Anonymous
Post 12/19/2024 00:40     Subject: Any experiences for males at Vassar?
My friend's son (straight, sporty, humanities guy) graduated last year and he loved his experience at Vassar. I don't think he had any particular problem making friends with other guys, straight or not, and he definitley didnt' have issues finding girls to hang out with.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2024 16:21     Subject: Re:Any experiences for males at Vassar?
Like any other college
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2024 14:34     Subject: Any experiences for males at Vassar?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DS is interested in learning more about Vassar but he's a bit worried about the gender ratio - 65 (female) to 35 (male). Does anyone have a DS at Vassar and what has his experience been? Has he been able to fit in? What is Poughkeepsie like to live in?

DS is an extroverted straight male interested in social sciences, he's been in varsity sports but is not planning to play team sports in college maybe casual or intramural sports, likes being active and social. Potential majors would be be poli sci or economics, hobbies are music production and comedy/acting, pretty chill but hard-working and motivated kid. Strong student.

Vassar is not a good environment for men


Well, Vassar is a fine environment for gay men. But it can be isolating for straight, athletic, extroverted men. There just aren't a lot of them at Vassar. Some might not care, but others might have a hard time finding their social cohort.


The 3 recent Vassar male alumni I know are all straight, athletic and outgoing. I’ve never talked to them about how they ended up there, but they all seemed to have a good experience and are all successful nice guys.

The older male Vassar alums I know (we’re talking mid-1980s grads) are introverted and a little unique. I think that stereotype has hung on but isn’t accurate anymore.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2024 13:38     Subject: Any experiences for males at Vassar?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DS is interested in learning more about Vassar but he's a bit worried about the gender ratio - 65 (female) to 35 (male). Does anyone have a DS at Vassar and what has his experience been? Has he been able to fit in? What is Poughkeepsie like to live in?

DS is an extroverted straight male interested in social sciences, he's been in varsity sports but is not planning to play team sports in college maybe casual or intramural sports, likes being active and social. Potential majors would be be poli sci or economics, hobbies are music production and comedy/acting, pretty chill but hard-working and motivated kid. Strong student.

Vassar is not a good environment for men


Well, Vassar is a fine environment for gay men. But it can be isolating for straight, athletic, extroverted men. There just aren't a lot of them at Vassar. Some might not care, but others might have a hard time finding their social cohort.


Do you have personal experience or are you speculating? I am curious about actual experiences. Haverford, recommended upthread, is half the size of Vassar and has a 43/57 gender split (pretty common at LACs), so only 600 male students TOTAL in its campus. Is that enough for a boy to find his social cohort? Vassar, even at 37/63, would have 900 men.

Every time DCUM says an institution is great for gay men, they mean there’s more than 2 in the corner, so therefore they generalize the entire institution as gay. Vassar overwhelmingly has more straight men than gay men. Vassar has more athletic straight men than gay men.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2024 13:37     Subject: Any experiences for males at Vassar?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DS is interested in learning more about Vassar but he's a bit worried about the gender ratio - 65 (female) to 35 (male). Does anyone have a DS at Vassar and what has his experience been? Has he been able to fit in? What is Poughkeepsie like to live in?

DS is an extroverted straight male interested in social sciences, he's been in varsity sports but is not planning to play team sports in college maybe casual or intramural sports, likes being active and social. Potential majors would be be poli sci or economics, hobbies are music production and comedy/acting, pretty chill but hard-working and motivated kid. Strong student.

Vassar is not a good environment for men


Well, Vassar is a fine environment for gay men. But it can be isolating for straight, athletic, extroverted men. There just aren't a lot of them at Vassar. Some might not care, but others might have a hard time finding their social cohort.

No, it is not. This is a homophobic idea that gay men can just constantly exist around straight women without any partners. Gay men date and hookup too, and they need men to do that.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2024 13:36     Subject: Any experiences for males at Vassar?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DS is interested in learning more about Vassar but he's a bit worried about the gender ratio - 65 (female) to 35 (male). Does anyone have a DS at Vassar and what has his experience been? Has he been able to fit in? What is Poughkeepsie like to live in?

DS is an extroverted straight male interested in social sciences, he's been in varsity sports but is not planning to play team sports in college maybe casual or intramural sports, likes being active and social. Potential majors would be be poli sci or economics, hobbies are music production and comedy/acting, pretty chill but hard-working and motivated kid. Strong student.

Vassar is not a good environment for men


Well, Vassar is a fine environment for gay men. But it can be isolating for straight, athletic, extroverted men. There just aren't a lot of them at Vassar. Some might not care, but others might have a hard time finding their social cohort.


