’s the point.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2024 09:20     Subject: Age for this
Thank God my kids aren’t dating.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2024 08:40     Subject: Age for this
16. We’ve had all of the discussions. They find a way to do what they want to do in that area.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2024 08:34     Subject: Age for this
Anonymous wrote:We are not there yet, but I agree with PPs regarding lots of check-ins. Thankfully, our laundry room is in the basement and so my plan is to do laundry whenever my DD is in a similar situation so I can pop in and out easily.


Genius!
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2024 08:32     Subject: Age for this
Anonymous wrote:We allowed it at 16. We’re home and they know we can go downstairs at any moment.

But I’m also not so naive to know that backseats of cars exist.


This. By the time one of them is driving, then just know that they now have a private spot to do what they want to do. Most likely it won't be happening in the basement with the doors open and a parent directly upstairs. Now if a parent is not home, that's a different story.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2024 07:34     Subject: Age for this
We allowed it at 16. We’re home and they know we can go downstairs at any moment.

But I’m also not so naive to know that backseats of cars exist.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2024 23:30     Subject: Age for this
Not unless both kids have had a mature conversation with their parents about sexual safety