Anonymous wrote:Spouses are boring. Birth or adopt a child on your own -- you will never be bored.

--SMC, 49, adopted my daughter at 37 and never missed a beat on the dating scene wanted I to date.

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Anonymous wrote:There seem to be a lot of them in the DC area. They are beautiful, fit, well educated and have great careers. The only thing missing, if they would like, are husbands.

I imagine these women are catches and can date whomever they'd like? But there is definitely a lack of eligible bachelors at that age as most of them are snagged by women by mid twenties.

As a similar thirtysomething considering divorce in a terrible marriage...I am curious. I am still beautiful and am mistaken for late twenties/early thirties a lot.

I don't have any wrinkles or have gained significant weight. I also don't have kids...just wondering how dire my situation is if I still want a great marriage and at least a kid

Men you would like to marry, would probably prefer someone more youthful and not having to worry about infertility battles.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

I'm 47 years old divorced man with 2 kids and I have been surprised by my successes on the dating market as well. However I am still single and I need to figure out why I keep attracting women who want to be married and have children. I have no desire to remarry and have more kids so I'm choosing to remain single.

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine just snagged a divorced man who owns his own company and has hundreds of million in net worth. One kid who is out of college and not very present in his life (she’s happy about this). He is in his early 50s, very fit and active, and is engaging and fun. The “catch” is he is Indian, short, and bald. My friend doesn’t mind - he is spoiling her to the moon and she’s desperate to have kids, and with him she is set financially for life. But I think a lot of American women in this demographic on DCUM may rule him out due to his ethnicity and/or looks. So depends on how picky you are I suppose!

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

You're probably hot. That's all that matters.

If you are a hot woman, you can do whatever you want. If you are not hot, you are up sh*t's creek.

I think the old wisdom of being childless etc etc etc being a turnoff is outdated now that there is just an absolute glut of average (not wealthy) divorced men moreso than hot women. They no longer care about reproducing and having a family, they got that out of the way already. Now they’re ready to rut aimlessly until the day they drop dead like a lifelong bachelor would, except now they have the benefit of having a built-in love/support parachute of the warm bosom of an ex-wife and children.

Except that these 30s women all want babies …..

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

You're probably hot. That's all that matters.

If you are a hot woman, you can do whatever you want. If you are not hot, you are up sh*t's creek.

I think the old wisdom of being childless etc etc etc being a turnoff is outdated now that there is just an absolute glut of average (not wealthy) divorced men moreso than hot women. They no longer care about reproducing and having a family, they got that out of the way already. Now they’re ready to rut aimlessly until the day they drop dead like a lifelong bachelor would, except now they have the benefit of having a built-in love/support parachute of the warm bosom of an ex-wife and children.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

You're probably hot. That's all that matters.

If you are a hot woman, you can do whatever you want. If you are not hot, you are up sh*t's creek.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and recently reentered the dating scene after a 15 year relationship (7 dating, 8 married) and I have two little kids and a big dog. I had zero expectations and anticipated basically no one would be interested in a 35yo mom of 2 when they could have someone a few years younger without kids or a few years older with no kids or older kids.

I cannot even tell you how blown away I have been in the best way by the people I have met so far. I actually almost made a detailed post about it to give people in similar boats hope.

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Anonymous wrote:I was 34 and a lawyer in DC when I got divorced, no kids, and I was amazed by the attention I got but from the wrong people including many married guys. I got fed up with DC and moved back to the mid-west to be closer to family and friends. My sister introduced me to a wonderful guy and at 38 I'm married with a baby. som it can happen!

What to do now do in Midwest? You SAH?

No, still working full time.

Did DC job allow you to work remotely, or you were able to find something? I'm moving, too, in that direction

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine just snagged a divorced man who owns his own company and has hundreds of million in net worth. One kid who is out of college and not very present in his life (she’s happy about this). He is in his early 50s, very fit and active, and is engaging and fun. The “catch” is he is Indian, short, and bald. My friend doesn’t mind - he is spoiling her to the moon and she’s desperate to have kids, and with him she is set financially for life. But I think a lot of American women in this demographic on DCUM may rule him out due to his ethnicity and/or looks. So depends on how picky you are I suppose!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was 34 and a lawyer in DC when I got divorced, no kids, and I was amazed by the attention I got but from the wrong people including many married guys. I got fed up with DC and moved back to the mid-west to be closer to family and friends. My sister introduced me to a wonderful guy and at 38 I'm married with a baby. som it can happen!

What to do now do in Midwest? You SAH?

No, still working full time.