Do you have personal experience or are you speculating? I am curious about actual experiences. Haverford, recommended upthread, is half the size of Vassar and has a 43/57 gender split (pretty common at LACs), so only 600 male students TOTAL in its campus. Is that enough for a boy to find his social cohort? Vassar, even at 37/63, would have 900 men.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2024 13:28     Subject: Any experiences for males at Vassar?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DS is interested in learning more about Vassar but he's a bit worried about the gender ratio - 65 (female) to 35 (male). Does anyone have a DS at Vassar and what has his experience been? Has he been able to fit in? What is Poughkeepsie like to live in?

DS is an extroverted straight male interested in social sciences, he's been in varsity sports but is not planning to play team sports in college maybe casual or intramural sports, likes being active and social. Potential majors would be be poli sci or economics, hobbies are music production and comedy/acting, pretty chill but hard-working and motivated kid. Strong student.

Vassar is not a good environment for men


Well, Vassar is a fine environment for gay men. But it can be isolating for straight, athletic, extroverted men. There just aren't a lot of them at Vassar. Some might not care, but others might have a hard time finding their social cohort.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2024 13:21     Subject: Any experiences for males at Vassar?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DS is interested in learning more about Vassar but he's a bit worried about the gender ratio - 65 (female) to 35 (male). Does anyone have a DS at Vassar and what has his experience been? Has he been able to fit in? What is Poughkeepsie like to live in?

DS is an extroverted straight male interested in social sciences, he's been in varsity sports but is not planning to play team sports in college maybe casual or intramural sports, likes being active and social. Potential majors would be be poli sci or economics, hobbies are music production and comedy/acting, pretty chill but hard-working and motivated kid. Strong student.

Why isn’t he looking at CMC, Williams, and Middlebury?

+100
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2024 13:20     Subject: Any experiences for males at Vassar?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why is no one answering OP's question?

Does anyone have a male student at Vassar, and are they happy there?

This is DCUM. What do you think these people actually know about admissions if it isn’t Uva W&M or Georgetown?

Agreed. This trash forum thinks Tulane is basically Emory, Berkeley is trash, and the only good LACs are rural boring ones with nothing to do.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2024 13:19     Subject: Any experiences for males at Vassar?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DS is interested in learning more about Vassar but he's a bit worried about the gender ratio - 65 (female) to 35 (male). Does anyone have a DS at Vassar and what has his experience been? Has he been able to fit in? What is Poughkeepsie like to live in?

DS is an extroverted straight male interested in social sciences, he's been in varsity sports but is not planning to play team sports in college maybe casual or intramural sports, likes being active and social. Potential majors would be be poli sci or economics, hobbies are music production and comedy/acting, pretty chill but hard-working and motivated kid. Strong student.

Why isn’t he looking at CMC, Williams, and Middlebury?


He needs more options! He likes Williams. CMC is tiny (only 320 freshmen admitted) so it's hard to get a spot.
I agree but there’s a long road before vassar. Hamilton, Colby, and Wesleyan for starters. It’d be a massive struggle as a man of any sexuality going to Vassar


Why? Based on what? I have a male student at Wesleyan who was also interested in Vassar, and nothing you say here makes any sense to me…but I also don’t have a kid at Vassar so won’t claim to know what it’s actually like for male students there.

OP, you might try asking this question on College Confidential. I’ve seen some useful discussions of Vassar over there from people with actual personal experience with the school.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2024 13:16     Subject: Any experiences for males at Vassar?
Anonymous wrote:Vassar sounds like a terrible fit for your son. Sure, it's two girls for every guy, but if he thinks that means it'll be like the old Beach Boys song, he's sadly mistaken. A huge percentage of those girls aren't into guys.

He should look at Bucknell instead, especially if he wants to study econ. The student body will be more to his liking -- sporty extroverted, career-oriented -- and the dating scene, despite a more even ratio, will work out much better for him.

The career pipeline at Bucknell is also much stronger than at Vassar. There's no reason for an econ major to even consider the latter over the former. Most Bucknell grads get jobs on The Street right out of college at top salaries. He can be in the high six figures by his mid-20s if he works hard and networks right. The career services office can set him on the right path starting the first semester of his freshman year. Joining a top fraternity as a sophomore (freshmen can't rush at Bucknell) will also help him build lucrative connections.

Bucknell is third rate. The quality schools for Econ have been mentioned.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2024 13:15     Subject: Any experiences for males at Vassar?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Swarthmore FTW!!


Or Haverford. My kid and I both liked Haverford much more.

100% haverford is the chill, cooler brother of Swat
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2024 13:14     Subject: Any experiences for males at Vassar?
Anonymous wrote:Swarthmore FTW!!


Or Haverford. My kid and I both liked Haverford much more.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2024 13:13     Subject: Any experiences for males at Vassar?
Anonymous wrote:Why is no one answering OP's question?

Does anyone have a male student at Vassar, and are they happy there?

This is DCUM. What do you think these people actually know about admissions if it isn’t Uva W&M or Georgetown?
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2024 13:11     Subject: Any experiences for males at Vassar?
Swarthmore FTW!!